Proverbial double standard- Make fun , pass teasing remarks but take exception

Hi Kala! You see many people when they tease others forget that it could hurt the other person, if s/he is not very sporting or if s/he is less sensitive. However, when they are countered either by equivalent teasing remarks or rebuttal, they feel restless. To defend themselves, they would say that they did it in a lighter vein and had no intention to hurt the other fellow. Back to your question - it is always very easy to pass a pinching or teasing remarks because it is for the other person to tolerate it. However, when such people receive a counter attack, they feel jittery due to lack of forbearance and patience. The person who is in the habit of teasing others should have enough patience to take back the teasing remarks from others. I normally won't tease others. If at all I would do it, I would to in a very light manner and jokingly so as not to hurt that person. If you could recall, I started somewhat a similar post regarding pulling up one's legs on mylot. Those who pull up others' legs, may not be so tolerant to receive the same treatment, in my view.

Kala, I have noticed that most people have double standards ,different set of standards for them and their family and something else for others.Many people do not like it when any kind of direct comment or teasing remarks are made about them or their close family, but they expect others to take it in the "Right " spirit.My close relative is one such person , he is perpetually poking fun at others or cutting others to size ( according to him), but he cuts you off the moment you even make some harmless comment about him....talk about double standards !

Count me in, for all the fun, kalav! I believe...in life, laughter..levity, laughter! I truly do believe...life is good, but better with some fun for the mix. Yup, I agree many can dish it out...can't take it! I avoid character assassination...politics & religion..all else is free game!

Hiya kalav, Outside of this House I hardly ever in fact never now make any teasing remarks except when I am in Family as well. In Family they are quite over sensitive sometimes to teasing as well so most times I only tease with the closest I know like my Husband. If I tease him he does not take offence but I am careful how I tease and what about as well. But you are right People like to tease you but often they don´t like being teased back I have come across those situations a lot in life. Its very rare to find someone who can take the very mildest of teasing now not like before. I was always being teased when I was very small and I had to put up with it as I could not tease them back (grin). I used to be able to tease with the Friends I had in one Class they would tease me and I would tease them a bit too lol. But its very odd to come across someone with a great sense of humour.xxx

One needs to walk on egg shells even here as something said in jest is taken seriously. It depends who says it though. I have seen heavy teasing but it is all taken in its stride depending on whose contribution it is. I have also observed another tendency which is there will be a chain of teasing and suddenly out of nowhere one decides to take it seriously and you know what follows.

oh i never pass on teasing remarks in my real life as i can't take that easily on me.i don't love a lot of teasing.though a bit and once in a while is agreeable but more then this,is unbearable for me.while if you consider my presence in mylot, most often i am in a mood to tease my friends around here.this indeed shows a level of comfort and affection with each other.

I am a little different from most people in this regard. I do not like teasing remarks, PERIOD. I made one the other day, though. A man was going on and on about how he didn't like it when women did this and that and the other thing, so I said, "Well I can see why you are a single man!" Ooooh, he did not like that, but it was true. Any man can find a good woman if he is half decent.