What type of arguments or disagreements do you have with parents or in-laws?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9460)
United States
November 11, 2011 12:26am CST
Today my mom and I had a disagreement. It is very frustrating to me how she acts sometimes. She agreed to watch our daughter one day this weekend for a few hours. Then she asked if it would be ok for her and my brother to stay the night. I told her I would talk with my husband about it and let her know. She then said to me that whatever would work out best for us would be fine. I said alright. I called her back a little bit later and said that it would be best if we just had her watch our daughter for a little bit. Not that we really mind her staying the night. It's just that my husband likes being at home for the weekend. When family stays it's a lot more work involved before and after. There's a lot that has to be done before family comes over like straightening up really good. And then you have to entertain while they are there. Then afterwards there's more cleaning and straightening up. And by the time Monday rolls around we are exhausted. My mom was so upset about it that she hung up on me. It really gets me because she said herself that whatever we decide would be fine. Have you ever had this time of argument with your parent or in laws? What do you disagree with them about?
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@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
Mine is that my sis-in-law doesn't like me. I can since that im a competition to her with her husband who is my bro.
And she can not accept the fact that her husband has an adopted sister
Well i don't care as long as my brother recognize me as his own sister.
Well i don't care as long as my brother recognize me as his own sister. @Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
12 Nov 11
I'm glad that your brother doesn't let this get to him. You are his sister whether you are adopted or biological. Your parents raised you and took care of you because they loved you and wanted to be your parents. And your brother is your brother. It's too bad that your sister in law has a problem with that. Things like that can be difficult perhpas for your brother since he is married to her but I'm sure that he sticks up for your behalf. After all you are his family and he cares for you just like a brother should.
@Danzylop (1122)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
since my resignation from my work, my mom would always ask me how come that it was so easy for me to resign when actually so hard to find a job nowadays. I usually just keep my silence so as not to fuel her anger with me. I am so dependent right as i have no choice.. =((
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
12 Nov 11
I can see both your viewpoints. And I agree that it's probably best not to say anything or she will get highly upset. It is hard when finances are so tight and a person is living pay check to paycheck. I hope that you are able to find another job soon so that you both will be happy.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Nov 11
oh my G if I was your mom I would be in tears too.so she is now one b ig hassel, one pain in the neck. so yes I d o not blame her, she is not a herd of elephants coming to destroy your home. she is the woman who is responsible for you my dear, to exist. Without her y you would be nowhere. and sooner or later she will be called home to God then you just might miss her. shes okay to sit with y our child but not okay to darken your home. I would be hurt too. did you ever turn this around and look at her side of it? I did not have that argument with my mom as I loved her. also my husband would not have been upset with her there overnight. what kind of people do not want a parent in their home at all? odd.yes sometimes I did not agree with her over her spoiling my children but it was not a big
thing. love takes all these things into consideration.
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@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
11 Nov 11
If you look upon her staying that way I would be upset too if I was your mother.
I think your mother is able to entertain herself and also to make a bed herself and clean up that room afterwards as well.
If my daughter is staying at my house or I am at hers we both do exactly the same, so no need to arrange something.
The type of arguments I had with my parents were a complete different level it was about the kind of youth (full of child abuse in every way you can think about or ever dreamed about). We don't have contact anymore.
there are no problems with my parents in law or that family. We accept eachother the way we are and are happy to hear from eachother.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
11 Nov 11
I'm glad that you and your daughter have this type of arrangement. But like I mentioned there is a lot that goes into having her stay for the weekend that mostly my family doesn't want to deal with. Particular my husband when he wants to just enjoy his weekend and not have to be doing a lot of running around, or other things. It wouldn't really be that big of deal because she said that it didn't really matter whatever worked out best for us. So if that was the case she shouldn't have gotten upset about it. But there are many times she gets upset about little things and stays mad for a long time. Now she's saying she doesn't have gas money to watch my daughter, when before it wasn't any problem. But that is how she is at times. I'm sorry to hear that you and your parents had such a bad relationship. Abuse is on a totally different level. It is very sad when children are abused by those who are suppose to take care of them. I'm also glad that you get along well with your in laws. That makes things a lot easier.
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