choose the most important person in your life
By dorothy172
@dorothy172 (984)
Malaysia
February 1, 2012 8:48am CST
i have read an article today, which sound very meaningful, the article is as below:
One day, a lecturer go in the class and tell his student, today i would like to play a game with you guys, any volunteer?
A lady stand up and walk to the front.
The lecturer ask her to write down 20 person which she felt important to her in her life.
The lady then write down 20 person's name on the white board. The person included her parents, her family, her kids, her friends, neighbour and so on.
After that, the lecturer ask her to delete one of the person in the namelist that she wrote.
Firstly, she delete a neighbour's name.
The lecturer then ask her to delete one more.
She delete her college.
The lecturer keep on to ask her to delete one more person.
Finally, the lady delete almost all the person in her namelist, those that now can be found on the board are her parents, husband, and children.
But, the game haven't finish yet. The lecturer ask her to delete one of the three.
At this time, the lady felt a little trouble, because she don't know who should be deleted from the list. After a certain of time, she decide to delete her parents' name.
But, the lecturer still don't want to stop the game, he want the lady to delete one more person in her life.
The lady felt headache enough. She was thinking which one should her delete, husband or children. This time, she took a longer time to consider on it. Finally, she rubbed off her children's name.
Once she did it, she knee down and cried sadness.
The lecturer felt curious and ask her. Why you want to choose your husband at the end? Your parents and your children have blood relation with you, but your husband don't, somemore, you can't guarentee you won't divorce one day in the future, why you choose your husband?
The lady said, my parents will get older one day, and they will leave me first, and my children will grow up one day, and they will get married, so the person that can accompany me in my life only my husband.
if you are the lady, what decision will you make?
7 responses
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
that is a really exciting but also a bit making me giddy.
if I were the lady I wouldn't know who comes to the list because I know many person who is important in my life. yet nobody from it I really mind to leave me.
everything has span, whether it'd be long or short. as long as they are there I hold them precious. but when they leave me, I wont regret it too. that's it.
so If I were the lady. I would write names and if I have to, I'll just erase it.
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 12
of course. we cant get back the time that has already passed. so I treasure every moment and all the people I think is important in my life. and how about you?
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 12
ya, just treasure every moment and all the people that we knew in our life, and we won't regret at the last
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 12
me too. even life is so hard, but i will treasure everything that came across my life :) as what you said, we cant get back the time, so that we should stay happily everyday, dont always memorize those unhappy stuff in our life. if not, we will still feel unhappy if we put too much unhappy stuff in our heart. right? life is short, so we should happy everyday, and enjoy all the moment that we encounter.
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
1 Feb 12
As I read the title of your discussion my first thought was: I don't know.
My next thought was: me. I am the most important person in my life.
After that I read your discussion.
I partly agree with the lady. I would definately not choose my parents, no problem to delete them.
I think my kids would be on that list if I have to make one, but no 20 people I can mention to be honest.
I am not sure if I would keep my husband on the list if only one person should be left over.
I agree parents leave, children leave, it has to be that way.
But I am way too realistic to think that my husband will live forever or stay forever or will take care of me.
So I think in the end it's me on the list again. I wonder how many people think like me.
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 12
20 people really a little bit hard. but i think if we really take this game, at the last normally will same as the story, the people that left in the list must be part of our family member, since family is really important enough to us. anyway, whatever answer we choose, wish that we will have a happy family~~~ cheers..
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
hello Kitty, hello dorothy. I think I would do just the same as Kitty. I love myself and I'm important in my own life.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Feb 12
When I read the title and then the discussion I honestly thought, I don't know. I don't have any children so that isn't going to be the hard part. When I got down to it, i ended up with my brother, my mom and my boyfriend. Im finding it hard to pick just one of those three to be the most important person to me. I agree one day my mom will pass away, and its possible that my boyfriend will leave me. But the one person who will always be there would be my brother. So I guess I would have to say the most important person is my brother.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
2 Feb 12
She has her own reason, and she has already planned out her future. Maybe she is right. Anyway, different people has their own decision to make. I won't say she made a bad decision at the end. We all knew what we want in our future. We all have our vision for our future life. Maybe I would choose the same if I were the lady.
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 12
yes, different people have different view.. if for me, maybe i will try to let off everything (i mean if the choice really very hard to make) and start my life over again. haha.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
1 Feb 12
I guess i dont understand the point of the game i would not play it my list would be small but the people on it would be irriplacable. I will never pick between them because i love them luckilly for her she still has all of those people in her life:)
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 12
haha, maybe my english is quite poor...since this article is wrote in mandarin, and i try to translate it into english to share with foreign country's friends. so sorry that make you confusing of the story that i posted. but everytime when we want to make a choice, we can list it out first and consider well about what decision to be make. maybe we can just like the lady, delete it one by one, and the decision will come out automatically at the end. cheers~~
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 12
you are welcome, just felt that this article is quite meaningful, and felt wonder to share it to friends. if next time we don't know how to make a choice, maybe we can write it down (i mean the benefit and disadvantage) and delete it one by one to get the answer at the end. anyway, next time if i read other good article, i will share it via myLot too...this is really a good site to use
