I am becoming more like my dad everyday!
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
February 3, 2012 7:06pm CST
I used to be hate the thought of it but not anymore. I don't because I have am my father,my mother and myself all wrapped together. I have been realizing I get crabby and angry,sometimes,to the point I don't want to to things or go to places I should. Like today I was in such a mood I called in sick to work! I rarely do this and now I regret doing it! When my nehpew was on leave from the Navy i never made it to see him! I told my family I was sick when I was just in a mood not to drive two hours and spend time with family! My dad did this alot when I was growing up! He would get pissed off make an excuse and not go to,like advents, because of his mood! He almost didn't go to my older brothers wedding! He didn't show up for two of my nephews baptisms! There other times but these stand out. As I get older I feel like I will be acting more like this! Getting older sucks and it gets suckier more by the day! Going to really hate getting older as time goes on! UGH!
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@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
4 Feb 12
Now that you realize that you are getting more like your Dad you can now fix the problem. You still have time to change. As long as we still have breath in our bodies we still have time to change. Don't miss out on family events because someday there might come a time when there are no more family events. That's when you will come to regret all the ones you didn't go to. Worse if something happens to someone in your family where they are no longer w/ you then you will live not only w/ regrets that wont ever go away but you may never be able to forgive yourself for it. Trust me I know. I missed spending so much time w/ my Mom & now she is no longer w/ me. She passed away two years ago & every day I live w/ the regret that I did not spend more time w/ her. I may never be able to forgive myself for that & trust me that's no way for anyone to live. So take my advice, next time your family has a get together, Go!
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@jillhill (37353)
• United States
4 Feb 12
Well I am getting old too..but I don't do what you do....I still go see my family etc. I wouldn't miss anything unless I was really sick......however. My kids don't live very close and going to see them on a plane all the time gets wearing....this last Nov. for the first time I actually took a vacation at home...it was wonderful. But I wouldn't miss seeing ,my kids or grandkids if at all possible.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I ruined one bowling trip back when I was 16? My mom said if I didn't want to go , I could have said no, From that moment on I have said no when I don't want to do things. This way I don't get pi$$ed off.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Feb 12
blue65packer no do not get into that way of thinking. I stopped a long time ago acting like my sour , mean spirited dad who thought everyone was out to con him and trusted nobody. I purposelty made myself act like that. And my mom was so dear and sweet yet she let him walk all over ner. I did not do that with my husband as he and I agreed we were partners and equal partners always.. But her good points I have really taken to my heart and tried to act the same wayl do not let your fathers ways become yours. You are not him you are a separate human being. growingt old does not have to be a nightmare if you decide not to let those old tapes programmed into upoi by your dad keep playing. you know you do not like this so make the changes now .Growing old does not have to suck at all if you decide to make changes in hpw you look at things, and listen to
your conscience always to let it be your guide. YOu are not your
dad at all.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Feb 12
typo I left out a key word, I purposely made myself not act like
that. and I never let my husband walk all over me. sorry for the errors.
@cyclopz (251)
• Sydney, Australia
4 Feb 12
I think it is still up to you if you decide to be like you father because you always have the choice. Maybe there are just time where you just need to set your priorities in life. Like for example, even if i would take more effort going home just to have a little reunion with your family you might still decide to go home because you belive that you don't spend so much time together with them anymore. Thinking of it sometimes makes me feel that i have wasted the time where i could have been together with my family and those wasted time could never be taken back. :|
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
Getting older sucks sometimes. LOL. As i read this i can imagine you being angry or something. It seems to me that you're dad really lost his mood. LOL. Maybe some older people are just like that, but if you don't want to be like him then if you can, try to control yourself when your feeling not in the mood. I hope that you're getting better now. 
