My cousin was just admitted to the nut ward....
By maezee
@maezee (41985)
United States
February 4, 2012 8:23am CST
Rather, mental institution. She is on lock-down and suicide watch! The problem is that I'm being terribly insensitive about the whole thing. But let me explain really quick here what kind of person my cousin is. She is 31. Self-centered. Obsessed with herself. Everywhere she goes she must have male attention. I've gone out drinking with her before, several times, and each and every time she has found some guy to latch on to - who praises her with compliments and attention etc. She feeds off of that. And therefore ditching me in the process, of course. Her mom babies her (and my cousin loves it). If my cousin, for example, calls my 55 year old aunt at 3am saying "I had a nightmare", my aunt will rush to her side in a heartbeat. She just doesn't act like an adult.
Anyway she started 'dating' this 22 year old guy from work. I was a little skeptical at first because he is my age, just about. Anyway, I know age doesn't matter and whatnot - but within the FIRST week, he cheated on her with his ex-girlfriend. That should be an omen right there. Anyway, no, my cousin decides to continue seeing him on and off again. Seriously about every 2-3 days they would 'break up' and then get back together subsequently.
Anyway I'm trying not to make this drag on... Sorry..So a few days ago, He broke up with her "for good" (who even knows what that means). Which sent her into a deep depression supposedly, and she told her mom she had a "plan to end it all". Now she has been committed to a mental institution for who knows how long. And they are suggesting that once she gets out, she moves into a Halfway House.
I don't mean to be insensitive (although I clearly am), but me and my (sane) sister were discussing this and just NOT taking pity over her. I mean, for one, why let this GUY, who you know isn't right for you, and who you have been ON again and OFF again with ALL THE TIME, control your life SO much that you feel like you need to end your life? Over this 22 year old punk, are you kidding? And we also wondered if the whole thing was more for attention, because she is kind of an attention whre... She didn't actually ATTEMPT anything, but she told her mom she was going to do something. Where she probably knows her mom would flip out and take some action.
Anyway, what do you think? Am I being totally insensitive?
4 responses
@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
11 Feb 12
It has been a week I think? How are things going now. Can I suggest? Separate the two things.
They will help her get stable in the (nut house) no, really it may be a hospital? They most likely will do nothing about her relationships, nor talk to her about her life, social life or life in general. They might give her some medication and protect her. That is the first thing.
The second thing is what to do about getting out and having fun without creeping out. That is important too and can only be achieved by friends, family and peers.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
6 Feb 12
First off, I hope that you're right. That this is just for attention. I think she might have upped the ante a little bit too much by getting herself committed to the nut ward, er mental institution.
And I think I know what you mean. If people rushed to her right away after this episode, who knows how she will one-up this more next time.
I just hope that she learns from this though. Like you say, that she doesn't let this guy drive her life this way.
@GemmaR (8517)
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4 Feb 12
I think that you should be a little more sympathetic of anybody who has been sectioned under the mental health act. They would not have accepted her onto the ward if they didn't think that she was going to be a risk to either herself or to others around her, so it looks as though she is going to need help to get through the difficult time that she is going through at the moment. There is so much stigma surrounding mental health issues that it is of vital importance that you are there for her and support her through it all.
@lilblondiemjd (856)
• United States
6 Feb 12
She probably has Borderline Personality Disorder. I do think you're being a tiny bit insensitive, but I understand why you may feel as though her depression is a little uncalled for her. Just imagine being in her shoes though...Constantly feeling like you NEED male attention to validate your self worth...What a horrible position to be in. Be thankful that you're in a healthy mindset, they're more rare than you think.
