I have got a job offer, but my mother does not allow me to do that?
By dandan07
@dandan07 (1906)
China
March 20, 2012 10:09am CST
Today I have an interview and then got a job offer.
As I do not get a job offer before, I am really happy to get one now. But the job position is far from my hometown. So when i called my mother and told her that news, she thought i should refuse the job. She wanted me to find a job near my hometown. I have tried, but good job in my hometown is hard to find. Though living with family can save expense, but the salary is usually half of the one in my hand now.
I am confused. I know living in my hometown is easy and i can take care of my mother at the same time. But without a good salary, i can not do many things i want. If I can not find a job in my hometown soon, my mother also refused to give me any support.
I think my mother in some degree wants to control me and wants me to lead a life in her favorite way.
7 responses
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
21 Mar 12
Control has alot to do with clinging to you. I think you should do as you want and not what your mother wants if she won't give you support any longer if you do not find a job in your hometown, she might just be using that as a control issue but evenstill, you have to live your own life. I think you should explain to her that there aren't any jobs in your hometown and that to force you to find one anyways isn't being relistic.
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@emmanola (482)
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20 Mar 12
You have to know that you can't live with your mother all your life; time will come when you have to go out to live your own life. However, the time has to be right. If you are of age, above twenty years, I feel you may be ripe to "find your own level". Your mother cannot continue to cloth and feed you when you're old enough to be earning a living on your own.
So, carefully consider your options, pray (if you believe in prayer), seek counsel from older and more experience persons who you can trust and make up your mind. One, however, wants to remind you that jobs are not so easy to get nowadays so be careful before throwing away the current chance.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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20 Mar 12
Maybe your mom just wanted to be close to you or is just too worried about you if you work very far from your hometown. I understand your side of seeking for a good job. If the new one is highly compensated net all of the expenses you will incur in rent or fare, food and other allowances then you should make a wise decision to accept the offer. But you mst also ask yourself which one is more important to you, getting a good high earning job or taking a less paying job but being close to your mom? The decision is yours but if I were in your position, I will sacrifice my career just to be with my mom as she is more important than money to me.
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@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Mar 12
hi there, i do not know what is your work ro is it online or not, but if you like it and you can do it, maybe you can convence your mother about it or liten why she do not like it maybe she sees somehting you didnt see, or you see something she did not see
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@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
20 Mar 12
Hi to you. I am in sympathy with you. However, you have to weigh the implications of taking the job offered to you or not, at this time in your young life.
Anyway, you have to calculate the net benefit of the decision that you have to make now. If the net benefit is greater when you take this specific job, when compared to not -while obeying your mother's commands-then take it. If you decide to take this job (after agreeing that the net benefit is greater to you than not to take this job) I think that eventually, your mother and the rest of the family will have to understand and accept your decision; providing your family is rational. Otherwise, obey your mother, and wait to get a job near home.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Mar 12
hi dandan07 I think if your mom is healthy 
and able to care for herself you must take that job as in a lot of ways you might
be more able to help her financially if you are working and
making good wages. she sounds like she is controlling . she
has to let you leave the nest now you are grown.
and able to care for herself you must take that job as in a lot of ways you might
be more able to help her financially if you are working and
making good wages. she sounds like she is controlling . she
has to let you leave the nest now you are grown.