A Fight With My Mother..

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my mother and i recently had a fight. my mother's personality is one that is dominating to anyone. once i tried to just speak for myself about what she said and then she would reply in an offensive and targeting degrading words against me like she is starting a fight. she wouldn't care to listen and would try to turn everything and say some words to me that i am "problematic", "crazy", "abnormal" and all other degrading words and things that even related to the issue of the moment..that i am all these things..like she is competing and comparing herself she doesn't have the problem at all and it's me. she thinks she is always right and have no faults or mistakes whatsoever, that she's the only one who has the right to speak and be heard. she would make you feel ashame and guilty for even speaking up to her because you should be respecting her as a mother. i feel really stressed and distracted about it and this kind of attitude she had, but it's like she is too superior that she is not even affected by how she is and what she has done to me or her child. my father also said just try to understand and respect her because that is really how she is and that maybe i just misunderstood her ways and words but that is really how she is even to my father she wouldn't listen, would tell him to shut up when he tries to correct her or speak for himself...and would throw degrading words against him on my observation..but that is not the issue, the issue is how she wouldn't care to listen and would immediately label me all those degrading words when i would speak up that i just cannot take anymore. what kind of mother is this, instead of validating her child would try to single out herself and like compete and sees herself better than her child or anywhere else? why would i compete with my child, that is my child, i should be upholding her and encouraging her and know that she is an individual too that is unique and needs to be respected.