MySpace Party Destroys Family Home  

1st of all, i'll like to say all this is due to their culture & freedom which the children have. I am an Asian gal & enough confident but can never dare to do such stupidities in the absence of my Parents. Eurpeon Parents 1st give full freedom to their children & do n't tell about limits and when their child do something, they repent.

If i was in place of that home, then # 1, i was n't going to leave my daughter alone at home bcuz i already knew that my daughter wanted to do something like this & i must n't left her alone at home bcuz she can do anything in my absence.
#2, I'll bring up my children in such a way that such day'll never come in my life.
#3, If my child do so, i'll do his/her marriage & will have become carefull next time & will never leave my other child alone due to last bitter expereince.
#4, I'll become a bit strick with rest of child & will always keep on observing that child too so that if he/she did once mistake. He/She may n't repeat it & i'll tell its dis-advantages socially & religionally.

I guess no one can ever say with certainty that something like this will never happen to them. I like to believe that I have raised my children better than to do such a terribly childish thing. So far all three sons have shown maturity and understanding, and when they have had friends here if my husband or I weren't here, the house was always spotless when we returned. They know if it wasn't that they would never again be allowed privileges of having friends here or having a party (though only my eldest son had a party here when he stayed while we went on holiday).

What would I do to my child if something like this happened? Apart from yelling my head off, because who could hold back in such a situation, I would expect my child and the friends involved to clean up the mess - or to pay for it. At very least work to pay it off. And I daresay they could forget any future parties!

My daughters can be pretty awful and inconsiderate at times ..... but I doubt even they would do something like this. The first thing would be that whoever was responsible would be cleaning the mess up and they would be working long hours to do it too ..... they would also be making amends to society as well. There are some contradictions in the story too .... at one point the daughter is claimed to have said that she only expected 30 or 40 people to attend ... then she claims that she did not post the message.

It doesn't say how old she is .... but if she is anything less than 18 the parents should never have left her at home alone ... more so not as it was Easter. Also it doesn't say if there were any other children in the family who were involved.

If it had been my daughters, or step-daughters, then they would have to work very hard to regain my trust .... and it would take a long time too. Seems like this girl did not even make an effort to clean the place before her parents arrived home.

It can happen anywhere or at any time, no matter where the person lives .... disagree with the first respondent. She might live in a society where children are not encouraged to be independent .... but that isn't the way in the majority of countries and cultures in the world.

Asa you can imagine this story is BIG news here in UK. The myspace elements of it show the dangers as well as the benefits of these online 'communities'.
Both my kids have been a handful in their teenage years but nothing to match this!
We went away for a few days last year and for the first time my 17 year old stayed 'home alone' and said there would be no parties etc.
When we got back the place was spotless which should have been a danger signal in itself. She was busted by a single, solitary Budweiser beer cap under the sofa where her eagle eye had missed it!
BUSTED!
She's a good kid really.
I don't know if I could ever forgive the kind of betaryal of trust that happened in this news item with so many personal things being trashed like that.

I think the parents need to realize what their children do online. Second, I think the girl should have contacted her friends via a bulleten that said not to repost it. Second, she probably put her address in the bulleten which is not good. Third, since someone knows that once you post something it can be reposted to other people then she should have known that. Well if she didn't think about it I am sure she is thinking about it now.

As for the people comming I think the girl had a responsibility to reject them if she didn't want them in her house. I would say it is partly her fault. If I were the parents I would be very angry with her :(.

Have a nice day.

Pablo

oh my god..
i honestly don't know what i'd do if this were my child.i'd probably be too angry to think.
"i'm sorry" just doesn't begin to cover it.

if she was over 18,she'd probably be told she's spent her last day in my house.
if under 18,she'd be getting jobs to pay me back-
and her computer taken away.

This is so disgusting1 I think this family will never be the same again. if my kids will do this (Based from how they were reared, they will not do such a barbarous act), it seems they do not treat me as their relatives, or much more as being their parents. I do not want to live with that kid. She'll take the consequence of that action and that includes living alone and earning her living.

Goodness what an adventuresome child, although I have dealt with children having parties in my house while I was away they cleaned it up to the point that I never knew there was one. Now that they are grown and having children of their own they are fessing up to their misdeeds, I heard one time they had a party and had a keg in the middle of my living room (I always wondered where that circle came from) and that my next neighbors came over and partied with them (I will never trust neighbors again), at one point of the story I asked not to be told anything, it seems almost worse to hear about it afterwards as it does when it happened. I feel sorry for these parents.

Well I wouldnt have left my kids alone if I wasnt 500% sure I could trust them...BUT on an off chance that something like that were to happen to me, my kids would get beat bloody for starters....adn they know it (which is why I doubt something like this would ever happen) then I would be looking into legal action of some kind against as many ppl who attended as possible if at all possible and omg my kids would be in traction for a few months THEN I'd deal with them....

Well, I think this is my third time in trying to post to this discussion. I am having problems with myLot loading very slowly today.
I don't think I would be leaving my daughter alone in the house in the first place. And I can see where this would be so much worse than just someone vandalizing your home. I think if it was my child they would be grounded for a long time and they would have to get a job and make payments to me to help defray the cost of the damages. This way they would know that when you do something in this life, there are consequences for your actions. She might not have intended for it to get so out of hand, but it would never have happened if she had not posted it on the internet. So she needs consequences for doing this as a lesson in life.