dinglover

@dinglover (52)

China • Age 50

Joined myLot 15 years ago

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I'm tired of living!

savak03 @savak03 (6684) • United States 9 Dec 09

Many of you know that I moved from South Georgia to Tennessee to live with my daughter. She promoted this because as she said she wanted to 'take care of me.' I had spent 20 plus years taking care of my disabled husband and had...

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dinglover Hi Savak03, I really feel sorry for you. I think you'd move out and just keep an eye on what's going on with your grandchildren. just think about it, how long you can take care of your daughter and her family. if you do, you'll be dragged into her trouble. you...

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Do you think childcare provider can take care as the same way as the mother?

swapnamurthy @swapnamurthy (135) • India 9 Dec 09

The answer is an obvious 'no' which has been cofirmed by studies which reveal that a provider can cater to the physical requirements of the child,but cannot fulfill the emotional needs in the same way as a mother can. Support is...

mother

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dinglover as a mother of a four year old, i absolutely feel that nobody can substitute the role of 'mother'. i really care her more than myself, and i cannot imagine any other one could be as caring and as sensitive as me to my own daughter.

10 Dec 09

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Your failure as a son is my failure as a father ,agreed?

ronnyb @ronnyb (6113) • Jamaica 3 Dec 09

I was watching Gladiator and this what the emperor said to his son translated it means that all parents are responsible for the actions of their children.Do you agree with this statement,I must admit that this statement does have...

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dinglover that's the most impressive line for me when i watched Gladiator. yes, children are influenced by their parents in developing their own character. To some extent, they will copy the way you deal with life challenges, the way you treat others. therefore, after...

3 Dec 09

life

chandra121 @chandra121 (1) 3 Dec 09

hi, life is not a thing to do not a thing to stop not a case to solve not a rapper to through not a ball to miss it all about living it and all about meaning it

life

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dinglover Yes, to live is just to feel, to know, to realize and to experience. the journey means much more than the destination.

3 Dec 09

Which John Grisham book changed your perspective in life?

arystine @arystine (1273) • Philippines 3 Dec 09

For me, several John Grisham books changed my perspective. The first one would be "The Chamber". This novel tackles the issue on the death penalty and Ku Klux Klan. Before, i was pro-death penalty. However, after reading this...

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dinglover i like reading his novel, the way he develop the story. i've read three: THE LAST JURY, THE RUNAWAY JURY and THE PARTNER. Now i am planning to start with THE CLIENT. THE RUNAWAY JURY is a master one,and i spent a whole day on it, reading it in one ago till 2...

3 Dec 09

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Do you feel shamed of earning less money than others?

alexfeile318 @alexfeile318 (60) • China 2 Dec 09

Do you feel shamed of earning less money than others? As far as I am concerned, I do feel shamed of that. My motivation of earning money comes from my friends, relatives, colleges, enve everyone who earns more money than me. I...

money

shame

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dinglover no shamed for that. actually, i know lots of people earning more money, even much more money than me. but i don't envy them. you have to look at the big picture. money is just a resouce, a material to support your life, make you independent. if your salary is...

3 Dec 09

Lovely Bones

olisaur @olisaur (1922) • United States 2 Dec 09

I started reading The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold this week. I did it partly because I saw the previews for the the upcoming movie recently- which look totally stunning, the visual effects and colors really pop. It's a very...

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dinglover i read this novel last year. at first, i felt i was reading a thriller. but later on, i found it totally wrong. it's not about murdering. it's on the subtle interpersonal relationships, the family bond, how people adjust themselves to the past sorrow,forgiving...

3 Dec 09

Is education really necessay in this world?

crystalfealy520 @crystalfealy520 (50) • China 2 Dec 09

In nowadays, education seems to be necessary. Children are forced to study. They work hard in order to find a good job. I worked hard for almost 15 years just for a good job. But after a long tiring study, i just find a just-so-so...

education

necessary

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dinglover the chinese education system does has a large room for improvement, too competitive for the student. but i doubt your schedule seems too tight, from 9am to 6pm, which is terrible not only for the student but also for the teachers, and I don't think it's...

2 Dec 09

What do you do when you have a problem you cannot do anything about?

beaushell @beaushell (339) • Philippines 28 Aug 09

I sleep or do not sleep at all when I have a big problem. I eat a lot or I do not eat at all, it depends. I watch an old movie to entertain me or distract my thoughts from the problem I am facing. I cannot do anything or think of...

prolems

questions and answers

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dinglover i once had a very, very hard time. just right after my first baby was born, my husband had been hospitalized for nearly half a year and at one point, he just escaped the death. Those days were miserable, seemed you could not get out. i feeled hopeless, but...

29 Aug 09

Which lifestyle do you prefer ?

cristine3276 @cristine3276 (893) • Philippines 28 Aug 09

Which lifestyle do you prefer ? To have an 8-hour a day fulltime job with a fixed monthly salary or to be a freelancer with no fixed income ? I used to be a freelancer but recently I got a fulltime school job. But I am not very...

freelancing

fulltime job

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dinglover I prefer to a fulltime job with a fixed salary for the sense of security. in my case, maybe things are a little different from you. i am a teacher, just working 2 days a week to lecture. so, i can use the other 5 days of the week to do whatever i like:...

29 Aug 09

Love affairs??

happyforever @happyforever (191) • China 22 May 09

Hello mylotters, The other day, our English teacher told us something about her family and the poor relationship between her and her husband. In fact, she has thought of divorcing many times, buy for some complicated...

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dinglover not everytime you'll meet the right person at the right time and place, so when you are about marriage age, under various pressures from your parents, friends and society, you may just pick up the so-called suitable person and hurry into such a relationship....

23 May 09

Should a troubled couple stay together just because they have a child together

bunnyhoover @bunnyhoover (406) • United States 22 May 09

A close friend of mine is currently in this situation and he seems troubled most of the time by the way he is treated. He seems to be missing out on many of the main parts of who he is because his partner is so controlling. He's a...

relationships

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dinglover it seems your friend's wife has sychological problem, too possessive.she'd better consult some pro, otherwise, she cannot be a good mother as well as a good wife.

23 May 09

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do you spare a fixed period of time to keep fit everyday?

dinglover @dinglover (52) • China 26 Feb 09

i know keeping fit is important, especially top on the agenda of a 35-year-old person like me. Actually I've made several tries with a perfect plan. But each time just turned out not able to stay with it, which definitely made me...

balance

healthy

keep fit

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dinglover seems you've done a good job, envy you. Thanks for sharing.

27 Feb 09

do you spare a fixed period of time to keep fit everyday?

dinglover @dinglover (52) • China 26 Feb 09

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Old Time Treasures...

twoey68 @twoey68 (13627) • United States 22 Feb 09

Yesterday I went to visit my Mom and happened to catch a section of a movie and I really liked it. The movie was Gone with the Wind and was one of those old movies. Of course I’ve heard of it before but I didn’t think I would like...

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dinglover Gone with the wind is one of my favorite. After I watched it first time, I rushed to buy a copy of the book, and finished my reading within just 2 or 3 days. The four-hour movie is wonderful and very loyal to the book. I like both.

23 Feb 09

What would you do

Grandmaof2 @Grandmaof2 (7579) • Canada 22 Feb 09

What would you do if you were waiting at a line up waiting to go through check out when someone comes and cuts right in front of you? Would you say nothing? Would you tell the person where the end of the line was? I've seen this...

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dinglover If someone just cuts in front of me, I would very calmly, very articulately and without any facial expression ask him back to the end of the line. And if this guy turn a deaf ear to me, I will be vocal enough to shame him, remind him of civility. Actually I...

23 Feb 09

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