jolasu

@jolasu (49)

United States • Age 48

Joined myLot 15 years ago

Jola

www.lifewithjola.blogspot.com

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For how much longer should I tolerate unrequited love?

nuemann @nuemann (332) • United States 27 Feb 09

Am asking all you wonderful lovers and friends alike to know how much longer do I have to keep the tolerance thing up , even when she doesn't seem to care about me anymore. I have been wondering what life would be like if we were...

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jolasu That's your choice. You recongnize it. You admit it and yet you aren't ready to move on all on your own. Why? I don't want to come across rude, but I've been asking myself the same question and it's one only I can answer for myself. Being "outside your box"...

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Erectile dysfunction.

jolasu @jolasu (49) • United States 22 Feb 09

So anyway, my husband has decided that his erectile dysfunction.... yep I've said the forbidden words outloud and ONLINE.... is his issue alone. I'm not allowed to have any feelings. I'm not allowed to actually ask questions or...

erectile dysfunction

wives

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jolasu those are my feelings exactly. No he hasn't seen a doctor and at this point in our "world" he wouldn't based on finances. Previously it just wasn't that important since it only happened sometimes. He won't accept that anyone except him has feelings about this...

22 Feb 09

What is the meaning of your name?

daliaj @daliaj (5674) • India 22 Feb 09

My name is Dalia, it is the name of a beautiful flower. Please share the meaning of your name.

meaning

name

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jolasu my name is simply the first letters of my and my husbands first names. JOel and LAura. JoLa. That simple. No meaning really.

22 Feb 09

Can you be forced to fall out of love?

dismalgrin @dismalgrin (2604) • United States 22 Feb 09

Okay, I've been in love with one man for the past 4 years. We have 2 children together. He comes from a very complicated family background and all that. Well, we went and bought our wedding bands (he bought mine, and I bought his)...

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jolasu No. And I honestly don't think it's fair to ask. It's possible to move on and move forward in life, but to stop caring or loving isn't a fair request or requirement. I can admit to loving in situations where I probably shouldn't, but I really don't care what...

22 Feb 09

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Do you dance?

achinthya @achinthya (1216) • India 22 Feb 09

Dancing is a very good excercise and it relax us too but I cannot dance my body is stiff its really difficult for me and moreover I feel conscious that somebody might be seeing my steps so I usually don't dance used to make some...

competitions

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jolasu I'll dance anywhere. As long as I'm feeling good and enjoying it - who's got the right to judge? Honestly, I held it against my husband, still do actually, that he won't dance with me out of fear of "doing it wrong". Just do it. You can't be wrong.

22 Feb 09

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Erectile dysfunction.

jolasu @jolasu (49) • United States 22 Feb 09

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surfing the internet

sunil_008 @sunil_008 (1269) • India 22 Feb 09

hi all, i have been using net for the past 10 years or so. in the beginning i was using it for study material search and sometimes for fun at that time it was costly.but now it is offering me more than anything else and has...

internet and its uses

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jolasu For the most part the internet is used as a new source and a sanity break for me. I like mylot because it gives me specific questions to think about and helps me escape my day to day life. I first started surfing the internet back about 10 years ago too and it...

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Eggs, I love em!! Can you live without them? I can't!!!

Andrew @AndrewFreyne (6281) • United Kingdom 22 Feb 09

Hi My Lotters, I absolutely love eggs and I just cannot live without them! I have two boiled eggs every morning for breakfast and I guess I've been feeling invincible for a long time now They say eggs are really...

eggs

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jolasu lol - I've never heard of a Game related to eggs, but yes, I love eggs too. Every few days I boil a bunch and put them in the refridgerator for emergency food!

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Should wives of today still submit to their husbands?

cvrajan @cvrajan (354) • India 22 Feb 09

Most of the women of today are emphatic that they are equal partners in a marital relationship. But I doubt very much whether menfolk accept it truly heart of heart. I think men still think that a wife must be submissive to her...

husband wife relationship

submissive wife

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jolasu Though I don't agree with it, I do agree it happens. As a wife I know when I've tried to make myself heard in an arena I wasn't welcome in. Are husbands and wives equal? In a good relationship.. yes. In the relationships I have to base it on - NO. I don't have...

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How long do you talk to someone on the phone?

nabs24 @nabs24 (40) 22 Feb 09

When i talk to someone on the phone, how long i talk to them for usually depends on who they are and what they are to me, For example i will talk to a family member who is around my age and i know well for up to 3 hours while...

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jolasu I've gotten to the point that usually I can't talk on the phone for more than 10 minutes and even that can be a challenge. I used to be able to talk for hours to people I also saw on a regular basis. Today, I'd rather talk in person or not at all. That limits...

22 Feb 09

The way people treat you is a reflection of the way you treat people.

Zhu Huifen @zhuhuifen46 (3483) • China 22 Feb 09

"The way people treat you is a reflection of the way you treat people." - Remez Sasson While struggling in relationship, esp. with your partner or spouse, try to think a bit on our own performance, and do something positive,...

relationship

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jolasu I intend to implement this policy in my life only in reverse. Maybe that's wrong, but I'm sitting here with a foot up on ice and large gashes in it and I guess at the moment I feel differently. I'm sitting here because I did walk away. I chose to not take up...

22 Feb 09

Keep hopeful, and set out for it from your feet.

Zhu Huifen @zhuhuifen46 (3483) • China 22 Feb 09

"The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof." - Barbara Kingsolver At a time...

hope

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jolasu Good words to live by. Unfortunately they seem to be the anti-life to many people. Read my latest blog for an idea of what makes me say that personally. I know that what I hope for is relatively small. I also know that what I hope for is ridiculous in that I...

22 Feb 09

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date a woman

sunil_008 @sunil_008 (1269) • India 21 Feb 09

hi all, i have for sometime now this question is been spinning in my head. would you date a rich ugly woman? would you date a woman who is not so rich but pretty and she has a disabled kid to look after? give some reason why?...

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jolasu I agree with Barbie84. It would totally depend on personality and common interests. No matter how rich or good looking someone is, it wouldn't make up for them being really mean or rude to you or others. So I guess my answer would be yes to either scenario...

22 Feb 09

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what is your zordiac sign?

sunil_008 @sunil_008 (1269) • India 17 Feb 09

hi, do you believe in these? i am sure quite a few people who believes in all the horoscope and zordiac sign things.so what about them which makes you believe or not believing in them? i sometimes believe in them...but only when...

zordiac sign astrology compatible ones

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jolasu I'm an aquarius. I don't really believe in horoscopes, but the description of Aquarians actually does fit me fairly well. I don't make friends easily and do have times where I tend to be a loner. I am philosophical, sometimes to the point it becomes a...

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when was the last time You Did that !

sunil_008 @sunil_008 (1269) • India 17 Feb 09

A good flirt can be spotted from a mile away. always smiling,laughing,intense eye contact and over friendly arm touches...is that you? if so then you are a big flirt... When was the last time you did that?

love romance flirting eye contact mature

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jolasu I generally act flirty on days where I'm fairly light-hearted. To be honest, I don't think I've actually been very flirty in the past few months. Too much stress lately I guess.

18 Feb 09

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is there any club pogo members here at Mylot?

TnWoman @TnWoman (1895) • United States 17 Feb 09

hello everybody here at Mylot. just to let all of my friend's on Club Pogo's website know, for one thing, i am not looking for any handouts, any loans, any anything. lol but, just to let you-all know, my Club Pogo membership...

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jolasu I've been a member on Club Pogo for a couple years and so far haven't let it expire. Before that I was just playing on pogo as a free account, but really got irritated at the wait times between games. Definately will keep my membership as long as finances...

18 Feb 09

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What is the last thing that made you laugh.. .. ..

gemini_rose @gemini_rose (16264) 17 Feb 09

and I mean really laugh, you know the laugh til you wet yourself or the laugh until you cry? For me it was the other week when we had the snow, I had dropped my two boys off at school and was walking home with my daughter who...

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jolasu The last really big laugh until you cry or pee I had was actually while trying to put together our tax stuff to take to the accountant. It's as if they actually WANT to see just how hopeless it is to try to find a profit somewhere in my mess to actually tax....

18 Feb 09

Do you trust your friend with everything or anything?

apples99 @apples99 (6556) • United States 16 Feb 09

For the most part I trust my friends, but I dont know if can truly say that trust my friends with any and everything, because I have known people who has had really close friends that have stabbed them in the back in one way our...

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jolasu I trust my friends with everything that I don't care if the whole world knows about. I do not trust them with things I wouldn't want the whole town to know. As I've learned, just because they're a friend today doesn't mean they won't become an enemy later. I...

17 Feb 09

Church Wedding or Civil Wedding : Does the type of wedding really affects the

Curlann @annierose (18926) • Philippines 17 Feb 09

strength of the relationship between husband and wife? Many people says that it is better to have a church wedding rather than a civil wedding. They said that marriage is blessed once it is a priest who binds two people...

strength of relationship of married couples

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jolasu I honestly don't think it matters who performs the marriage, nor does it matter where it takes place. My husband and I chose to take a long weekend away and have a civil wedding in our vacation cabin. The only people in attendence were the JP, front desk staff...

17 Feb 09

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