When do you allow you daugter to shave her legs?

United States
March 25, 2008 10:13am CST
How old was your daughter when you allowed her to star shaving her legs? i ask this because My almost 9 year old shaved her legs for the first time last night and I was not sure that she was old enough. She is trying to become a young lady so fast. I did not have any issues with it but her father threw a fit. I feel that as long as she is ready for it it is fine. I cannot see stopping her from doing it when she will probably do it anyway. I mean what can it harm. Any opinions?
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@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I don't think age should determine when it's right for a girl to shave. Her general appearance, as well as the environment amongst her peers will be the key. If she feels really self-conscious about her legs then she should feel free to take care of it. We all know that kids can be quite cruel, and although we teach our kids to just be themselves, certain things just need to be done to alleviate the pressure.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
Yes, I agree. It is kinda dumb to stop your kid from doing things that only make them feel better about themselves. It is so hard to keep them babies and no sense in trying to. It makes her feel better about herself and that is what counts.
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@miller1978 (1104)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I let my daughter start shaving at the age of 9. She has very dark skin and black hair so it was unsightly for her to go to school in shorts/skirts/dresses with the hair so thick. She was the one who wanted to do it and I allowed her to. My family was more upset about the fact that I would allow her to shave at such an early age. Appearance is just as important to children as it is to adults because they get teased over the smallest things anymore.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
I do agree with you about kids teasing others so much now days. i mean if that is the worst thing I could have done being a mother than I guess that i am lucky.
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@queenofarms (1665)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I feel a girl used start shaving her legs when the hair is really noticable. Also if this makes her feel uncomfortable then its time. My daughters were around 10 when they started. It sounds like your husband is afraid of her growing up. My husband was the same way. Everything will be fine. And you're right she's going to do it anyways.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
I don't have a daughter, but I remember my mom telling me that I could shave my legs when the hair on them got dark. Well, when I was about 11, the hair on the bottom of my legs got very thick, but not very dark. She let me shave them anyway. She did emphasize that once I start, I would have to continue doing it and it's not fun. I consider 9 to be a young age, but kids grow up fast today. I was considered an "early bloomer" in my day. Most girls didn't start shaving until they were 13 or 14. But, I know today's 9 years olds are more like the 10 or 11 year olds when I was a kid.
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@overhere (515)
• United States
25 Mar 08
It is a shame that children grow into little women so quickly nowadays what happened to childhood. I doubt at 9 I would have known that women shaved their legs (Oh god how old I am. I doubt there is anything you can do to stop her and from a plus point of view it is always good that children are interested in their presentation and hygiene but I guess very quickly on from this will come issues of piercings, make up, objectionable fashions, ooooh I am so happy I am not the mother of a young girl today.
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@pumpkinjam (6926)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 08
I do not have daughters but I do remember when I started shaving my legs. I think I was 12 and the hair was so thick and dark. If I'd have had my way, I would have started shaving them way before that but my mum didn't want me to shave them. It was ok for her, she's never really had any need to shave her legs so I don't think she really understood just how bad it was for a 12 year old girl to have more hair on her legs than a bear! I think girls should do it when they are ready as long as they know what they're doing. If they don't really have any hair then they should be discouraged as it can grow back a lot worse but if any child has legs as hairy as mine were, I would gladly let them start shaving them.
• United States
26 Mar 08
I can't remember what age I was when I was allowed to shave my legs. I know my sister on the other had had to for competitve cheerleading, so I just think when it becomes noticable is when it's a good time to start.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Girls are growing up faster and faster these days and unfortunatley there is not a lot that we as parent an do to stop them. If we tell them NO on issues like this we may be alienating them from social status at school. Lets face it kids can be cruel and I wouldnt want my daughter getting laughed at by the other kids because of something like this. My oldest daughter will be 8 this year. I figured I would let her bring it up when she is ready for it. I remember I was like 9 or 10 when I first started shaving my legs. And Dad's are always mad..lol..there is no getting around that. They dont want their little girls to grow up any faster than we do. But as Women we have a greater understanding of what our girl's are going through. Good Luck :)
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
When she reach the right age where she can control herself shave without hurting herself coz the last thing i want to hear is she scraped her skin and give her a bad scar.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I let my girls when they felt they had to. I remember being 11 and my mom throwing a fit when she caught me shaving my legs. She absolutely forbid it until I was 15. I was so self-concious. It is harmless but the harm to their ego by forbidding it could be irreversable. I say let her. In fact i'd go out and buy her a special razor and lotion. It could be a bonding moment.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
26 Mar 08
my daughter is 13 and I allowed her (requested her) to start shaving her pits 2 years ago because they were creating a b.o. problem even through the deodorant. I have not had her shave her legs, and she is not anxious to start. She does have hairy legs - but for now the hair is fine but once she starts to shaving it will become thick and almost necessitating the habit of shaving on a frequent basis - Neither of us see the need for her to start anytime soon - she wears long skirts so her hairy legs are not much of a visible distraction anyhow.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I think my daughter was about 10 years old also when she began to shave her legs. She could not stand hair on them and I did not see any harm in it either. I was afraid that she may cut herself though. She did fine. I know that children do try to grow up faster these days. I think they will be fine as long as we give them the right guidance with things.
• United States
26 Mar 08
As soon as I hit puberty, my mother knew I had a lot of hair, so she said, "Here is the razor, you know what to do." Seriously, I was so hairy, and adolescent, it only got worse.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Hello! My daughter was also 9 when she started shaving her legs. Her legs very quite hairy and I know she was getting teased in school. A lot of her friends were shaving so I said she could. I bought her a shaving kit and she became extremely happy. Her mood changed and she started wearing shorts again. I don't think its a big deal especially if she feels she is ready. It doesn't hurt anyone and sooner or later she's gotta do it anyway. My husband wasn't pleased either, but I think it was because it made him feel old!