I depend a lot on my neighbours

@mayka123 (16555)
India
July 5, 2008 1:42am CST
Do you? As many of you know from my previous discussions that I live alone with my daughter. So I depend alot on my neighbours. If the tubelight has to be changed. If I need to call a plumber. If I have to shift some furniture in the house. If my daughter is sick at home and needs to be looked after. And luckily I have neighbours who are always ready to help me. They have never complained and if they see me struggling alone for anything they immediately come to help. How are your neighbours?
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
5 Jul 08
Hi dear yeah i have read ur old post and i really appreciate the association u have with ur neighbours, it shows ur relation to them, u r good to them thats why they are good to u as well, its always a mutual things And it seems the area u r living is good one and still have morals and value which are vanishing nowa days. if u r going to mod and new area , i am sure these values will not be their. over their people even dont know who are staying at their neighbours so wish u all the best dear take care
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
5 Jul 08
That is one of the reasons I am not ready to move out of my neighbourhood. Atleast I know I am safe here.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
5 Jul 08
Wise decesion, i must say its not area where u live but the people live around U Take care and enjoy comfort of wonderful people around U
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
We have both good and bad people around. I ignore the bad and am good to the good. Thanks for your reply and take care.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Jul 08
i don't depend on my neighbors but have wonderful neighbors. two of the ladies & i are real close. the same two's husbands have just had a heart attack so right now t'm getting to help them. i like helping people alot. i'm too independant for my own good but if i called & ask them to do something they'd be here in a flash. that's a good feeling to have because i live alone. they are always checking on me & bringing me things & i hope they know how much it means to me.
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
Its good to see that you are looking after your neighbours now. How are they today? In hospital or at home? Will pray for their speedy recovery. Take care and have a nice day.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jul 08
they are both doing better & are home, thanks. the girls were both worn out to. i like to cook so that's about all i can do for them but believe that's come in handy. i like to help people. have a good one & greetings from tennessee.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hope your neighbours and hale and hearty now!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jul 08
My neighbors have never ever spoke to me beyonda head nod and a grunt. so I sure do not depend on them, I depend on me, and 911 and my son, so phooey on them I am 81 sowhat, they could not care less. So I am self sufficient and have to be as I am alone during the day here. I suippose if it were an emergency I could manage to rouse the manager but I would rather not. my friend I can phone and they will care for me but I do dependon myself a lot.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
I too would like to be like you but my daughter is alone most of the time and at night 911 is less reliable than the neighbours. And friends are too far away.
@roshand8 (1478)
• Sri Lanka
6 Jul 08
You truly have wonderful neighbors..well for me the situation is different.I love to treat my neighbors.but in this busy world you know.. everyone seems to be in a race.we hardly have a conversation..
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
Well even we have a very busy time but on a holiday I make time to talk to them. Whenever I go shopping I make it a point to buy something for their kids. That way we are there for each other.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
7 Jul 08
We depend on neighbors, too. We live in an established neighborhood. Most of us have lived here over 30 years. We have keys to their houses, and they have keys to ours. When someone goes on vacation, we pick up their mail and feed their dog or cat, and they return the favor. My husband used to be the neighborhood handyman but is not able to do the actual work anymore. He is still called upon for advice, and certain neighbors call upon me for sewing problems.
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
Since I do not have a male in the house I have to depend on others. So in return I pamper their kids in return.
@siddiqali (632)
• India
5 Jul 08
Yes i also depend on my neighbours very much.If i m not in my house they only bring some products from the supermarket
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
Yes its nice having good and dependable neighbours. I too do their shopping from the supermarket whenever they need to.
@balasri (26537)
• India
4 Aug 08
I have good neighbors.But I hardly seek their help for anything and manage to take care of the things myself.Well it different for different people and I can understand.I am happy that your neighbors are friendly and helpful.Take care and be wary.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your response. Yes I am wary of my neighbours but good to them also because they are there in times of need.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
12 Aug 08
my neighbours are also very good but sometimes they do irritate like coming in the home univited when we might be quite busy or might be preparing to go out for some urgent matter.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
12 Aug 08
I too have the uninvited visits sometimes. In fact just this morning at 6.30 am when I was in a hurry to get ready to work my neighbour rang my bell. But I think I have to tolerate that sometimes.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
12 Aug 08
Lucky you! Even we have very good neighbours. We live in an old neighbourhood where we kinda live like one family. We take care, babysit, we chat, we caress and we are there for each other when and if needed. A lot of these are done by the older generation who live like a community. It's great fun. Even though I am not an active part of it, It feels good to hear stories from my mom who is an active member.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
30 Aug 08
I dont know how I missed responding to this one. I wish I could say I was a good neighbour too. I hardly know who stays in my building. Sometimes when I am on the road with my daughter and someone says hello I ask my daughter who they are. Once it turned out to be our next door neighbour who was staying there for over 8 months. I think I am too much in my own world. I too get the updates about the neighbourhood from my daughter.
• Australia
12 Aug 08
I don't think I have ever had neighbors that nice before. I have had plenty of friends that always are open to help but I ususally have to call. I live now in a very rural area that the nearest neighbor is far enough away that I can't see them so it's so much nicer but I have pleny of family that is able to help. I hope that your daughter is feeling better.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
12 Aug 08
I do not have any relatives staying close by and friends too are not too closby. My daughter is fine now. She had a minor accident last week but is okay and resting at home.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 08
Hi mayka, it’s nice to know that the relationship between you and your neighbor is pretty good. They know you live only with your daughter so they always help you in many aspects. Nowadays the society becomes more and more complicated and it’s not easy to get a good, enthusiastic and helpful neighbor, so cherish the precious relationship. My neighbor is an old couple. Their married daughter lives 350 km or so away in the other state. We also try our best to help them, like to help them to make a call to inform the department when their land phone is out of order or the break down of electric current. If they need a lift I can always give them the help. posting and take care.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
12 Aug 08
I am hardly at home for about 10 hours and in that time I have to finish all my housework as well as sleep. So that hardly gives me much time to interact with the neighbours. I think that is the reason the relationship has remained good.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
12 Aug 08
Neighbours are more than family, for they are the first ones to come to ones aid. Luckily I too h ave good neighbours who are there to help if need be. good neighbours are hard to come by and if we have them, we must cherish them.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
12 Aug 08
Yes I agree that we should cherish our neighbours. After all they are the only ones around when you are in need. Your family will not always be staying near you. Ofcourse there may be some habits that you do not like in your neighbours but I think one should learn to live with that too.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
9 Jul 08
We have two neighbour from either side. I have only one favorite. The other one is selfish and nossy when it comes to personal matters. They are both stay at home moms and the other one likes to gossip so I can take a month before talking or even seeing her. She also likes borrowing everything even a pinch of salt. She does not have a fridge so she used to knock on my door every night with so many food remains for me to keep for in our fridge.......I started avoiding her. The other neighbor is very nice and polite, I sometimes leave my house key with her and she looks after my cat when I have travelled.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
9 Jul 08
Well sometimes you get the rotten with the nice and you have to just ignore the rotten when you cannot throw it out. Good you have atleast one neighbour whom you can depend upon. Thanks for your reply and happy posting.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
9 Jul 08
Yes my friend, am happy I have the good one by my side. She is so helpful. This other one is just lazy she always wants to be helped with everything. Even the husband does not work, they keep fighting. Thank God am moving out in two months. Thanks for posting this discussion it has inspired me to start two discussions. Am off to start them. Just wait and see.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
14 Jul 08
Hey where are you shifting to next?
• United States
14 Jul 08
I used to. I have some great neighbors and when I went through my divorce and was learning how to be single again, they were a Godsend. They'd help me replace locks, screening that ripped, lights that were up high on the side of the bldg, car lights, etc. I never even had to ask. They were just there for me. Now I'm remarried so my husband does all of that, but they are still great neighbors. Sadly, I'd say they are the only neighbors I've ever had be helpful like that. I seem to live in an area where people don't try to get to know their neighbors.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
15 Jul 08
I too have the same problem with some of the families in my building. They just dont bother about the others staying around. I too just ignore them. I am good to the good and ignore the bad.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
7 Jul 08
it is very obvious that when you live alone with your daughter, its good to share good relationship with neighbors.actually we have also good relationship with them. but somehow most neighbours envy us. they think we are from different class,. its sad actually.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
7 Jul 08
Even when my husband was with me I would always maintain a very good relationship with my neighbours because in case of emergency they would be closest to us and they can reach us before family and friends.
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
Hi There, I find I do not depend on my neighbours too much. That is not to say that being dependent on them is a bad thing however. I do know that if i did require them that they would be there. It is just that up to this point I have never really needed their help. I am sure that someday I will. cheers,
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
15 Jul 08
Its good you do not have to be dependent on your neighbours but you should be friends with them and be there for them when the need you. Thanks for your response and happy posting.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
7 Jul 08
i live in townhouse community, and most people here r either retired old people or students. some struggling young families. and not many stay too long. so i end up getting new neighbors from time to time. i am friendly with neighbors and we chat from as we run into one another here and there...but everyone has their own lives..
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
8 Jul 08
Hi, Thanks for your reply. So you make new friends every now and then.
• United States
9 Jul 08
You neighbors sound amazing. My next door neighbors are wonderful too. Whenever we go out of town they watch our indoor dog! Because of them our dog has never had to stay at a kennel and she can stay in her everyday environment. Because they help us with our dog we try to help them whenever they need assistance. When I bake I always share with them (since we always have too much for just the two of us anyway). It is so nice to have that "give and take" with neighbors.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
9 Jul 08
Yes I have amazing neighbours. Whenever they make something special they always share with us. They are pure vegetarians so they do not eat anything that I cook. So I keep pampering their kids with chocolates and cake whenever I go shopping.