What would you do?

@p1kef1sh (45638)
November 1, 2008 6:33am CST
My daughter has just rung (on a friend's cell phone) to tell us that she has lost the cell phone that we got to replace the cell phone that she lost in May! She's away at university and whilst I do not care for the things myself, it is a good way to keep in contact with her, and for her to call us. She calls us at least once a day and we call her very frequently too. I am not very inclined to buy her another, but then I might be cutting off my nose to spite my face. Does she deserve another phone? What are your views please?
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
1 Nov 08
has she tried calling her old number? if so,what happened? if not, why not I mislay my cell all the time and track it with the ring she at least needs to get the number canceled so nobody else can use it.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
It was a prepaid phone and she'd used up all the credit so they're welcome to it Elic. She thinks that she left it at a bar so she's going up there later when they open. Blooming children.
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Not a problem I ever had - no kids. Gee, and these days they wonder why????
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
1 Nov 08
She does not deserve to have another phone but I think you should go ahead and get another one so you may be able to contact her. I hope she is more responsible with this one.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
My thoughts too Steph. I hope that she might show more responsibility with it too.
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• Canada
2 Nov 08
Sorry....forgot to add that with the "Majic Jack" she cannot lose it! It's attached to her computer...lol! Cheers!
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
2 Nov 08
Why can't she support herself? If she is away at University she can do odd jobs to support herself. Mobile phones have gone done in prices. Why don't you ask her to pay for it? She would treasure the value of money and take more care of her things. © ronaldinu 2008
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
2 Nov 08
She has a job to pay her rent. We have bought her a very cheap phone but she has to buy the credit. I know that I'm soft! LOL.
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@bunnybon7 (43287)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Nov 08
omg i sure would not. you sound like my daughter that continuously wastes money on the kids. she cant afford to so she comes back to me for money i hope you can afford it. i wouldnt do it.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I can afford it, that's not the problem. Does she DESERVE it though? Unfortunately if she doesn't have one it is us that suffer as we can't contact her and vice versa. However, I have decided to by her the cheapest phone that I can find and she can buy the credit.
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@elitess (5071)
• Ipswich, England
1 Nov 08
Hi there pike. I know that i am still young and probably not qualified to give parenthood advices but i think that Mike was right about one thing - you should get an inexpensive one for her - i believe that this should teach her to better take care of her things because money don't grow on trees.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I agree and that's what we are going to do. She can buy the credit for it.
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@nannacroc (4049)
1 Nov 08
She doesn't deserve another phone but you do. You know you would worry about her if you couldn't keep in touch. You could buy her a phone and give her the bill for it when she comes home in the holidays and make her pay it,she might be more careful if she's the one out of pocket.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I'd have forgotten about it by then Nanna. She's going to buy the credit and we will buy her the cheapest phone that I can find.
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@GreenMoo (11837)
1 Nov 08
I'd be tempted to buy her a new mobile .... but as her Christmas present. Sounds to me as if some insurance might be in order as well!
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
Good idea, I've told her that she needs some 10p pieces and a phone box!
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@gemini_rose (16192)
1 Nov 08
Kids are great arn't they for how well they look after things? "easy come, easy go". I have one who does not care too much about stuff and if something is lost or broke thinks it is OK Mum will sort it out! If it was my lad I would be quite cross but as you say when they are away from home being in touch with them is important so I would probably buy him another but I would only buy him a cheap one. If he wants a dearer more upmarket one he would have to find the money for it himself. My sister in law got quite a smart little phone from WH Smith the other day for £15 if that is any help, it has nothing fancy on it but it does the job she wants it for.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I thought that I might drop into Tesco later on. The Boss is going up to see her tomorrow and could take it with her. Thanks for the tip about Smith's, I'll look there too.
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@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I had to replace my daughters cell phone at least twice, but the thing is we are prepaid and her cells amounted to 50 dollars, very basic, and well she took care of the last one, but her battery was acting up and I spent 30 bucks to replace (again very basic) So, In your shoes I would replaced it, And stop doing so when she finishes college.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
4 Nov 08
I bought her a $35 prepay phone and she must buy the credit. Let's hope that this one lasts the course!
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@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
5 Nov 08
This could be good advice for next time: Get her a virgin mobile, in prepaid she would not have to pay extras, or roaming charges, she can view some add and get free minutes. (I have earn something like 700) and there is a thing for facebook where friends and family can earn her free minutes too. Good luck this time.
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@rvangeld (334)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I personally do not believe she deserves another phone. I f she is a college student, she should be adult enough to keep a phone and be able to pay for it herself. I am a college studen working part time, and I am able to pay for a phone and a new car, along with other bills, so she should be able to pay for her own phone.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
3 Nov 08
I agree with you in principle. She works too and earns about $900 a month. From that she pays $720 in rent and the balance on utilities and food. Whilst I am annoyed about her carelessness she doesn't go out very much and works hard. We like to be able to talk to her so we have succumbed and bought her a $35 prepay phone. She will buy the credit.
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@rvangeld (334)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I am glad that it worked out for you in that way.
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@pumpkinjam (6879)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 08
If she has lost two within 6 months then that doesn't seem like good odds for getting her another one. Maybe you could tell her to buy her own, then she might look after it a bit better! Surely there are proper telephones at university on which she can call you. Maybe getting her one of those payphone card thingies would cost you less than replacing her mobile every 6 months. If there were no other way of keeping in touch then I would say to get her another one but there are lots of means of communication. You have a computer and internet and I don't doubt that there is internet which she can also use. So I don't think you should get her a new phone. Not immediately at least. Let her see how she feels without one. If she finds it a pain in the behind then she might take more care of a new one. I would also like to mention that my son had a phone for his 7th birthday. He is now almost 9 and the phone is still here, in tact, working, etc. and he is always losing things (usually underneath the clothes he doesn't put away admittedly!) so I don't think your daughter should have a new mobile unless she buys it herself.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
2 Nov 08
My thoughts exactly so can you explain why we bought her a cheap one at Tescos yesterday? I know that we are soft. She has to buy her own credit though.
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• United Kingdom
2 Nov 08
You have answered your own question. You are soft. Maybe you could tell her that if she manages not to lose this one andkeeps it for two years then she can have a better one for her 21st!
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
4 Nov 08
Hi p1kef1sh, My first question is how upset is she about this? It is understandable that you want to be able to keep in contact with her, but she does have to be responsible. I would probably buy her another, but only after a discussion about about it. Blessings.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
4 Nov 08
She was very upset, especially about the first one. However, we bought her a very cheap prepay phone and she must buy the credit. If she loses this one then I am afraid that's it from my wallet!
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@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
3 Nov 08
Hello p1kef1sh, I would encourage you to buy her another one. Communication is very important and I can see were she can lost a cell very easily seeing that I lost 5 in two months when I was working downtown. The workers steal them . Just buy her one that is less expensive because those don't draw attention.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
3 Nov 08
That's what w did Kerri. I bought her the cheapest one in the store!
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• Canada
3 Nov 08
This is a difficult one!! You need to be able to trust her....She needs to prove that she can take care of and keep track of her stuff! If I did get her another one I would get her the cheapest phone possible but I seriously don't know if I would buy another one...I think I might make her buy the next one out of her own money!!! ~Heavens~
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
3 Nov 08
We bought her the cheapest one in the store and she has o buy her own credit. Her mother delivered it to her yesterday when they met for lunch and she knows that she's on her own with it now!
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• Bahrain
2 Nov 08
How about you get her a really outdated one, something that she can only use for phone calls and nothing else, and tell her that if that phone stays with her for a certain period of time (set by you ofcourse.. I might say a year but that's a bit too harsh :P) you will get her a new and better phone. This way she should learn to be more responsible with her belongings, and if she loses this one too tell her to buy the next one with her own money, because it just can't be simply coincidence anymore that she's losing her phone(s) that many times! That's just ridiculous. She's either doing somtin to em or someone is stealing them off of her O.o
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
2 Nov 08
I bought her a very basic and cheap phone that does nothing but texts and makes calls. She has to buy her own credit. They are genuinely lost. She just needs to take more care.
@dragon54u (31644)
• United States
1 Nov 08
No, don't get her another phone just yet. Let her spend a couple of months without one. I know you will suffer, too, but she needs to take things seriously. Make her buy her own otherwise.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I like your thinking and I am tempted and I have thought about leaving it until Christmas. However.................
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Nov 08
hi pikey I am moving today but am on here for a couple of hours, things are in a turmoil but apparently its all going to work out, only thing i can say now is its good my hair is already grey or it would have turned snow white by now from stress, enough crying on your shoulder . ah Pikey she's your little girl, be a nice daddy and buy her one more cell phone, then tell her thats it, she looses this one, shes gonna have to buy it herself. As old as I am I do remember my first year in college and being away from home, I was just a farm girl, much too shy, and did I ever miss my parents.She deserves one more chance, and shes probably a lot more self possessed than I w as at that age. I did go back a nd finished Univeristy so I could get my BA and I was 56! that was sort of hard but I did do it. When I was twenty I was a little idiot and dropped out in my sophmore year, then worked til I qas 31, got married and had two kids in 11 months so took ages before I felt I could go back and g et that degree lol
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I am so pleased to hear that things are working out Hatley. Just you take care and don't overdo it! I will buy her cheap phone, but she can buy her own credit for it. You are quite inspirational. Back to college at 56. Wow, I am impressed. Bon voyage.
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• India
1 Nov 08
LOL!! I guess it depends on the age of the daughter and what her father feels about financing a new mobile phone for her. :) If the father feels the daughter is old enough to somehow finance her own mobile phone, then he doesn't need to buy her another phone to replace the one she lost. However, if this is a doting father, then it is a different story. :) Cheers and happy mylotting
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I dote, but not that much. I'll buy her the phone and she can buy the credit.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
1 Nov 08
Well P1ke I am a big Softie so I would buy her new one, I mean strange enough my Daughter went through a Phase like that a couple of years ago But yes I would buy her another because I am soft beggar when it comes to my Children lol
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
1 Nov 08
I'm a softy too. act tough, but then and go and do quite the opposite. LOL. Thanks Gabs.
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@KATRINKA (1658)
• United States
12 Nov 08
My first reaction was to say not to replace it. This is the second phone she lost. She needs to learn to be more responsible. But recently I had a talk with a mother who has a daughter away at college. She said it is essential for her daughter to have a cell phone, because in cases of emergencies, like the Virginia Tech shootings, her college relies on sending emergency text messages to alert students. Maybe it's essential for your daughter to have a cell phone. Maybe she needs to replace it herself, instead of having mommy and daddy shelling out the money. Or if she has no money, like many college students, ask her to do something in exchange for the cell phone.
@KATRINKA (1658)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Glad you worked it out. Sounds like you came to a happy medium.