Your body is disgusting!

@Sheepie (3112)
United States
November 16, 2008 8:46pm CST
You know what I really hate? When people make judgments about other people's weight. I don't just mean, "Yeah, that's right, stop making fun of the fat people." Because that's really the first thing that comes into anyone's mind. Why should we criticize anyone's weight, whether they're too skinny OR too large? What seems to go on is when someone says "Look at that girl! She's so heavy! Ew!" Then someone else might say "She's not gross! She's great the way she is! It's the stick-thin one next to her that's ugly! She has no curves!" What, are heavy people the tortured souls of the world, and the skinny ones are stuck up and have no feelings, so we should make the large ones feel better by saying the ones without voluptuary curves are disgusting. People always assume that if you're skinny, underweight especially, that you're anorexic or bulimic or eat nothing but carrot sticks! I only weigh 80 pounds! This kid once told me I was anorexic, and a few days later I stood up for him when he was bullied. I'm not really good at revenge, am I? I just don't have a huge appetite! Food doesn't really interest me, and I wonder how I'm supposed to have the required 2500 calories or so that a website told me I need to gain weight. I just don't get hungry very much! You know what, I think I look just fine. I think I look absolutely wonderful, and I think I'm a great person. I think I would look wonderful if I weighed 10 pounds more, 30, 50, 100 more! Just because you eat too much or too little, should you just not be loved? [The discussion subject title is not directed at anyone, I'm just being dramatic.]
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@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I have great come back for people who pass comments like that. I tell them you are rude and nasty I can gain/lose weight but you will always be rude/nasty. Or if they have a fault like being bald,ugly, or whatever. They do not like it when it is turned around on them.
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Well, of course, I would probably make it way more complicated, though I would do that, unless there was a high chance of getting beaten numb! I would say something like "Your psychological problems with self-esteem and self-value are so damaged, there is really nothing you can eat or do to change that. Plus, a few meals at McDonald's are much cheaper than a psychiatrist, nevertheless a psychiatrist who would take billions of dollars to take an imbecile like you as a patient!"
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
17 Nov 08
I dont make fun of peoples weight or anyhting, but if a friend is complaining about how fat she is and how she wants to lose weight, while stuffing her face with mcdonalds, I will be a little grossed out. I find if your rediculously overweight for no reason, not health related or anyhting, you should atleast take better care of yourself, not necessarily losing a ton of weight, but go walking or something. Ive had alot of family members take heart attacks becuase they ate badly and wouldnt excercice. But yah all in all im not usually grossed out about weight, but I also dont want to listen to someone complain about their weight but yet stuff their faces, or starve themselvces when they could deffinately be doing other things to help themselvces out.
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• Canada
17 Nov 08
I totally agree with you YoungInLove! I am also not judgemental on other people's weight. I have been on both sides. Im 5 foot 1, normally 115 pounds. But after having my second son I went up to 199 pounds!!! Which is really bad for my size and it shows a lot more on smaller people. I just find that nowadays there are only two sizes of people...too big and too small. There seems to be a small percentage of happy mediums. If you are happy with the way you look...all the power to you. If not...change it. Dont judge unless you've walked a mile in their shoes.
@pumpkinjam (8451)
• United Kingdom
17 Nov 08
Firstly, while I am sure you realise this, I would like to point out that body weight is not always down to just eating too much or too little. I know some nice people and some not so nice people. I, to be honest, don't pay all that much attention to weight. Of course if someone is very big or very small then anyone who said they didn't notice would be lying! The only time I would make a judgement about anyone's size would be if it was making them ill because it is possible to be too skinny as well as too fat. I am overweight but I look ok. I just hide the flabby bits! There are some things that aren't nice to see and they include other people showing really flabby flesh as well as people showing skin where the bones look like they are trying to escape! I'm not judging the people by this, it's just something I personally don't want to see. If you're confident and healthy the way you are then don't let anyone but you judge you for the way you look. There is a person underneat every body. Some are good, some are not but the size and shape doesn't mean anything.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
21 Dec 08
I don't judge people by their weight so I don't care if a women is bony or curvy. I find it stupid that people pass judgments about appearance, some of us are fat, others too think some tall and some short. We have to accept the way we ware. HAPPY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR. © ronaldinu 2008
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Thank you for your drama! I too am so tired of the stigmas that go with being really small or slender to being really bigger. I am a bigger person. I am a loving, kind, generous, and very mindful person. To know me is to love me. Get to know a person what who they are not what they look like. I hardly ever eat. I eat one meal a day and have done this for years. But anyone to look at me would say I over eat. That is far from the truth. I barely have 1000 calories a day, and most times not even that or even near it. I found that along with the medicines causing me to gain weight and keeping it on me, that I don't eat enough. I tried all of the diets, trust me I lost a few pounds and then gained that back and more when off of the diets. It's been a roller coaster for me. I have to have the medicine but it puts weight on me or causes me to gain weight. I started eating right, well trying to. I eat a lot more fruit and things I should everyday now. I try to make sure I eat once a day and what is good for me. I don't eat junk or anything anyone thinks is junk food. So saying I am big because I eat too much is totally bogus. People need to look at the person and who they are, what's in their hearts and the bright minds they have. You'll get more of a friend if you do this than judging people and not really knowing them.
• United States
18 Nov 08
Oh no dear, I wasn't meaning you at all. I like you was just venting to others. I did mean it in a good way to thank you for your drama. I meant that I liked that you brought this subject to light and was mentioning it to people as a reminder not to do that to others. I sincerely, mean it when I say, "I apologize for the misunderstanding".
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Well, I'm sorry if I made it seem like that, but I'm not going to judge people who are heavy whether they got that way from overeating, oversleeping, being on medicine, or just being careless. That wasn't really the point I was trying to make. I hope you read at least most of my discussion topic, because I wasn't trying to imply that at all.
@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
17 Nov 08
People should like you no matter what you look like skinny or over weight it's dose not matter it is the person them selfs. cd
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@balasri (26537)
• India
17 Nov 08
Personally I think that a person must have a big heart regardless of his size.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
17 Nov 08
That si they way I feel about my body. I have gained a few pounds and had a child and I hate the way my body looks right now. My husband says I am not fat but I feel otherwise.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I have never really been one to judge a person on weight. And that goes for either end of the scale. If you are comfortable in your own skin, good for you. That's what counts. That and how you treat others. Love shouldn't have anything to do with your weight.
@hunandi (288)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Boy I know what you mean word for word. I wiegh about 105 pounds always have give or take 5 pounds. I get picked on all the time by people who do not like the way I like. Its like this I am who I am I am not puting my self in any danger by the way I live. I actly eat pretty dang good. And now I'm a busy mom of three and now much has changed . It seems I get picked onmore now then before people want to know what I did to lose all my baby wieght so quick I get really big when Im pregnant. I tell them the simple truth. I dont do anything much different but play with a new baby . I dont diet I dont really work out unless you count chasen kids all day long. I'm just me and the rest of the world will just have to deal wih it.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
18 Nov 08
I quite agree with you. People should not be judged by their weight but they do need to be careful if it affects their health. It can be a case of eating too much or too little but some people are just built that way and sometimes there is nothing they can do about their condition. People should be seen as their personality and if they were then a lot of pretty girls would be judged to be mean and vain and a lot of people who are judged as too think or too fat would be seen as the lovely people they are. The thing is there are lots of people who do see the inner person and not the shell and they are people worth knowing. The ones who judge us just by our shell are usually shallow people who are not worth knowing.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I love this discussion. I don't understand this either. I am basically a genetically thin person, I always have been. Granted since I've gotten older, I do have to exercise and be a little more careful but I do those things anyway for the sake of being healthy. When I was a kid, people were downright nasty. I am also short, so I had the double whammy of basically just being tiny. I was usually the shortest person in my class. I have small feet. My mom had to alter my clothes ie hem everything or take it in. When I got older I didn't grow very much taller, and I only got to 5'1. In high school I was accused of being anorexic. I'm not sure WHY, I ate like a horse, including plenty of junk. I never broke 100 lbs until I finally got pregnant with my daughter when I was 28! I don't think I should be put up on a pedestal OR called disgusting either way. I am who I am, and I did finally accept I would never be 5'8, that no matter what I do I am not going to have double Ds, and there is nothing wrong with being a small person as long as I am healthy. That is a healthy behavior by the way, eating when you're hungry, stopping when you're full. There is no reason to stuff yourself. I think that I am also loveable no matter what, but I have a great husband and I love myself, so it's a lot easier for me to say this now than it was when I was 14 and having to deal with being made fun of because I was a stick.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I do agree with you that no one has the right to judge other people because of their body type but if you keep on thinking what other people will say then you might just go crazy because you can't please all people. I think what you need is confidence on yourself. If people will see that you are happy on your body, then for sure they won't say anything against it.
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
18 Nov 08
I agree, Sheepie. I've often thought life would be nicer for everyone if human beings didn't have any eyes. That way, we'd get to know people for their actions, and not because of the first impression we got when we met them. It's very sad the human race in general is so shallow. Blindness would fix that, and good, decent people would have lots of friends while mean, cruel, lying people would get their just desserts. Lots of people get by on their looks - but this way, they wouldn't have that luxury any longer and would have to develop nice manners and personality like the rest of us!
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
You are very right about that. I guess there are just people who are so judgemental about other people's sizes.
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
17 Nov 08
You know what is interesting to me.... is seeing both sides first hand. I used to be fat... but i lost 110lbs! now i am skinny and i get told all the time now that i am getting too skinny and all this stuff.. it's so weird to me though because i am not used too it and to see how much different people act towards you...i still am the way i was when i was big and i still act the same.. i still have that fear in my head like some big people do... like when you go to get food or something and you get those looks... i still feel that way inside even though i am no longer big... it is really weird... i'll be looking around waiting to catch someone giving me dirty looks for being big but i don't see them anymore... its wonderful. i don't judge people though and i don't think we should or that anyone has the right too. we all are the same... and we are all here with this one life to live and no one is meant to be the same.. we are all different and if we weren't then we would have one boring world.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
17 Nov 08
While I would agree that many skinny women are not all that thrilling, there are some that are. But, the same goes for the other end of things, some not so skinny women are just delightful while others not. It's all in how they consider themselves. If you think you are a stick, you're a stick! If you think you are gross, you are. There's just no accounting for a persons tastes, so why make a big deal out of something like weight? People always tell me I am anorexic, or a junkie because I am so thin. I just laugh at them
17 Nov 08
Hi Sheepie, I am two stones over weight and I am short, if I was taller I would be the right weight my husband says I'm fat but no one really say anything as they are used to seeing me the way I am beside all my friends are mature so as you get older everything goes, I am not unsightly though. Tamara
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
i was really thin when i was on my gradeschool, especially that im advance hwne i get to school than my classmates, so i was the little girl in our class and they would always say im malnourished or something, things like that, that in my early age it really hurts me, but now its just ok with me, i really dont care anymore, i gain more weight now, and the only thing that i would say is that now my brothers are teasing me im fat, but i know its just purely teasing moment just for fun, anyways my boyfriend says im not,lol!!
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
I really hated people that acted like god take more time to create them. I am a big woman and I am not ashamed of it. I had some people that said I will not get married because of my body and some even turn me down because of it but I proved them wrong, Now I am happily married for 5 years with a cute 2 year old boys. It felt really good when we prove someone wrong. I even get her to constantly complementing my child for having fair skin and bright. At the age of two, my boy can count correctly from one to ten in my language and english. Serves her right.