Crazy Neighbor!!

These neighbors are just trouble makers , they have found out that they can torment this woman and they are enjoying it,however her trying to get you involved is bad...I would just tell her to buck up & ignore them,after all she is just getting herself all worked up and as long as they can keep her that way they will just keep on....If she could act as though it does not bother her , maybe they will quit..There is really nothing you can do about it..Anything you would do would only make matters worse...I really don't know what to tell you..I do remember when they shot your cat, and you did right to confront them....Good luck..

I would definately stay out of it. I would just tell her you don't know what to do and maybe she should talk to the police or something.Then she could drive them crazy.Unless it was something directly effecting you(like the cat).It's sad they tease her and that she has medical problems but this in my opinion would be alot of trouble and worry for you if you got involved.

Do not answer your door or phone when she calls. I would guess that not many people call that late at night. Or I would tell her not to come so late because I need to go to bed early. That will keep her from coming so late. Then when she does come make excuses at you are to busy to let her in the house or you are to busy to talk to her. You can also say you have a migraine and need your rest. Good luck to you.

The nice thing about my husband, he has to go to work really, really early in the AM. So his rule is, "No phone calls, no people, nothing after 9PM." He works assembling subway cars and he works really, really hard. If he doesn't drink Gatorade or something with electrolyte replacements, his blood pressure gets too low. He tells people, "Unless it's an emergency, leave us alone." So we don't have that problem. Set your limits, but allow for an emergency and define it if you have to. We turn the ringer off at night, but the light will flash if there is a call and we won't open the door unless someone says their car has broken down and we only open it enough to hand them a phone (it's sub-zero to 20 degrees lately, so you have to let them call to get their car moved). So in the last 10 years, we've had two phone calls after 9 and 1 knock on the door after 9. Really dear, it's too dangerous to answer the phone after a certain time. Also, just don't answer the phone. Take care.

At least your neighbours acknowledge you exist. Ours seem to think our backyard is a highway for anyone to use, especially the kids, and there are people strolling past us all the time as though it is the most natural thing in the world to be invading someone else's person space. And I'm talking about with us being outside! Maybe it is time to find the grumpy you and tell her that enough is enough and that there are people who get paid for listening to her complaints. Can't think of anything else that is going to work.

If he is being cruel to animals, report him! That will be the beginning. Report him the police AND animal protection agency. I am a bit confused. Is the woman yelling at the neighbors? Anyway, tell her that you will be happy to talk to her but there are limitations. If you want, write it in a nice letter. Also, write the other idiot a letter, too, that you would like more calm in the neighborhood but will do what it takes to make the neighborhood a nice place to live. I am not one to sit back for long and take it so that is what I would do.

shes nice to you in other ways,you cant have it all .try to wink at her foolishness(to a certain degree)and if it crosses ones tolerance limit,i think you have to be frank with her.

Can you call the cops on them for anything? Noise complaint? The police are not supposed to tell who called it in, so they wouldn't know it was you.

[b]Have you forgotten prayer? And no, I'm not kidding. You know as well as I that's the first & best remedy for all problems! Tell me (when you come over) who the woman is. Just curious. Maggiepie[/b]

Hi Elic, When she comes round again, tell her you are busy on the computer and can't stop or better still don't open the door to her, some people just can't take no for an answer or say you are just going for a bath and can't and haven't time to chat. Tamara

That's so crazy! I think you have to talk to her. I understand that you don't want to offend her, but she shouldn't be getting you involved. You should talk to her, give her some advice about trying to ignore them, and then tell her that you would prefer that she leave you out of it. I completely understand about being too nice to say something, as I have had the same problem in some situations. However, it sounds like she is really crossing a line and I would have to say something.

I had a similar problem some years back. Always there she was borrowing tea or something, then bringing all her trouble that she had caused to my door and then staying up all night drinking and screaming with awful noise of banging doors and people up and down stairs. At first I always invited her in and gave her what she needed, never got anything back tho as you would expect. I would call the police if she had guest that were trying to force their way in! But eventually even the police got borred of it and took longer and longer to turn up. My patience drew short and i started to not invite her in and any conversation we had i would use closed sentences never anything that might look like im taking an interest. I tottaly lost it one night as she called to say their was something wrong with her juice. (She had been drinking). I looked at the drink and explained that she simply hadn't diluted it yet! but she knocked several times that night and i just ended up screaming "Add some *&*!ing water to it" whilst slamming my door. I carried on not inviting her in ect but she didn't stop coming. Soon i stopped answering unless she had seen me at the window. I gave everyone else a code knock so that i didn't miss friends knocks. Eventually she left me alone and plaqued another unlucky neighbour. Eventually we moved and i am told she still carrys on the same and the new neighbours have many a sleepless night. Some people just have no manners and nothing we can do will ever change that. We just have to be polite and put up with them or move!