Have you ever felt like everyone was ignoring you?

United States
May 2, 2009 6:42pm CST
When I was a kid, I was constantly being ignored by other kids. They had their own clicks and circles and apparently, I didn't fit in. And, that made me want to fit in even more. Sometimes, I'd walk up to a group of girls and start talking and they would totally ignore me as if I did not exist. Very rude! But also, hurtful. I don't get that reaction much these days. I'm a little louder, so it's hard to miss me. Do you ever get the feeling that people are ignoring you? What do you do when you feel like you are being ignored?
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41 responses
• United States
3 May 09
yea,once in awhile.but i don't let it bother me. i've noticed some people get in their moods every now and then,and to be honest,i don't have the time to worry about what their problem is anymore.if they wanna talk later,they know where i am.
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• United States
3 May 09
Never thought of it that way before. It is their problem, not mine. Good logic.
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@snivelbec (135)
• United States
3 May 09
Oh, yes! I'm 5'2" and (I guess) somewhat nondescript-looking. Plus I tend to be more of an observer and fairly quiet (but definitely not shy or timid)...I ALWAYS get ignored - don't you love the feeling when someone looks right through you and doesn't even notice? Or worse - when someone meets your eye then moves directly on...as though noticing you but also realizing immediately that you're not really worth the bother! :) Funny story (or sad but true story): I had been going to the same church, same time, same service, for about two years. I was a semi-acquaintance with one of the lady 'movers and shakers' there and would periodically run into her and say hi. Then one day I wore a red sweater to church. That same gal noticed me ('cause of the sweater, no doubt) and asked where I'd been since she hadn't seen me in months and months. I had just said hello to her the previous week!! Well, as I said, I'm quiet and it's funny how people assume that quiet=shy or quiet=easily manipulated or quiet=not very bright. Fortunately, I'm 47 and have never really cared all that much what people think of me. If I feel I'm being ignored and it's cause I'm quiet and I don't feel it's intentional, well, I'm okay with that. If I feel I'm being ignored intentionally and rudely, then I have no problem raising a stink. I might be little but I come with a BIG mouth when I want it. Plus a set of brass b--ls when I need them. Overall, however, I don't get worked up about it much. As far as what happened when you were younger...that's just girls being the little witches that girls can be sometimes. The only thing you can do is hope they're all fat and unhappily married (that, by the way, is just a joke):)
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@GardenGerty (157327)
• United States
3 May 09
Most of the people I have known who were short were also mighty in one way or another. Have to stand up for your place in the world. I was always told to "keep your mouth shut and smile a lot, and people will wonder what you've been up to." I used that principle throughout a very intimidating high school career. It worked really well. Fake it till you make it.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
2 May 09
That happened a lot to me as well in school. I stayed to myself a lot when I was in school. Now I talk a lot more then I did back then. I hate people that acted or thought that they were better then me.
• United States
3 May 09
The other girls just had a superiority complex. Really noone is better than anyone else. I think that kind of superior behavior is just spawned by internal feelings of worthlessness, most likely picked up in their home. Same reason bullies push other people around; they feel inferior. In this case, the girls were just using the silent treatment as bullying. It's OK! I'm past it. I have many new friends now. And, they all hear me. As always, thanks for your comments.
• United States
3 May 09
I had the same problem with kids ignoring me when I was younger. They all had their own cliques with their own rules and their own idea of outcasts and I was frequently on the outcast end of the cliques. I just kind of found people to talk to and went about my way. Now I still feel like I'm being ignored. Everyone ignores me. Friends still do it. I can be talking to them and they'll get distracted and look all around the room and pay attention to everything but me when I'm talking so I don't talk. My family tends to do it too. That's why I don't repeat myself when I'm talking to people. I can quite clearly see I'm being ignored so I figure, what's the point in talking and repeating myself if they didn't care much the first time.
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@enciel (368)
• Philippines
4 May 09
i think this happens to everyone once in a while and i have experienced it too. When that thing happens i just keep myself busy, like if i am in a gathering i just go and eat stuff or probably go with my friends and just talk to them. I think it's very rude to ignore others and people who have experienced being ignored knows very well how hurtful it is so in my case i hear out everyone's responses most of the time.
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
4 May 09
Yes, I felt this way when I was in school, too. I was very shy when I was in elementary school and I hated it, too. I was always the last one to be chosen or next to the last on the playground because I wasn't a very good ball player. The reason why I hated being this shy was because I wanted to be a singer when I grew up so bad. I knew I had to overcome shyness if I wanted to be a singer. I kind of came out of it when I got in junior high and high school. The singing career never did materialize but I still sing at different places a lot. Tomorrow, for example, I'm going to sing at one of our local nursing homes. I've been doing this for years. There are still occasions when I feel ignored. I sometimes feel ignored at church. I speak to people and talk to people all the time. Sometimes, their just not too friendly themselves. It could be they feel a little awkward around other people. Some people do in social situations. Have a good one and happy mylotting.Kathy.
@Darkwing (21583)
15 May 09
I move on to the next person or group. Their loss, my friend. It's happened to me a couple of times, in fact, and I've just moved to another place and engaged in conversation with others who are interested. Those people really aren't worth worrying about. Brightest Blessings.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 May 09
All the time!! All the time!! I was the same way as you when I was a kid and I tended to shy away from them types of people. If they didn't want to be my friend, it was just fine with me because I didn't want to be a friend to them anyways. Now a days, with my family get togethers back in the day, I was ignored all the time and it was because I couldn't hear well and didn't have any hearing aids. I got the aids but they never were right for me because technology hadn't advanced yet to nerve deafness so I was left in the dark A LOT. Then I married my hubby and he saw what was happening and he tried and still tries to get me envolved and he'll stop the conversation to get me caught up because I have no sense of direction so if one person is talking and another says something, I have to look around to see who's talking so I can read their face and lips so I still get left behind because I miss a lot still. I'm just not used to "hearing" so it's all still new to me but in time, I pray, I'll get the gist of it but the sense of direction will never happen. It's just one of those things about people like me who are hearing impaired. Now if they were to raise their hand which will let me know who's talking at the time, then I could follow word to word all through the conversation and I've told them time and time again but they don't listen so I gave up. Hubby hasn't and will say something which I'd rather he didn't because it draws attention to me which I so do not want!!
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@rakesh284 (1472)
• India
3 May 09
It sometimes happens when I am with my local friends because for them I am really innocent and book worm and they don't know naughtier part of mine which I have expressed with my college friends. So some times whenever they are going out somewhere or there are gossips going on among them I am not noticed during that period as they think of me as an innocent guy.
@Emceeric (70)
• United States
8 May 09
Yes,I understand how you felt.It happened to me when I was in Elementary School.Yes,I felt embarrassed too.I'd rather go straight home than play with the kids who were ignoring me anyway.
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@rzrback (107)
• United States
3 May 09
I never get this feeling because I am always loud. Not over the top loud, but just enough to get peoples attention I guess.
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• United States
3 May 09
i've been feeling like that pretty much every day since i moved from the west coast to the mid-west. people here are so much different than the ones i knew back home. and it took me almost two years to even find a girlfriend. and even she is starting to ignore me now. poo on the mid-west, i think it hates me.
• Philippines
4 May 09
YES.YES.and the feelings suck actually. It's ok for me not to be the center of attention but like being ignored and the feeling like u just don't exist,it's really hurtful. When I feel ignored, I challenge myself.haha.YEA. I tend to do that and it works.Like for example with a bunch of socialites, I dress to impress not really to caught a big attention but to have a contentment of being there and going with FLOW.
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• United States
3 May 09
I get that feeling all the time, being that I'm in High School right now. I'm a sophomore. If you try to start a conversation with someone & they ignore you, just drop it there. You're making yourself look stupid for additional thing you try to say. I wouldn't say that I don't "fit in" because I have a handful of friends, but I'm not the most popular guy in school. Most people don't like me because I speak my mind. I don't suck up to other people because their on the top of the food chain. I treat everybody the same. Even my Mom, although that may sound bad lol. But for real though.
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@GardenGerty (157327)
• United States
3 May 09
I take center stage, of course. Actually that "not fitting in" or "not being good enough" is what motivated me to find an area to shine, that is my brain. I was and still am socially inept. Not good at small talk at all. On the other hand, I am a consummate listener and I can (if I choose) hang on someone's every word and make them feel like they are the most important person in the world. Girls are very hurtful and catty. Real ladies are not. I have one situation that I have been in twice, and I am refusing to go be in again. Hubby likes to go to the high school reunion of the school he did not graduate from, but he grew up with until his Junior year. Most of them ignore him as well, but he really enjoys it. I do not enjoy it, I am an outsider, and I am made to definitely feel like I have nothing to contribute, and I will not drive across several states to spend time in a setting that makes me uncomfortable with people who make me feel left out. I would rather be on MyLot.
@trinale (1479)
• United States
3 May 09
I have to admit that the only time I ever feel ignored is when I start a conversation here on myLot. What do I do about it. Nothing much. Just limit the amount of dicussions I personally initiate. Cheers. Stan
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
3 May 09
I was a bit of an outcast in school from kindergarten right to grade 12...I had a couple friends but even then i didnt really fit in with them. I was a bit of a bookworm - not athletic, allergies etc in a group of very athletic kids. In highschool i actually prefered when they ignored me because really..when they took the time to notice me it resulted in teasing and ended in my crying the next morning that i didnt want to go to school. The school claims they control the bullying but honestly any complaints my mom made were shrugged off. The teacher looked the other way TOTALLY and then asked why i had a black eye when the most popular girl in the school punched me in the face in gym (last darn gym class i ever went to thats for sure) I accepted then that i was ignored, it hurt and there were girls that would have been less likely to ignore me if the most popular kids didnt see fit to pick on them too for association...Now I'm more likely to stand up for myself and actually make more of an effort to talk/get the attention and I accept that I'm an oddball/geek and i dont fit in with what people seem to see as "normal" esp in highschool in a small town.
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• India
3 May 09
I used to feel it sometimes, but I never really cared abut it. I was very much happy the way I was and I liked it that way. I had some of the best friends in school and some of them are still close to me and I like them very much. It's always a usual case when you are a kid that they don't open up to the idea of having different friends and always stick with the people who are alike and think alike and wear alike and do alike. bourne
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@Tonton01 (235)
• Philippines
3 May 09
Yeah, I feel that too...that no one wants to talk with us and sort. It really has a bad feeling, makes you feel lonely and worse, depressed. It really sucks when that happens, that's why I want to make new friends and not talk with the previous people who I knew and such..
• United States
3 May 09
Yes. I think when I was growing up I had to live with three sisters. I was the only boy. You know, girls chatter with each other all the time, my sisters basically ignored me in the end.
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