finding out u have cancer, scary!

Cancer? It seems cancer has been all over the world. This is because of what we eat? Many people has forgotten to eat veggies and fruits and have largely fed themselves with red meat, processed meat and other unhealthy stuff so the immune system gets weak and could fight cancer cells. Well I'm glad you opened this discussion and would like like to share that I have a sister who just finished her biological therapy. She was diagnosed of cervical cancer and was recommended for operation but to this I did not agree. I have read about what cancer is and how to fight it the natural way in the internet so we looked for alternative treatment instead of the traditional operation and chemotherapy. We found a biological doctor who put her under biological therapy. This is a process using intravenous chelation wherein the patient will be injected natural vitamins direct to the veins. The idea is to boost the immune system of the patient so it will be strong enough to destroy the cancer cells. I spent $280 every week for her injection so that is around $1120 a month plus all the many natural vitamin and mineral supplement she had to take during the therapy. The therapy is done after including the one session for complete body detoxification which cost $300.It was almost $10,000 that we spent for her but I thank God He provided. She is now healed of cancer. All her laboratory tests showed she is negative of tumor and her cervix now clear. I am so thankful to God that this kind of alternative healing has been discovered, otherwise, my sister would have had no other choice but to accept her tragic fate.Now she is free of cancer but has to follow a strict healthy diet of all fruits and vegetables and all healthy stuff only, no oily, no dairy, no fats, no meat, no junks, no processed meat all throughout her life. This is better than dying is it not? I strongly recommend this to all cancer patients because my sister is a living testimony that this is the most effective way to heal cancer. I hope you friend is not yet at the latter stage of cancer. I hope she could also try alternative medicine and gets healed.

My sister in law, she's my husband's second oldest sister, still single and will be turning fifty on May 31, we have the same first names and now we share the same family name. She knew there was something wrong but she never said a word to anybody. She always looked for magazine articles about my multiple sclerosis to help me cope with the symptoms but she never once uttered anything about her own more serious condition. Last January when the pain on her lower back and left thigh got worse she finally went to see a doc and biopsy results showed cancer. Last April 5, with her labored breathing while unconscious we rushed her to the hospital. the cancer has already metastasized to her bone marrow and brain. I cried beside her praying that God let me talk to her first. I asked God for a miracle and i received it! (We all did actually!) After two weeks with all the tubes finally removed, she was allowed to go home. Nothing hurts me more than to see my husband cry for her sister. But i am blessed to have married a man who loves his family and who will do anything to help ease the pain suffered by a love one. I am happy now, my sister-in-law now talks to me about her pain and i see how much she loves God even more after the ordeal. The whole family is much stronger now, prepared for the inevitable.

It is indeed a scary thing to have a person you know and love. My mother was once a cancer patient herself. Although she is still alive today but the pain and agony she went through all those chemotherapy and medicines she took made her life quite miserable for the past years. Right now, her cancer cells just stopped and is not growing anymore because of some medications she is taking but then every time she undergoes CT scan, there is the lump in her lung. They cannot operate on her because of her age but then our oncologist said that for as long as it remains at that size she is safe from being declared cancer free because the lump may just be a scar from the lump she had before. I am hoping that remains to that state.

That is very scary. I hope that everything will be fine with your friend. I would just try to comfort them and reassure them that everything will be fine.

That is scary. My mother and I were like best friends. When she got cancer I was the one she talked to about it all the time...and opened up to me about her fears etc....it was a tough one. I just cheered her on...and she lived a year longer then what they expected. She had a good attitude and I think that is what helped her fight that nasty stuff......so maybe cheer her up in a way....be supportive....a great attitude helps so very much for her fight!

It is very scary and very upsetting to deal with cancer I was 22 when I got lymphoma and I had the worst kind of lymphoma. I have beat it I am 28 now but I have to say that had to be the worst time in my life I was scared everyday I was upset everyday I lost my self esteem which I was told was going to happen by the doctors because I was so young when I got it. I learned to face the facts and one other thing I learned is that I would beat it and everything would be ok again if I put mind over matter into it so I did. I put up a huge fight and I won. I am sorry to hear about your friend its a hard road and she will need all the love and support she can get, my thoughts and prayers are with you and her.

Say "I care about you", "my thoughts (or prayers) will be with you". Offer some specific service, like "I will come sit with you on Monday and Friday". If you just say, "Call me if you need anything" most people will not call you, no matter how much they need you.

I guess I would let her know that I will be praying for her fast recovery. I will tell her that she should pray as well and think positive about the situation. I will tell her that we will go to her favorite place after she comes out of the hospital and we will have a good time together. I would hug her and tell her to be strong and that I will be there for her. I guess in cases of people like this we should give them a positive outlook and hope..Sometimes miracles do happen..

when i had it, the only thing that was good was the people telling me they cared and was praying for me. they reminded me of how many people get through it just fine these days. even tho its a lot of pain, most people have so many options to beat it today.

I can imagine that must have been very difficult for you. I do not know how I would act either - I guess we all imagine that we want to be sensitive, understanding etc but when faced with the situation it probably is not so simple. I have never known anyone personally who has been through anything similar but I do remember a few years back there was a girl working in the same place as me who had cancer and lost all her hair through chemo - I didn't know her and wasn't even on a hi or bye basis but I did feel very awkward around her.

no i never now what to say to someone that is going though anything like that .i just say. i hope ever thing goes alright and i will pray for you. and i will pray for you friend that she will come threw the surgery ok.

Just be there for her! My mommy was diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago. She had a full masectomy, under went chemotherapy and radiation. She had terrible days, but she told my sister and I that she would never had made it thru without our constant support and love. She had been cancer free for 2 years. Upon her 2 year testing, tumors were found in her lungs. The cancer and spread and reappeared. She tried chemotherapy again, to shrink the multiple nodules, but the chemo reacted by increasing the size of the tumors. She stopped chemo in May of 2008. The cancer had traveled thru her lymph nodes to her lungs and had taken over. She was the bravest, most amazing woman I will ever know. She thanked my sister and I for being there, and wanted to go to a hospice to make things easier for us, she was unable to make the trip to the center. She lost her fight on October 21, 2008. I thank God everyday for being able to be with my Mommy! Cancer is a scary thing, for all involved. So just be there for your friend. It is the greatest thing you can do for her. \

it's so sad to hear your story about your friend, having cancer is really scary, it's very fatal. i hope your friend will soon get over with this tumor in her head. i think it would affect her emotions and thinking if she is being operated with it. i hope she will be okay after the operation.

That would be pretty scary

No, I truly don't my dear friend, and in cases like this, I can get so emotional that I put on a "happier face" but my tears expose me, and usually it is not the right thing to do! Even at my age, I am NOT good with emotional situations, and sometimes blurt out things, that I truly have not meant to say! It is so hard to wish them well, when the circumstances are so serious! Happy Mother's Day and Cheers!

Hi jo...the only thing I know to say to someone in that situation is that if they need anything..I'll help them. I'd also visit them when I could and make it a point to call them often in case they needed to vent. I don't think there is a right thing to say really.