How do you respond to such a temperament?

Hi Kala! I think no body likes the dominance of others and dictatorial attitude is also not appreciated. As far as I am concerned, it will depend who is trying to dominate and where s/he is trying to dominate. If I find that I am at the receiving end and I have no other option, but to accept the fate accompli, I may accept the dominance. For example, if I've a dominating boss and I cannot get out of that office/section, I'll accept the circumstances. However, if I find that I can get out of the situation, I'll just get myself transferred from there. I would not like to enter into argument initially and I would be rather submissive. However, if I see that situation is such that I can call spade a spade, I won't miss the opportunity. I do protest, if I see that water has started flowing above my head. I am not thick skinned..........LOL!

Being a very shy person myself I hate to bump into people with domineering attitude. I feel, this kind of attitude comes in between healthy relationships. I am priviledged not to have come in close contact with such kinda people. My family consists of very congenial,sweet kind of people. May be they do not quite mix with dominant people. What do I do? It depends on the circumstance. If I can escape, I would rather ignore and excape. If I cannot do that, I wouldbear it may bewith a sweet smile for many times dictatorial attitude is but a reflection of low self esteem.

I am this way with my husband,me being the dictator.I am pretty sure its a role ,I need to play to keep him healthy and in check. As for others ,I confront them ,I don't take orders from anyone well . If they need a skape goat ,I tell them to look elsewhere or pipe down.

Well it depends on the situation but in most cases I try and understand the other person and if I don't see any logical reason for that kind of disturbing behavior then I make it a point to get it known andgo my own merry way ! But not with everybody like I always have to bend in front of my mother's dictatorial wishes! Have a nice day!

Hi kala, frankly speaking I find this attitude of being dominant and dictotorial highly irritating. But one comes across many such control freaks in one's life time. I have many such persons among my close relatives and it takes all my patience to deal with them. Most of yhe time I see that I have very little to do with them or plain ignore them...But when I do that and at a later stage if I have to interact with them they try to put me in my place with their high and mighty attitude. It is a constant battle of wills and very frustrating to deal with such people- BTW kala, how do you deal with such people?

I used to be very submissive and patient but after marriage my personality has changed altogether.Thanks to my in laws and husband,due to their behavior i have become a person who airs her views with clear conscience.I am certainly not a dictator but i do try to dominate my husband ,i know,if i let him go,he will forget rules and regulations of happy married life.

hi kala,i used to react immrdiatedly before but now i have cooled down and donot say a word to the opposite person but i do what i want..l donot allow myself to be bossed.............

I do not have close people who do that because I would not associate with them or if they started out nice but then turned like that then I would ask them to leave or leave myself and not put up with it. So if it was someone who was not close who did this, like a coworker for example, or an inlaw, I would let them know right away that this was not going to be tolerated. I would not play power games. I would assert myself as courteously as possible, but with no self-deprecation. I don't believe in regrets, so I'm rather vigilant to make sure nothing happens around me that would result in any.

I protest immediately .But sometimes I just walk off but later I regret and feel miserable.

hi kalav56 since i am a quiet person and someone keeps nagginag' at me I just pretend I didnt hear, I do not obey, and just go'about my buisness as I will not be pushed around and I do not like to fight I just now let my roomie know that Ihate being talked to when I am on the net, specially when I am on mylot. I cannot think and respond to her at the same time. she is driving me nuts. I will not be pushed.

My nature was introverted and submissive for a very long time. I grew to know myself and learn to command the respect that I deserve after many bad experiences with bossy friends and abusive partners. One day I woke up to the fact that you teach others how to treat you and instead of feeling sorry for myself after yet another break up I dusted myself off and decided I was going to be my own person from then on and not someone’s door mat! It has not been an easy road because I am not aggressive by nature but I am learning the importance of asserting myself and the most valuable lessons come as I teach my daughter the same skills; I have no excuse but follow through with what I preach. I can be stubborn but I have also learnt how important it is to compromise. Ideally I would like to handle conflicts in an intelligent and assertive manner instead of silently seething as I'm doing what I’m not told or aggressively fighting every step of the way.

There are friends mainly who are irritated and one among them is a girl who should get the award of making others irritated, in fact every one is bored with her, she does not have problem but always exaggerate when she is in a slightest situation, and this makes us angry as we are worried like her when we really get a real problem. So sometimes we just tell her what we think and sometimes we prefer to remain silent and change the topic.

i simply ask a question...'did you have a quarrel at home?'. i generally go blank and wait for the person to cool down and then ask for what he wanted to say...(this can be repeated several times....)

Hi kalav56, Bad tempered People that are always bad tempered get the cold shoulder from me most of the time. It´s the only way to cool them down. Being bad tempered they are out to get at you if you say yes or no you cannot win with someone like that. Bad tempered people I leave them on their own to get on with it and to rant and rave to whomever they want. I´ve got good practice with this lol. I´m not going to mention who they are but when they do start their domineering stint I simply walk off if I can. Or if not let it go in one ear and out the other. This makes domineering and dictatorial people rage even more but who cares? I do not. A few times they can get to me a bit but again I pick myself dust myself down start all over again. With dominating and dictatorial people you are fighting a losing battle. Not only that try to defend yourself and you will find they have a whole army of friends to back them up. Take care have a great day.

For a change I am dominant here among my relatives.Every body knows that and some body likes it and somebody hates it.But they cannot do anything about it because I am always the best among the lot.I can say that without being headstrong without my trumpet. So this discussion should be responded by those people. But I am not dominating but assertive as I always do my homework and try to be right. And I am not dedicative and I just cannot help it if they follow me.

I just say my piece in a quiet way. I try to be fair and open to communication. I'm not always right and I'm always open to that. Sometimes I don't even care if I'm right or wrong...I just walk away. Today I went in to get a coffee, came out and my daughter who was waiting in the car was writing down a plate number. She said this white subaru hit our car. The subaru was parked at the gas pump and so I went over and talked to the owner. She denied it. I know for a fact she was lying. There is white paint all over the back of my car where she hit and it was not there prior to this and my daughter would not have made this up. I walked off from it. People do suck. they really do.

i think i've tried all of that. i tried every way to get along with my sons pushy, dominate, overbearing gf. but lucky for me that my son saw how all this was going and he had put up with it himself for years but decided to make her leave when she kept it up with me.

I hate people being dominationg and unfortunately i have a few around me all the time. My father was quite strict, he ws an ex airforcie and so you can imagine how he was...me and my sisters were too scared to say something back...mother tried in vain to dominate, i would just give a deaf ear to wahtever she said, now after coming to my hsband's house, I saw my mother in law being too dominating...Initially she would decide what I should wear, when and whith whom i should meet and all...one day i couldnt take it anymore and my husband went and sked her not to interfere in things like that. Hats off to her, she kept her word...My husband too has his say for anything and everything. I take what i feel right and discard what is not agreeable to me. But ultimately if my actions or reaction end up failing miserably, I do not wink or feel bad because atleast it ws afterall my decision to do it so...

kalav56, it's okay for them to have that moment of showing their temperaments. i will allow them to express their ideas and do their thing but i will do mine. i have my own judgment and will follow what i believe is right and will benefit the majority. after their grandstanding spill, my turn to give my piece. i may not be in agreement with them but i will let them feel that i am doing the right thing. no regrets because i did my thing... i follow not only what i think is right but i feel is right!

Depends upon timing, context, and age of the person, etc. Therefore, if a person is snapping at me because of a recent debacle, I'd be quieter. Similarly, if my parent is in a foul mood, even if I am right, I'd keep quiet because I wouldnt like anything worse like a BP stroke etc., to come up. But if it is a friend who has none of those problems, then definitely I take a stand, but I make my point softly. If the person doesnt listen to it, then I try a couple of times more, before taking a more conspicuous stand. At times, I did react oddly because of the way things were worded, and I did face remorse. But then, I forgave myself, as it was indeed rather rude of the person, and therefore, it deserved such a snubbing.