Have you ever had to put someone in a nursing home?

My mom is in a assistant living house and has been since 2005

We have never had to make this choice. My husband's parents were at home til the end. My parents are doing fairly well, tho my father does need a lot of care, my mother is managing. My 94 year old grandmother is the healthiest of the bunch. We have been lucky. My great aunt, however had to be put in a nursing home. It was a tough decision but she caught the house on fire. It just wasn't safe for her. Luckily they found a good home with plenty of staff and she lived out her days there happily.

My first husband asked to be put in a nursing home, because he thought I had no life because I was busy caring for him. I hope you Papaw cooperates with the physical therapists and can return home after the thirty days of therapy. I am sure they are also checking for underlying health conditions like a UTI or middle ear infection that is contributing to his falls.

Some nurseing homes are excellent for physical therapy and rehabilitation. My mother had to go to one for a while, and they were wonderful. I hope your Papaw does well there. Email me and let me know which one he's going to. Is it one in town here?

I am sorry to hear about your grandfather, i hope he makes a quick recovery and can return home soon. I know it is hard to have to put a family memeber into a jursing home, but sometimes t is for the better. Two years ago we placed my mother into a nursing home (by we i mean my dad, me, my brother AND my mother...she was also part of the descision) She is only 54 years old. My mother has multiple sclerosis, and over the past couple of years has gotten to the point where she cannot walk whatsoeve, and is confined to her motorized wheel chair, and she has a very hard time doing just about anything else. she tires very easily, and cannot take care of herself. My brother and i both live out of state, and my father works crazy hours as a police officer. She had gotten to the point where even having a nurse come in a few times a week (which is all we could afford, even with insurance and medicare) wasn't enough. She was constantly coming down with severe bladder and kidney infetions (she has been on a catheter for years now due to lack of muscle control) among other issues. For many years she was still able to get around the house, do some cooking, light cleaning and take care of herself, all while in her wheel hair, but it was just getting to be too much. There were times when she would try to transfer form her wheel chair to her recliner or bed (something she used to be able to do a couple times a day) and she would loose strength and fall to the floor, and not be able to reach her phone or anything to call for help, and was un able to get herself up. Luckily since my fathers job is as a police officer, he could stop home every couple hours to check on her, imagine if he worked an office job, she woul have been stuck on the floor for 8 hours or more. She was getting to the point where she didn't feel safe being at home alone any more, and as i said, my dad works....and we coudln't afford full time living assistance, but if we put her in a home, we would get more financial support. She hates not living at home with my dad any more, but other than that, she is healthier than she has been in years due to round the clock care. She also used to be a registered nurse, and acually used to work as a director in a nursing home (some what ironic, no?) so she fraternizes with the nurses probably more than with the other elderly patients. The good thing is that the home she is in isn't very far from where my dad lives, and it is still with in the same county by which he is employed. She he can see her every day, even when he is working. When he is on duty he will stop by and have his meal breaks with her and everything. It sucks, but she feels safer, and we all worry a LOT less...

Nope, I never had to put any loved ones in a nursing home. But some people do changes as they get older with a disease or physical ailment. So they will probably benefit from around the clock care when you can't be there all the time to take care of them.

Had to put my great grandmother in one. She has dementia also. We took turns for the longest time staying with her in her apartment and the dementia kept getting worse. It's sad to say that it was a relief the day we put her in the nursing home. We were all so tired from doing the around the clock care. However since I am not too pleased with the nursing home she went to but on her social security check our options were limited. My grandmother never complains and won't push her button for anything and so they don't bother checking on her as they should and when I go down there and try to get help to clean her up the employees are so lazy and take their own sweet time for everything. I've seen one of their residents asking to be helped to the bathroom and the employee says she needs to wait as she has a conversation with someone else. They bring in my grandmother's lunch tray and then they don't wake her up to eat so they come back in an hour and take the tray away. Not trying to scare you but seriously the more a resident has visitors the better they will take care of that resident and don't be afraid to complain and tell them to do their job. The home my grandma's in is unionized and so there are lot of employees who do only what they must not to get fired and they have the protection of the union and the owner is having trouble getting anyone good in there when he has to pay for a bunch of employees he would love to fire.

Awwwww Ambie I am so sorry How is he doing? I hope he is getting better I have not had to put anyone in the Nursing Home and hope I never will My thoughts are with you all and I hope that your Grandpa is much better

Sorry to hear about your grandpa Ambie. Well back when my mother was hospitalized (for the last time)--it was thought if she did recover that yes, she would have to have been placed in a nursing home, but unlike your grandpa would have been a permanent thing not just thirty days. Depending on your viewpoint her passing which was a blessing in a sense answered that question and she didn't have to be placed in one

Ambie..Ambie..Ambie. I truly am sorry that it has come to this! I know it is for his health and safety..and that of your Nana, and she truly has to be commended for her valiant support. I don't know how to say, what I am going to say, without it seemingly harsh, which I do NOt mean! As you may, or may not remember, I am a re-tired paramedic...and living on this small Island, you know just about everyone (except summertime), so have transferred many patients to off-Island facilities. My guess would be 90% of the Senior's with dimentia and other Health problems...never come home....PLEASE be prepared for that! In our courses, we were taught that even tho' they are suffering dimentia...they are aware of a change of surroundings~~~the unfamiliar and oft sets up feelings of abandonment, so I am suggesting the family prepare themselves with counselling! I am sorry, Ambie...and I pray this all works out for the best. Cheers!

We were very fortunate that my parents were able to be at home or with one of us kids and not have to be put in a nursing home.....I think it's so disheartening for people when they have to be taken care of in that manner.....and it's no one's fault...the whole process of taking care of someone that is unable to care for themselves is a major task. I have some elderly friends that are in assisted living or nursing homes....I try to make sure they know in many ways that I am thinking of them by sending cards etc....it important they understand how much they are loved.

Hey AmbiePam, Merry Christmas. I am sorry to hear about Your Papaw, and I hope he soon will be on his feet again. I work at a nursing home for elderly who comes and stay there for the last days of their life. Today on christmas eve, I have five that are leaving for a christmas day with relatives. And it makes my heart happy to see that some relatives do take their mum or dad home for the day. I will work hole day today, sad you might think, but I am glad I am able to give my elderly some care for a day like this. I will try and make the day as comfortable as I can. I hope you have a wonderful christmas despite and that your papaw soon is back on his feet again.

When my great-grandfather was about 95 years old he was no longer able to live in his own home, and he had to spend the rest of his life in a nursing home. It was very hard for him for leave his house, because he had been living there for many, many years, but he fell a couple of times, and we were afraid to let him stay alone in case it happened again. Of course we often visited him anf helped him the best we could, but we still found it too dangerous to let him live on his own. He didn't like the nursing home at all, and we were sad when we visited him there, because he always wanted to go home, but he needed care and help and we weren't able to give him that at home. My grandmother also lives in a nursing home, but that is completely different. She really likes the place where she is, and it also our impression that it is great place. The atmosphere is great and the staff are doing a very good job. My grandmother suffers from dementia, and when she was still living at home, she sometimes left the house and got lost in village where she lived. We were very worried about her, and I happy that we managed to find a good place for her. She enjoys living there, she is very outgoing and she really enjoys talking to the other residents.

We grew up caring for our old once. Until they die, they stay with us. We are not used to let them stay in a nursing home (though nursing home started to pick-up here in our country). They stay with us until their last breath, and there's no problem with that. we take care of them.

yes,both my grandmothers. one had dementia,the other had amblutory altzheimers and was quite violent. we did not have the capability to care for either within keeping up the standard of life medical treatments they needed.the first was also having repeated heart attacks,so it was best to have her somewhere she could be monitored 24/7. we hated to do it,but neither would have lived as long without constant nurses.

For only thirty days? that is good though that he can go back home after he stays in a nursing home for thirty days. I have never personally had to put anyone in one but my grandmother is in a live in facility. I've been there once, maybe twice. It's my dad's mom, and for awhile I hadn't talk to them but I am just now starting to again.

I'm sorry, Ambie, it is a sad thing to have your family member to have to go to a nursing home. I have never personally had to make that decision but my dad put my aunt there, his sister. Then my dad had to go but his son made that decision, then my mother spent one night in one so it is good that there are such places but hard to see your family put there. Good luck to your papaw & u.

I when I was in high school back around 1996 when my grandfather was still living, my parents had to put him in the nursing home. He was suffering from Parkinson's disease which he had for years and was diagnosed with leuphoma. He was about 80 years old and was beginning to lose control of his bodily functions and many other things. It was hard for my parents and my aunt who was living with him to take care of grandpa because both were working full time. I remembered it being a hard decision for my mom and aunt because there were terrible stories about nursing homes but their hands were tied. The other time a relative was put in the nursing home that I remember was my great grandma who was my grandpa's mother and I was about 10 years old at time. My siblings and I would go with our grandparents to visit her. She was suffering from Alzheimer's and that when I first learned about about nursing homes. Now my grandparents are in their 80s and are in good health. I hope to never ever put them in a nursing home.

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I never had to put anyone in a nursing home for a lengthy period. But I have had the unfortunate experience of putting both my parents and an aunt in a private hospital for periods ranging from 1 to 6 weeks. My dad was in the ICU for 8 days after surgery for an ailment that was not detected on time and he passed away without regaining consciousness and I was inconsolable. Then my mum was diagnozed with Alzheimers, but we (my sis & I) took turns looking after her. It was tough and very stressful, but we think of it as a blessing cos it made both of us better people with more love and understanding. In the end we had to admit her to hospital when she started to aspirate and I was with her right throughout until the doctors said nothing could be done and we brought her home where she passed away. My favorite aunt was in hospital for 3 weeks first with an ulcerated leg and then later after a colostomy operation for closer upon 6 weeks, and then she too passed away. Those have been tragic experiences in my life but they have helped me to become a more mature and caring person. (I think). Dear Ambie Pam, I do hope you will get your grandpa back home soon.