Have you ever given advice on someone else's parenting skills?

I admit, I have always given unsolicited parenting advice to my boyfriend.. He has a 7 year old son with another girl.. And sometimes, when I feel that the kid is just not respecting his dad or his mom, I would talk to the dad and just make him realize that it's not really right to raise his kid that way... I'm not sure if my boyfriend minds all those unsolicited advice, and I have never really thought about it. But I guess now I have to ask, cause maybe i'm pushing it too much already...

Hi, JenInTN. Yes, if they only ask me too. I don't just hand out advice because this may offend some mothers. So, I will wait until they ask of my advice and if I have anything to say, I will say it nicely and I just hope that they don't take it the wrong way. I will be honest because that is how I am. But they can't get mad at what I will say, because, after all, they asked of my opinion. And I am honestly giving it.

I have given advice on here. I give ongoing advice to my daughter because I am helping her raise my grandson. And, my granddaughter is having a child around August of this year and so I will probably be giving her advice as well. She is already asking me questions about her pregnancy and I put in my two cents about routines and so forth for when the baby is born. I will be a great-grandmother.

yeah a few times but only if they ask me to, some will get upset. now if i see them doing something wrong which will effict the baby i will then

I would never do this unless asked. I have in a group of parents sometimes told stories to state a point I wanted to get across. But with any advice you usually never have the whole story so it's best to be very careful.

I am not a parent yet but I do enjoy watching parenting shows or reading about this matter on the magazine. Since it is my passion to share whatever I learn, I try to give tips to the parents out there with or without them asking. I think that it is alright to do so. However, I always want to be critical on the advices I get in these sources. I try to think whether this is applicable in a certain situation. That way, I can always give my opinion on the tip. I also need to ask other parents on how to do it their way. Because every kids are unique in their own, I try to find out if the tip goes well with their children. By the way, I am currently babysitting my nephew who is about to be one year this March.

generally speaking, no body asks me for advice and I don't give it - at least not in person and generally speaking, by the time I notice or find out that someone is doing a bad job, its time to call CPS - I have - 4 times...

Like the other respondents Jen, I don't give unsolicited advices ESPECIALLY on parenting skills. Because I don't like advices on how to raise my kids when I'm not asking for one. Being parents is a tough, tough responsibility and a very sensitive topic. I try to be a better mom for my children every single day and honestly, I don't need advices given by people who thinks they are doing a better job than what I'm doing. I do have my opinions but I never, ever voice them out unless that parent directly asks for what I think and what they should be doing instead. But if I do speak, I do it in a way that won't leave the parent embarrassed, confused and ridiculed. My elder sister had her child when she turned 37. My eldest child is 6 years older than her son but still, she is my elder sister and I value her feelings especially being a mother. It doesn't mean that because I had more experience as a mother GIVES ME THE RIGHT to give her advices left and right. I believe that every parent learn and needs to learn on their own way how to be a better parent depending on the experiences they get. Sure, advices are welcome unless they need it and they have asked for it. Getting ideas from other parents is a good thing but still, no parent likes to be told how to raise their own kids.

Hi Jenin, it's definitely good to see you again here. For me, if only someone needs the advice would I give. And even then, I won't prefer to give out an advice that has a parenting voice. It will never be in my position to do that. Instead, I would make it a point to give out advices when needed and I'll try my best to give opinions when needed only. I wouldn't want to impose my own thoughts on others. Good topic here.

I’ve never done it. I have given advice when asked for it but that is all. I know better than to tell another parent how it’s done! I have spoken to other parents in regards to their children’s behaviour towards mine and in those instances I try to get my point across as tactfully as possible because the children are usually friends and I like to keep in good terms for my daughter’s sake. I have helped out a friend who had a problem with her young daughter because she asked for my assistance. I’m not enough of an expert for me to shoot my mouth off!

i do not give advice regarding parenting issue. i am still singly and not yet marry. therefore, i think that i do not have much experience to give advice to others. but i like to read articles or watch movie about parenting. Maybe the knowledge is useful for my future.

I've adviced my sis-in-law about her parenting skills. Sometimes, she takes in nicely and sometimes not; therefore, I've stopped telling her now.

It just depends sometimes. Sometimes I will offer my advice, but only when asked. I feel like I'm forcing myopinion if I give it without being asked for it. Though despite being asked for my opinion, sometimes its not always recieved well. Quite often what I have to say isn't exactly what the other person wanted to hear.

you may prepare some sweet cooky and tea or make a hot coffee,than talk to each other maybe thay are your parent you talk like this thing is just a new you had read form a magazine or watch form tv,than they will not think you defend then .... or you can call a friend of your parents,please the aunt or uncle to talk to your father or mother.......

I gave advice twice to my friend that has children the same age as mine. I felt that I had to for her children's well being. She used to be my roomate for a while she has two boys and I have a daughter and son at the time our kids were both toddlers and sometimes I would come home very late at night around 3-4 am after dropping my kids off with their grandparents and notice that her car wasn't there, I would assume that no one was home. Only to hear one of the kids snoring in her room. She used to leave them at home sometimes to go down the hall or run to walmart while they were sleep. It used to piss me off because I felt like I was being left to watch them, because once she found out I was home she just wouldn't come home until the next morning. I simply told her that one day (thank goodness it never happened) one of them would wake up and get into trouble and she would come home to something bad and maybe even the cops waiting for her. She didn't get offended but she also still didn't see the problem. Eventually she changed her ways, but that was a time I HAD to say something.

NEVER....EVER, EVER...without specifically being asked...and only related to the "questioner", what I had done in a similar situation, the response and the results. And boy, oh boy...I am a great qualifier, making sure that I am specific about the fact that it was my situation, these were the circumstances...etc.,....etc.! Bit of a Chicken, aren't I? But, I feel that most persons hate unsolicited advice! Hugz and Cheers!

Hi Jen, I tread very cautiously when it comes to giving advice to another parent. Even with my own daughter, I am very selective with any advice. We all have our own parenting styles and beliefs. I think to give unsolicited advice might come across as me thinking my way was the only right way. I know it isn't. It is just what works for us. Even when asked for advice, I make it real clear that we are all different and our kids are all different. What works for my kids may not be what is right for another kid. Even my own kids were all so different that I had to approach them differently on different things. Unless I saw something that was out and out neglectful or abusive then I don't think it is my business to step in and tell another parent how to handle anything.

No way in hell would I give somebody parenting advice unless they had asked for it. I'd like to live to see my kids grow up!

U know me & my big mouth i'm sure i have. I can not stand to be around kids that don't mind. I realize it's not their fault it's the parents. I try not to say anything of course but if i'm ask i tell them how i feel.

I have, if I see that they are open to advice. Some people you can read and know not to. Since I also have been teaching children of all ages for 37 years, besides raising my own two children and now babysitting, full-time, my own granddaughter, there is much that I can do to help someone. I find that the best way to do it is not give it as advice but say, "All kids are different but what works for me is...." If they take the advice or not, I did my best!