Growing old May Be a Choice!

old lady - she is old but healthy.
@zandi458 (28124)
Malaysia
March 11, 2010 6:45am CST
Well meaning friends are a constant reminder that I am no longer a spring chicken when they keep sending humorous jokes to my emails pictures of wrinkled old women and jokes about old age which keeps me in high spirit and easing the aching muscles after a good laugh. Being in the 50s I have thus long passed the peak of life where the waters divide. That half century mark is when we can do just as much as ever but would rather not. As long as we keep ourselves in good health, we will always feel the vibration of youth very much in us. I am baffled and have no idea why we age, considering that our bodies are constantly regenerating themselves. It is only with bad diet, poor health choices (drinking, smoking etc) stress, our deep rooted beliefs/programming that aging is normal and the biggest factor of all: the baggage that drag around with us everyday makes us old. Aging may be unnecessary and should be classified as being a disease, rather than something that is a normal part of life. So, then, why do we age?
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Mar 10
I don't know, but if we could choose NOT to age, Jack Lalanne would still be 20 and he's looking pretty darn old.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
Why not? We can now choose to remain young in our physical look .
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Mar 10
to a point...
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@cupkitties (7439)
• United States
11 Mar 10
Disease..yeah not so sure bout that because there are people that actually want to "grow old gracefully" with wrinkles,gray head and all. I don't know if we can stop aging completely but we can certainly do have a choice in just how quickly and in which way we age and we can even naturally reverse signs of aging taking better care of ourselves but you have to stick to the program.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
That is exactly what I mean. Be healthy, stay healthy and you will never feel old.
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
i dont think aging is a disease as its just the normal life cycle of life. if people will not get old then that would be a disease as its already immortal or abnormal. like i saw a certain movie about the person that when her mother give birth the baby looks old then year by year he looks young, its like the reverse of those normal person. i will accept being old if i know that i can have rest after long time of none stop working, its the time that people will enjoy the fruits of their hard work, see their children and grandchildren and enjoy life without worrying about going to work. unless we become old and yet we still have nothing in life then its really scary.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
when we have enough of our time on earth it is time to quit and rest in peace.
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
it's not a choice, zandi. it's one of the mysteries of life where we can't do anything. we cannot stop it, neither can we alter the process. some try, but most certainly they fail. man has yet to discover the secret to everlasting live. it is a continuing quest that now borders on insanity. just enjoy life as it comes...
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 10
Through the passage of time, our body too undergo wear and tear as a result of use and abuse by the harshness of our everyday living. It is unavoidable. But the new age technologies have made it possible to iron out all the wrinkles and sagging of the face that make many never seem to age though the internal organs are already rotting away and dying out. The spirit of living is very much alive and young to maintain our earthly existence. We only surrender when God unplug our life to our eternal rest.
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
that is enlightening, zandi. thanks for the response.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 10
@shalome (178)
• India
13 Mar 10
zandi458, Old age is the later part of normal life one should born in this world, nobody can escape in this cycling each and every one should reach this stage till their last breath, as you clearly discussed everything about growing old, which is 100% correct but aging is necessary part the normal life but it is not a disease, one should accept as it is and try to enjoy it very happily becoz this is one of the god's gift, not all reaches the old ages, now a days it is very difficult to reach the old ages like 50 or above.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
No...50 should not be categorized as old age but middle age. When you reach 50 you will still feel very much young. You must remember the 50 today is not the same as 50 during the ancient times.
@shalome (178)
• India
14 Mar 10
zandi, Thanks lot for your discussion, i do agree for that.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 10
Thanks for coming back.
@RawBill1 (8537)
• Gold Coast, Australia
12 Mar 10
There are a lot of people out there in the alternative health industry which I am part of, that believe that we are not meant to grow old and die. Some believe that if we look after ourselves properly, then we should be able to live for hundreds of years. I am not certain that this is possible in these times. Most of us are exposed to chemicals and radiation that harm us every day even though we are not aware of it. All we can do is lead the healthiest lifestyle that we can and hope to live to an age where we are satisfied with all we have achieved in live!
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
I agree with leading the healthiest lifestyle which can add years to our life on earth.
@RawBill1 (8537)
• Gold Coast, Australia
13 Mar 10
You mentioned stress elsewhere here having something to do with aging. I agree that has a big part to play in leading a long and healthy lifestyle. If we feel depressed, then our body does not get the energy it requires and can get sick. If we are feeling overjoyed then we are feeling energetic usually as well and can get out and do exercise and other things to keep us healthy.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 10
Life serves no purpose if we are always depressed. Exercise keeps us in the maximum health with good nutrition thrown in.
@zed_k4 (17619)
• Singapore
12 Mar 10
Good thinking thoughts.. I was thinking about this too the other day. I think that when it comes to aging, it's the only one that's not like other forms of illnesses or diseases whereby there can be cures for that. Technology only helps to slow down the process or aging, but to prevent it is inevitable. For me, I find the aging of years as a sign of maturity and with life's experiences piling up and giving a big meaning to life in general. Good topic here, and I'm also with the young at heart thingy like some have mentioned.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
How young are you Zed? You maybe far behind me and I dare say that I never feel the age I am in not that I refused to accept the reality of my age but the thing is time passes too fast and the numbers recorded in the registry keep increasing but I don't feel any difference. No changes. I always feel young at heart. I can still go out clubbing with my sons who are in their late twenties.
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@zed_k4 (17619)
• Singapore
17 Mar 10
I'm approaching 30 soon.. old already.. About the same age as your sons, I suppose.. old and young do not matter at all, and I like how you approach this, really. You are never too old to be happy, always..
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 10
My eldest boy is 28 years old. So you are just slightly older than him.
@savypat (20244)
• United States
11 Mar 10
In nature everything wears out. So I think it is natural for this to happen to our bodies, the trick is to keep that body in the best shape possible until the end.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
I am afraid I have an unsightly shape. But the upper part of me is still good to look at.
@savypat (20244)
• United States
12 Mar 10
Well the older I get the less I look in the mirror. Now I just brush hair, teeth and make sure my cloths are on straight. Nothing worse then getting your pants on backwards. Don't laugh it's easy to do with elastic waist bands.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
I opt for those pants with elastic waist bands. My tadpole belly can no longer find comfort in normal pants using hocks. What choice have we got?
• Bangladesh
10 Apr 10
Hey friend, There are a number of secrets behind staying young. They are: Have strong faith on Allah, think and act honest and simple, don't let sinful thoughts into mine, avoid bad diets and habits, love and be loved, eat healthy and think healthy, pray for all people to have a peaceful life etc. Have a nice day.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 10
Good to think of that, strong faith in Allah, peaceful and simple life.
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• Bangladesh
10 Apr 10
Yes friend, This is how I've been able to survive with a healthy body and healthy mind in spite my financial crisis. May Allah bless you.
@indahfth (11169)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 10
each person would have had to be old. nothing can change that. whatever we do, will not be able to make us young again. Although the appearance was made as a young child, can not be denied that we are old.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 10
Nothing can reverse the clock but with the modern day technologies, we can now look young even when we are old.
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@indahfth (11169)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 10
yes, you are correct. but modern technology is very expensive. for those who can not afford, will not be able to do.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
11 Mar 10
Good question, if u find the answer let me know because i'm way ahead of u, lol.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
I am fast catching up with you. Check on page 3 as a lotter has given a logical views.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
13 Mar 10
U can't catch up w/mebut we can still think young & i think that's important. U got some good responses. Hope u have a great weekend.
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@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
11 Mar 10
I have no idea why we do but I feel thqat having kids around helps you keep young! I really dont feel I am 70 till I try to walk very far my hip and knee hurts but I found out it was from taking a cholestrol med that distroied you muscles and things. I stopped that nad am taking a home remediy hoping to get this all reversed for I love to walk!
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
They say mixing around with young people is the trick to make you feel younger. And you are a fine example of someone who is much senior than many here but still very much alert and to me I don't feel you are a 70 years old woman.
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
12 Mar 10
thanks I dont feel it either got to stay young at heart!
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• Malaysia
11 Mar 10
hi dear .. what a question, why do we age .. i believe in the term 'wear & tear' when we use something alot it seems to deteriorate and at one point of time just give up .. just look at ourself as cars... a brand new car and used car ... they are both so much different in many ways ... getting old is not a disease at all ... as disease is having an 'intruder' unwanted virus present in our body ...
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@RawBill1 (8537)
• Gold Coast, Australia
11 Mar 10
Disease is when your body is in a state that is not at ease. Dis-Ease! So my opinion is that the body that is frail, whether it is old or from cancer or whatever, is in a state of disease!
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@dorannmwin (36648)
• United States
25 Aug 10
I actually believe that we don't have a choice about aging because it is something that is going to happen all of us eventually, it is just a matter of whether it is sooner or later. You are right about the decisions that we make having an impact on how soon we start to age. I'm only in my thirties now, and I do look my age if not just a little bit older. The reason that I look the way that I do is that I try to take care of myself. My mother is in her fifties and looks younger than most people in her life.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
25 Aug 10
You're right, we can't excape aging as it is part of the circle of life. But we can slow it down and age gracefully if we take good care of our health and watch what we put in our mouth. The foods we eat speaks loud in our outward appearance.
@coffeegurl (1467)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Resveratrol anyone?
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 10
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
You know I agree, it maybe a choice. If you think you are not getting old, then you are not old. That is why it is needed to always feel young so that you express a youth thought also. Age is the one that gets old and I don’t know why we increase our age that fast now. If we are living a healthy life then no one is getting old. But unfortunately, we are all stressed in a fast paced environment. We are always in a hurry like there is someone running after us. We did not stop for a while and think about what life is giving to us. This is really an eye opener to me. I must think young to feel young. Actually I had responded to a discussion about getting old three times now. There must be something life is telling me.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 10
Don't let the number in your registry stress you. It is only a record and really doesn't say much about your true self. The adage that a man is as old as he feels, and a woman as old as she looks, may be said to contain much inherent truth.
@ifa225 (11092)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 10
i guess that just marked that how long that we stay in this world, people like count. even numbers is not always picturing the real thing. They just love to do that.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 10
I agree that it is just a record on the registry.
@alicia812 (648)
• Australia
13 Mar 10
Hi zandi. I want to believe that age is an attitude, although a part of me is saying that age is a stage in our lives. My husband is 52 but he says that he is not old, he said to me "Are you joking? I am only middle aged." Growing old is definitely not a disease. I don't want to grow old and live in that concept of dis-ease...no way. Old people can enjoy life still as if they are young.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 10
Definitely yes, I am enjoying life to the fullest and I agree fully with your husband who is within my age range that we are indeed only in our middle age. There is so much happenings and so much to expect in our age group cos we have experienced a lot earlier, be it sweet or bitter, and now enjoying a little freedom from the days of hard jobs bringing up children.
@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
12 Mar 10
As I have always come to expect from you dear one, another wonderful question left to be answered. You posts still cause my mind to be stirred and come to life. I Thank you for that. I think that as you mentioned, we age because of Life. The things we eat and the things we put into our bodies, that cause it to degenerate at a faster pace than it Re-generates. Year after year, we lose ground and so our bodies are unabl to keep up with the pace that we set for it. But I want to point out something that I think is very important. I think that we age because... We Allow our selves to. We accept it as a natural occurance that is unavoidable. I do Not believe that is so. When I turned 50, my father poised a question to me. He asked me if I felt 50. My immediant responce was "No." I told him I felt much younger than the year that marked my age. HE in turned paid me what I consider to be the greatest of compliments. He said that he and my mother had been talking about it and felt that I was Much younger than my age. The things I do and the life-style, busy, full, active all the time, did not show them any "aging" for me. How beautiful a compliment and it made me think about exactly the question you have asked here, darling lady. Why Do We Age??????????????? Simply stated, we Allow our selves to because society and science say it is so. I say to Hell with status quo!!!!Live your life full and active. Do Not be a prisoner to the aging factors that are happening in your body. Keep a young mind and you will keep a young feeling in your body, even if mother nature insists on everything we have ;), going south. And speaking of "ging Souh" as it is sometimes called, perhaps a few more trips THAT way will also keep us young at "Heart." Thank you for asking and thank you for allowing me to say what I feel. You are a beauty... Always, D
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
A little bit of stirring does wonders to a great thinker and writer? It has been ages since I last seen you around mylot and am sure you have been pretty busy with your blog and writing novels? All is not lost, all is not forgotten. . You must be thankful to God for giving you good genes to still look young at your age. You are super active and that is a plus factor in maintaining your present state. Men are supposed to mellow physically with age, achieving a distinguished but still handsome appearance. Provided they have no aches and pains and keep a youthful outlook and they can laugh at the advancing years. Only that a man is as old as he feels.
• India
12 Mar 10
lol aging is a natural process, we can't stop it, health problems will come one after another, diabetricvs, high bp is so common, wrinked skins, joint pains are common too, i think my kids (above 40) are getting these problems earlier because of the polluted enviornment, pesticides, chemicals to name a few let us grow old with joy and pleasure, face what comes bhuwan
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
Regardless of our chronological age, it's a fact of life that we are among the aging. We all are. Aging is a process that commences when we are born. But with the addition of all the chemical laded foods in vegetables and fruits, it sure expedite the aging process. Just accept reality...aging is in human circle.