how would you do if your gf had s'x with other guy?
By linhwa
@linhwa (15)
China
May 7, 2010 5:13am CST
my gf and me are not in the same city,and she told me she had s'x with other guy that night. she admited her mistake and asked me to forgive her for this. i was really very angry as i heard that. and i find it hard to acept the bad thing happened on me. however, we still love each other deeply. if you were me, how will you do?
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18 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
7 May 10
humm. this is hard to forgive her, but if you really love her and want to stay with her then yeah forgive her, i know the hardest thing not knowing if she will do it again since you guys live in different cities.
i know my wife cheated on me and i forgave her it took me time, but i did it for because i love her and the kids
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@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
8 May 10
But if you do forgive her, please have her get a full physical before you go to bed with her again. Just a safety thing.
@borgiefame (166)
• Philippines
7 May 10
I'm so sorry to hear that. You mentioned she had asked for forgiveness,yes, she is supposed to do that. I understand how painful it is to learned that. What your gf did is very unacceptable and really painful. If that happens to me, I would surely die due to heartaches. But your gf confessed that incidence to you, and I'm sure she is sincere when she asked for your forgiveness. Since the two of you love each other, and if you are still willing to stay with her, then do so. But, if you can't stay with her for now because of the hurt feeling you have now, you may distant from her.
Likewise, remember that relationship works not only through love, trust is also important to keep the relationship going.
@maggemorgan (24)
• United States
9 May 10
As hard as it is, and believe me I know, you have to love and respect yourself enough to walk away. If you don't, you will spend the duration of the relationship constantly looking over your shoulder and suspecting even when she isn't, that she is cheating. It will make you second guess every move she makes, and in all honesty, dear, it won't be healthy for you. When it ends and it will, it will only hurt you more if you stay in the relationship. I know you love her, and it's hard. But this is something you have to do.
I guarantee you that the only reason that she fessed up about it, was not because she felt bad about it. But that it did not turn out the way she wanted it to. -OR- she is trying to force you to break up with her so that in her eyes you are the bad guy and she is not. I am willing to bet that she has cheated before this time. She is using you until what she perceives to be better comes along. You deserve better than that. Better to find this out now, while you are in a relationship and not married.
I know how much this hurts, I have been there myself. And I know these words are of little comfort to you right now. But in time, as they say, it will all be ok.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
7 May 10
Do you think you'll ever be able to trust her again? Just think about that for a little while. Can you go through a day without wondering if she'll be out cheating again? Lets get some facts straight. Cheating is planned out. It doesn't just "happen" and it is not "accidental".
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@lmcueva (169)
• Philippines
7 May 10
I do not mean to offend you, but I don't think posting this on MyLot would be actually of great help to you. Talk to people who know you and your girlfriend. Because we do not personally know the both of you, it is all up to you to decide. If it happened to me though, I would break up immediately. If she loved you she would not have done that to you. Besides, you do not have to be in a relationship just because you love each other. You can love somebody, and still maintain your integrity.
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@BettyBOOSH (34)
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7 May 10
Wow im sorry to hear that she cheated on you. I have a had a few experiences with long distance relasionships which all ended in my partner cheating in the end I decided that it was best if I had a boyfriend nearer to me however this could be different for you. If you forgive her you may not beable to trust her again, and that might drive you abit crazy I would personally move on it may be very hard at first but in the long run it will definately hurt less xx
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@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
8 May 10
It is very complicated, we are not perfect we can make mistakes but your girlfriend cheated you and it is very unfair to your part. She is unfaithful to you and I think if you going to marry her she going to do that again. Think about it and if you think she deserve a second chance it is up to you because you love her.
@jacquiline (124)
• Philippines
8 May 10
harsh.. but hey think about this: she has the power to hide that incident from you but still she has chosen to and took the risk to tell you what she had done.i admire your girlfriends honesty by the way. she choke her pride because you mean so much to her. and imagine what if you heared that from other people, isn't a punch on the face on your side? you should give her another chance. everyone deserves it. i just that if you were the one on her shoe she'd also forgive you the way you did.
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@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
8 May 10
That's true. She only gave you one black eye by landing the punch herself. She could have left it to a couple of friends to give you a couple of black eyes and a blow to the stomach.
What a girl! Move on, hon. Find the real thing.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
8 May 10
It would really all depend on my partner and how much I loved them. My current girlfriend I love so much that I would definitely work on trying to salvage the relationship because she means so much to me. Also if she wanted an open relationship I would be willing to give her that because I want to do anything to satisfy her.
However your situation may be different and if you feel as though you can't find it in your heart to forgive her maybe it is time to move on. In the end you have to contemplate whether or not love will overpower lust in this circumstance.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
9 May 10
Well I guess it all depends on how far your love stretches. We all make mistakes and we can all be overpowered by lust at times. I love my current partner so much that even if she did cheat on me my love would still shine through because I have seen and experienced all the beautiful moments we have shared together. And in the end it's ultimately in the eye of the beholder whether or not to decide to try and salvage the love or not.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
8 May 10
With my current love, if he did such a thing, well, do you remember that old country song:
"With my big iron skillet in my hand, I'd show 'im how a little woman could whup a great big man!"
Okay, I probably wouldn't use my iron skillet - it cooks darned good and I don't want to damage it, but I'd sure as heck pack him up and toss him out!
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
8 May 10
You sound more forgiving than I. My husband and I dated for two years and have now been married for 42. In that time, we looked at each other - not around to see who we could sleep with if our partner turned his/her back. He often went on long trips. I planned things like shopping trips or lunch with lady friends, but at night, when I curled up on the sofa or in bed, it was with a good book or television.
The people who went on the trips with him always complained that he left the table after dinner and went back to his room - alone. He wouldn't bar hop or go anywhere else. He always told them he had something better at home.
After the children came, I cherished extra time with them when Dad was away.
The way I look at it, if you are in lust - you will sleep with someone other than the one you 'love'. If you are truly in love, you have no wish to date, much less sleep with anyone else.
@dependent (131)
• China
7 May 10
what u feel is frustrate^_^ r u upset about ur gf not honest to u?
u can take revenge of that by make love with another girl
so
that is fair
or u just forgive her she will feel grateful and no next time
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
8 May 10
I think she had been unfaithful to you. You were already related and she went ahead to have s*x with another guy. Was that a one-night stand? It could be worst. If faithfulness is important to you, then I think you should start training yourself to forget this girl because I am very sure that she is going to do it again.
@baobaoyuanyuan (49)
• Australia
7 May 10
from my point of view, if you do love her and you cannot leave her, then there is no other choice, right?
no matter she loves you or not, if you do love her deeply and do not want to lose her, you have to accept all those things with pain... but do you really love her that much?
nobody can change the past and we should all look forward. if you can trust her in the future and if you think she will never do anything to hurt you, then you can keep on the relationship.
i dont know your girlfriend, i dont know what kind of person she is, so i dont know if she worth to be forgiven.
honestly, everyone should take responsibility on what they have done, if you choose to keep the relationship, never take revenge or want to hurt her to get balance.
if she is that kind of girl you think you cannot miss or you will regret, if she is good enough, if you do love her so deeply, why not give a chance, to her, also to yourself...
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@kennyshie (2)
• Mauritius
8 May 10
Man, she cheated you once despite your so called deep love!!!
Tell me what prevents her to cheat you once more
@mine2008 (107)
• Philippines
12 May 10
well long distance relationship is very hard to handle. look around theirs too many temptation even you can commit mistake. i know the feelings as a man that's really hurt. if you really love here you must accept and give a chance. and build trust each others. and make sure don't let this happen again. honestly the best way to stay with long distance relationship is TRUST.
@chocolatelle (277)
• Philippines
8 May 10
sorry about that :( if that happened to me, even if we really love each other, i think i won't be able to forgive him. well, maybe i would but what he did was unforgivable. our relationship will never be the same than before. just thinking about it would eventually the root of future fights and then next... the break up. so i guess I'll break up with him and forget about us. it's his fault anyway and he stained our relationship by committing that sin. I'll make him pay for what he did... that goes for the girl too.
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
8 May 10
I am sorry to know that. If I were you, I would never believe that she would not do it again. It is the forbidden fruit. One is bound to crave for its sweetness at some time or the other. Besides, she knows she would always be able to get away after seeking your forgiveness. One does not taste poison to know what the taste might be.
@forteafuture (105)
• China
8 May 10
I am sorry to hear that.I think the following questions should be answered:
First,why did your gf do such thing?
Second,are you sure your gf still love you?
I am a girl and my bf and me are in different city too.We can meet each two weeks.But we both never do that thing.
I think if a girl loves her bf,she will never do that thing.
