I made a bet with my daughter
By Shasta
@cupkitties (7421)
United States
July 26, 2010 9:51am CST
Last night at dinner she was telling her little sister "Ryan is the only boy I'll ever love". She's had a crush on the same boy for 3 years so because of this she is confident that no one will ever take his place. She's 11 years old and will be going into 6th grade when summer vacation is over, meaning a new school with new faces. I told her that she's too young to know that for certain. She says "I bet you" So I said "Okay I bet you $200.00 you will have a new crush next year" and we shook on it. Do you think I'm right or is it possible that she might continue to like the same boy? Have you or did you know someone who liked the same person for their whole life?
20 responses
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
26 Jul 10
That sounds like a silly bet to make. And your right, she most likely will like someone else by then. But she probably won't let go of it easy if it's been going on for 3 years. I mean me and my current boyfriend for over a year have known eachother since 4th grade but there was moving and reuniting and getting to know eachother later in life. So you never know, she might find someone else to like for now but he might come back and he might really mean something to her when she's older. Who knows? I didn't expect to be dating the little boy that used to joke with me about silly things on the bus ride home after art class. Good luck with your bet!
@mrcol1010 (209)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Well really i think it depends on this boy's actions. If he, for instance, starts dating another girl, then your daughter will most likely grieve for a little while then move on. You can never know with children though. They are oh so unpredictable at the younger ages. Hope this helped. :D
@subterfuge54 (207)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I had a crush on someone when I was still 12 and until now that I am 21 years old, I'm still on to him. I haven't found other guys more attractive than he is. But I never called it love because it's more of a very very deep infatuation for me. Or some would say that I just don't want to face the fact that I am really in love with him. I still don't know for sure. But the guy has no idea until now. Maybe he could sense it somehow but I never confirmed it. It is a very hush hush topic for me. Maybe your daughter will win. Good luck on that! :D
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Wow that's a long time! You're right she might just win. You should talk to that guy.
@subterfuge54 (207)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
You think so? But I'm quite satisfied with the friendship we have. It might just ruin everything.
@gtgtgta2002 (6)
• Jordan
26 Jul 10
I'm sure she's gonna forget him soon but u shouldn't tell her because the childhood love is the greatest love she will ever have because its pure and from the heart but she is gonna forget everything about him
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I'm not sure about that. I don't think a young child can really understand what love outside of family love is. Look to some of these horrible boy bands fans these days for an example of that .
@colorfulseafish (82)
• China
26 Jul 10
It's hard to say.maybe she will have a new crush,but i think it'll not be that soon.i agree that children's love is the purest of the world,even though someday she falls love with others,the memory is still sweet.whether you'll win or lose the bet doesn't care much,your daughter will surely grow up and know what love really is.
@liaamur (417)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
hahaha..this is cute, cupkitties!
i think she will have a new crush, but i think she will be confused because as a kid, she will not want to let go of the old one. i mean, she's had a crush on the boy for 3 years! at her age!
good luck on your bet, but i think you could have bet something an lot lesser than $200--you think that's not too much?
happy mylotting, though!
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Nah I wouldn't make her pay that. lol. That was mostly just to show how much I was sure she will like someone else. The winner gets to say "Told you so" and wave their finger in the losers face for dramatic effect.
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 10
well..i used to have a crush on a guy for 3 years..but when time passed by..i think i should let go of my crush cuz for sure he wouldn't like me..so i like this cute guy...and to my surprise..he like me too!!we got together and we are still together for 6 years...i mean maybe ur daughter maybe stick to her crush forever or she will find a new one!!only god knows but good luck!!
@myswirlyagelessmind (379)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I know better than to make a bet with kids, they're just so bent on proving me wrong. Anyway, I hope your daughter plays fair but I doubt it.:) I'm certain she'll like somebody new next year, but will she admit it? It's 200 bucks. I'm literally scared for you.
@woodman321123 (356)
• China
27 Jul 10
I think your deal with this thing is not very right . In my opinion , make a bet with your daughter is not very adapted for her , which may be lead her to get a bad habit . do someone agree with me ?
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Hi cupkitties, My daughter also had a crush like your daughter for quite some time although not as young as yours, but as a teenager, when she was allowed to date, the crush lasted only until she got to know the boy better. You know as well as I that your daughter is simply too young to know that. I think you were a little premature though in betting that amount for only one year. I might have betted for the period of middle school. Possibilities always exist but I think your right.
@ashton77 (292)
• India
26 Jul 10
I think you are going to lose the bet. She will be a 6ht grader next year. She is too small to have another crush and yes I am sure that the bet she had with you will not allow her to have another crush. Even if she did she would not confess and win the bet. Had the bet been for after 3 years or more than you would have won. $200 will be too much for her to lose on for a new crush. All the best
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Oh I'm prepared that she may not admit to it for the simple fact she doesn't want to be wrong or she may fess up to me. I can tell when she's not being completely honest. She and I have made bets before but we don't actually expect each other to pay on them as we are family. We just make the bets mostly in fun. As someone else said its a silly bet to make. That's kind of the point. I guess we have a weird humor.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I think anything is possible! And if this boy has been her crush for three years already, I would say he obviously means a lot to her to begin with. I wish I knew what the outcome was going to be. Good luck!!
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I don't think the bet is the most important part of the story. It doesn't really matter who wins. What I really like about what you've shared is the sweet moment you had with your daughter- such an awesome bonding.
To answer your question, yes, it is possible that your baby girl could have the same crush next year. If not, I think she will lie to you to get your $200. After that, then that's the time she'll probably reveal who her new crush is.
@stefanisaiah (167)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Wow! $200 is a big. Maybe she will have a new crush. If there will be news cute boys around her. Or she may think to stick to Ryan, just for $200. If I were your daughter and I realize my mom is right I will have a new crush, but because of $200 I will stick to Ryan. The betting so big.
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
27 Jul 10
She is young and will definitely find a new cute boy on campus very soon after school starts. She is what you would call "new love." Being so young and in love I would find it hard for her to stay in love with the same boy for the rest of her life. Her heart will soon wander after not seeing her crush after some time. If she hasn't moved on by Jr. High, she will definitely move on when she enters High School. So I should think that you will be having two hundred bucks in your hand sometime within the next four or five years.
@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
27 Jul 10
Ya i am sure that she might change her mood and forget every thing and go over another.That no one will predict for future.
