My son hates sport. Why?

Germany
October 27, 2010 7:54am CST
Friends, My son is 7 years old. Very cute, very intelligent. I am really proud of him. But only one of his trait make me to worry. he is lazy. He hates sports. he likes to be sit always. I send him to the hand ball (a game like foot ball)class. he hate that class. He doesn't like to go to hand ball class. As an average mother I like my son to be good or at least average in sports. I don't know whether he is born with this trait. If so I should accept it. Some times I doubt whether I made mistakes. because I also hate sports. Now please tell me about your childhood or parenting experience in this matter. I hope your learning your experience may help me to guide my son. Some times I worry whether I give trouble my son by forcing to do sports. Thanks in advance.
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22 responses
@thesids (22207)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Oct 10
Hi John, I believe that handball is not interesting to your son. Thats all. If it helps try finding out from his friends what games he plays at school with them. Maybe, he has some likeness for those. It can also be that he is missing his friends in the school where he learns Handball. As for the parents involvement, I dont think it to be a great point of issue. When I was a kid, and stayed with my grandparents, I was more into home games like carrom and chess... as they were great people to play no doubt. But as I grew up, I was more interested to play Badminton and Cricket with friends and those became important. So I think it is about finding out what his friends are into. I believe you have a computer at home. Also noting would be his relationship with that device as it makes many addicts and kids of his age are more exposed to becoming the victims of Computer Addiction. My brothers son, he doesnt even go out forget sports. He remains glued to Toons and Computer Games. So if that is the case... I cannot ask you to gift that Laptop or PC to ME!!! :) Regards, theSids.
• Germany
27 Oct 10
You made me laugh again. Wait I'll get permission from my son and give them to you. Yes , He is addicted to them also. But i have not jet started to send him out alone. In one or two years i will send him out.
@thesids (22207)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Oct 10
Hi John, Laughter is sometimes good and I am happy that I could bring those smiles on your face :) Have a watch on the time he uses the computer as he might get addicted to that and keep sitting on it the whole day instead of moving out. It is too early for his age. Regards, theSids.
@chayapathys (2112)
• India
31 Oct 10
You are happy with your son otherwise.What if he does not go to sports as long as he is normal in other walks of life.In many places there is no scope for children to participate in any sports.What do you say for them.Even if they are interested there is no scope for them to participate in any sports.Closely observe him and he would be evincing interest in something or the other.If it is not bad encourage him to get involved in that line.You are unneccesarily worrying yourself.you attend to his needs and he will become a very useful member of the socity..Don't worry..God bless you
• Germany
31 Oct 10
Thank you very much for your encouraging words. As you told he is a useful member. You know, my job is child care. To get this job educational qualification is not enough. They observe over family life carefully and then only give this job. the kindergarten principal of my son said a good remark about me to my department like this: "She is a mother of a very good boy". His every action is admired in school. He is a very happy child. thank you again.
• United States
27 Oct 10
Johnpillai- Perhaps it is the sport he hates not the exercise. My husband and I do not care for most of the typical sports such as basketball, football, baseball, etc. My husband is a martial arts instructor though so we gain our exercise in other ways. I don't think it is right to push any child into a sport that they dislike. It will only cause them to resent the one pushing them. I have six children and each one of them is as different as night and day. Not one of them likes the exact same thing, and I do not chide them for that. They are individuals and have a right in this world to do what makes them happy. Perhaps just begin by having a conversation with your son about what he likes to do and then engage in those activities. And keep in mind that age seven he very well may just want to play, and play is the best exercise a child can get. Namaste-Anora
• Germany
27 Oct 10
Wow, you are a mother of 6 children. You may have lot of experience. my son also has particular interests. i always encourage him in his way.
• India
27 Oct 10
Hello Pillai madam I don't think there is any thing wrong with your son , some guys don't like sports. to be honest i never liked sports though my dad always wanted me to be a good foot ball player, each child has some inherent talent, which becomes evident with time only. Thank you so much for this nice discussion. Professor. . Cheers
• Germany
27 Oct 10
Thank you professor. I know that you are highly educated and high professional. I hope one day my son will also shine with his own talent. Thank you for your encouraging words. The class teacher of my son also says the same like you.
@peavey (16981)
• United States
27 Oct 10
I don't think there's anything wrong with not liking sports. Each of us have our individual likes and dislikes. Some people enjoy reading and some don't. Some people like to cook and some don't. So some people like to play sports and some don't. I wouldn't push him into things he doesn't enjoy. It seems to me like that would make it even worse, especially since you don't enjoy sports either. As Stine said, why not have a family outing of some sort, if you're afraid he isn't getting enough physical exercise? Another thing to think about if he doesn't want to be physically active at all, is a visit to a good doctor. He may not be as healthy as he could be. One of my daughters was always "lazy" and didn't like to participate in physical things. It took a long time to discover that she was anemic and needed extra iron. When she takes it the way she's supposed to, she's as active as anyone else and sometimes more so.
• Germany
27 Oct 10
Thank you for sharing your experience as a mother. My son is mad on reading. he read more than his age level. because his mother reads always. He loves cooking. he loves gardening and caring animals like his father. as he told I will consult the doctor also.
@dorannmwin (36634)
• United States
8 Nov 10
It could be that it is just a stage that your son is going through. I encourage my children to try different sports and in fact, my daughter was involved in gymnastics for four years and my son for two (they actually both want to go back but right now we aren't in a financial situation to be able to do it. Additionally, both of my children love to swim. I try to expose them to the opportunities and they decide what they like to do from there.
@ipenk1000 (207)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 10
first take him to the gym..for example a football stadium. then tell what is good about football, about the foot ball star, they could be the ido of many people. not in force let them choose their own. remember, exercise is good for health
@amelialsc (162)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
why do you force your little boy to do something he don't like. Try cultivating something else that will eventually lead your boy to those healthy activities. I bet you know what he likes and what not. Don''t worry about it so much. Just keep track on his food intake and little routines.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 10
Hi, SInce your son does not like sport.maybe he did show some interest on music or other activities. I don't see the point why you have to force him to play sport game. For me, I won't force my son for doing thing that he does not show any interest on. Let's have a good chat with your son and try to understand what he likes to do.Maybe he love to read books,etc... Then get him more involve in what he likes.
@funkykid (441)
• India
30 Oct 10
yeah sme kids dont get involved in spots as much.even ne of my nephew has smiliar kind of problem.he des'nt get intrested in any of the phyisical sports.even if i try to motivate him he just dont change.then i thought better to no to fore him and just let that kid go as he like.may be he has a great tech geek mind and that would make him successful in the future.so we cant judge that kid as abnormal.right ? Happy mylotting :D
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Hello there! As far as I know, the liking or interest of a child on a particular thing like singing, dancing and sports, etc. develops or developing as the child grows up. It also depends on the exposure that parents give them. If the child was not introduced to sports there really is a chance that the child would not be interested to it. You said that you yourself hates sports. It could a factor that your son doesn't like sports. Not genetically but evidently through NOT seeing you indulging in sports as well. Maybe, you don't need to force to get interested to sports. Instead, encourage him to do a little sports. You can expose him through letting him join school mini-tournaments. I am pretty sure that most schools here and abroad has a program in sports included in their curriculum. He's still young. At least buy him a ball. Or any toy sports things and gears. It will just get into him as time goes by. He is still young and he might not know yet what is enjoyable thing to play or do with his friends. Kids most likely copy what others might do or enjoy. Allow him to explore things his way. As a parent, the best thing you can do is to support him whatever he chooses as long as it's for his own good. May it be sports or academic. Good Luck! ^_^
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
I think you shouldn't worry about your child. If he is not interested in sports, that's fine. As long as he is interested in school, or learning, or art, then that is already something. Not everyone likes sports. Although I am a sports minded person and played for our high school and college varsity team, my daughter on the other hand excels in school and is not much for sports. She's 7, and she's already tried Ballet and TaeKwonDo. She likes ballet better. she likes dancing. She's not much for fighting. I don't expect her to like soccer either which is what I was thinking of having her join because she's terrible in running and always trips when she does. She also likes studying better than anything else. So I don't worry much if she's not into sports. I believe in enhancing what a child does best. If they like to study, let them grown in that. Give them books, spend time with them learning different things. If they like music, give them the opportunity to learn different instruments. If they like art, give them paper and coloring materials. Your son in the same way might discover many other talents. Don't just focus on sports. I'm sure there is something he's wanting to do, you'll just have to experiment to find out what it is. Good luck!
@SHAMRACK (8587)
• India
28 Oct 10
Dear friend, I want my son to be doctor but he wants to be engineer what can I do should I force him to be a doctor. No I will not do that. If my son hated sports, may be that will not make his lazy. Other than sports there are many things interesting and if son likes like drawing, photography, film making, dancing, singing, clay modeling, innovative creativity, story writing, many many things in life that makes one busy with. May be those interesting things son like would like to do is much sporty for him. I feel let son be on his own way provided make sure he is enjoying his life without hurting his normal health and mind. I wished son would been a good painter if sent to a painting class or music class, instrument class, dance class so on.......
@ebuscat (5940)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
For me also I don't like sport's but i love to watch over it.
• Pakistan
28 Oct 10
u just tell him about the benefits of sports,u should inspires him to be a sport person.its good 4 health,etc...but u first play with him in ur own home.i hope if u do this he would definitely like sport. just inspires him.........he is kid so he will act upon ur advice:))
@thaMARKER (2505)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
well, nothing is really wrong about that. i don't like playing any sports myself but i watch games sometimes but not to the point that i'm that sportsminded. most likely he's just into indoor stuff. maybe he likes board games kinda stuff instead of ball games.. i was an athlete when i was a kid, believe me. i used to be a champion. but i lost it during middle school. busy with studies.. until college. but i still watch games live and on tv sometimes as what i've said.
@isroxck (39)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
I think this is just a matter of interests. I know, as a mother, this is what we call your "expectation" for your child huh ? I personally don't like sports too. I don't even know the rules for basketball, football, or whatever -ball you can name. Why ? Because I just don't like it. There should be no force when it comes to interest...It's hard to convince yourself to like/do something which you don't like to do. Also, I disagree with one thing you've said... You hate sports .. but this doesn't mean your children are gonna hate sports too.. It's influence and environment that alter our interests. Maybe if your son has friends who are sporty...he'll slowly get influenced by them and begin to like sports ? Well..interests can change as we go through our growth =) Just relax and let your son choose what he wants.
@JUNGLE (1157)
• South Africa
28 Oct 10
My Father played soccer and tennis as a young man,he also was a keen angler,but I have never liked sport as a child.In fact I failed in soccer and could'nt hit the ball in cricket,because I simply disliked it.I still wont play sport as an adult.When I was around 30 I seriously began studying and training in the Martial arts,I have since become proficient in Shaolin Kung fu,and Japanese Jiu jitsu.Please do not put yourself down just because you and your son hate sport.You must realise that not everyone is the same in the world. Sport is a good thing but just like other things in the world it is not for everyone.There is a saying that says "One man's meat is another man's poison" In closing I can say that I myself dont like sport but I dont actually hate it.I have always felt that it is a waste of my time.!!!!!Lol!!!!
28 Oct 10
Hello, I have my son right now and he is 8 years old a grade 3 student, as I observe him he doesn't like to play basket ball most of his friends are playing basket ball and other sports but my son he always play a toy cars and he like biking,for me he is like me because I dont like sports I like biking maybe I can watch sports but not so.
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
27 Oct 10
You shouldn't force him into sports if he doesn't enjoy them. He may grow into liking them later on in life, he is only 7. He may also simply take after you, you said that you are not fond of sports yourself, right. Your son may be one that is more artistic or musical, or maybe he will be one that likes to read or something else. I think that if you ask him what he really enjoys doing, and encourage him to pursue those things, as well as try new things, you will find that, as he grows up, he will be a very well-rounded young man, and will definately respect you more for not forcing him to do sports.