I want to enjoy life and here's what I'm going to do!

@JenInTN (27545)
United States
January 31, 2011 3:56am CST
Right now I am to the grind. When I get home from work..I don't feel like doing anything else. I have a ton of homework and the girls want their mom to hang out with them. My b/f is doing alot of the work sround the house for me..thank goodness..and the cold weather has got me down. Sound like I'm crying yet? No...I am leading up to the fact that I want to enjoy life. Even if it is just a little bit..I want it. Even if I have to force myself out of this house to do it..I'm going to. I am going to start planning a summer vacation when I get home tonight. Well...tomorrow night..I have school on Monday night...lol..anyway. I am going to try and get out at least once on the weekend. That's not easy because I am working Saturdays and Sundays right now..but even if it's just a movie or a trip to the mall...I think it will be good for us. Have you ever had to force yourself to have fun? What kind of things do you do to enjoy life? Any suggestions for me?
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@writersedge (22577)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I find that if I work all day and that day turns into carving night, I just want to rest. But I do want to do carving and it's only every other Tuesday night. I already had a prior commitment on one of those Tues, so I can only go to one a month. So for once a month, I can force myself. Right now, having the gas $ or any $ to have fun is the challenge, I'm just paying bills lately.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Money can be a challenge. How is your carving hobby going? I am thinking of going hiking if it's warm enough. Strolling would even be nice. I just want out right now. The sun has brought with it a sense of restlessness...lol..Thanks for responding.
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@writersedge (22577)
• United States
2 Feb 11
I was carving a mushroom, the top is good, the base is not bad, the part inbetween is too think and looks like garbage. The pinecone I was doing looks like something the squirrels ate part of. But I read about a guy in his 90s who is a really, really neat carver, he started out very young and said he ruined a lot of wood. Right now he's making a wooden carved memory quilt of all the holocost children. There is another carver doing an exhibition, a Tibetan Monk who will be demonstrating at our college. I hope I'm able to go see him. Strange how there didn't seem to be anything having to do with carving and now there is like this entire carving world out there.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Kind of like a car...you never see many until you buy one. Well..your still learning and I would say that it is not an easy art. You can erase sketching and wash off paint...there is really no room for error in our new hobby. One wrong chip and you might ned an entire piece of wood. Sounds like some interesting exhibits!
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Good morning Jen, u really do need to make some time for yourself. I use to work that way to & look where it got me. I know how tired u can get & all u do is want to go home & get out of the rat race. Take some time to smell the roses while your smeller is still working, lol.U know anything to have to do w/ryan makes my day. Right now he's playing basketball & i'm enjoying going to his games & being w/my son. Hope u have a good week.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
That Ryan is quite the little athlete. I know how much you enjoy him. How are things coming along with the other son since Christmas? I know I need to slow down but sometimes I don't know how..lol. Thanks for responding Jo and enjoy that Ryan.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
31 Jan 11
i TELL HIS DAD HE HAS BRAINWASHED RYAN when it comes to sports. I have not seen my other son since they were here Christmas or talked to him. I think i'm just giving up. Don't know what else to do. Have a good one, Jen.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Darn it..I was really hoping that you and that other grancdhild would get to spend some time together too. Your right though..you can onky do so much.
@celticeagle (124572)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jan 11
I think you are doing fine and I am glad to hear you are going to make yourself get out occasionally. Just what you need to do. I have explained my situation til I am blue in the face. I eat to enjoy my life. I get Netflix movies. I Mylot. I am writing alot and trying to keep up on that. I see my great grandson too.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I am getting out of here this weekend if it's the last thing I do..LOL..There has been a small period of sun and I think I might have spring fever.
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@celticeagle (124572)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Feb 11
I think that's just what you have. I feel clostriphobic when it snows. Feel all tied in.
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@zweeb82 (5711)
• Malaysia
31 Jan 11
Yeah, you need to chill!~ Relax!~ Chillax!~ Haha!~All work & no play makes Jen a dull girl? Hahaha!~Seriously, we need to rest & take time off or we'll all go bonkersNormally I watch TV or nowadays I play with my son, that helps to relax a bit
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Not as dull as I am grumpy I am getting out of this house this weekend if it is the last thing I do..lol...I am tired of being tired and grumpy...LOL...
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@zweeb82 (5711)
• Malaysia
31 Jan 11
Ya, thats sounds like a great plan, haha!~Hope you enjoy yourself!~
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@GardenGerty (130362)
• United States
1 Feb 11
My hand on a cast of a bear's paw. - I have large hands for a woman, but this is a cast of a black bear's front paw. It is huge. We really enjoyed the zoo on Friday.
The weather turned warm last week, so we grilled one day, we took walks and we also went to the zoo in another city. I am not working or going to school, but I am almost constantly online or doing house stuff or cooking. I never seem to want to go anywhere. These were major good days for me and getting out made life much more enjoyable.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
That sounds great! A trip to the zoo would be awesone if the weather was good. I had a great time the last time I went. They have done a lot of work to the zoo here and it was beautiful. Thanks for the response!
@dearlene (78)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
I always spent my time to enjoy my life. Usualy I go to watch movie or try some new food in the restaurant. From those tow activity try some new food is the most I like. I usualy go there with my friend or family. So my suggestion for you, that you should watch movie or eat in the restourant and the most important thing you shouldn't go alone, you have to go with friends or go with you boy friend.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
That's wonderful that you always try to enjoy life. I have so many things that I get caught up in that I lose track of that sometimes. Thanks for responding.
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• India
31 Jan 11
I can understand you. Everybody needs sometime for themselves. work is important for life but rest and enjoyment work as a motivator for us. i think. When you are tired and don't feel like working , postpone the work as much as you can. To enjoy like spend time with friends, go out with friends, go to some hill station to enjoy the nature. that's what i do to enjoy my like and i also love food. Mostly i take my dinner out in my fav. resturant. I love eating. I love indian, chinese food.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
That's a wonderful idea! maybe I will eat out this weekend too. Thanks for the response and welcome to myLot!
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
31 Jan 11
Good Luck Jen! I know you will do it. Coming to forcing. Last day of the last month, that is December 2010, I was so bored of the run-in-the-mill job that I struck out the last 7 days of January 2011. And guess what, it so happened that we managed to get a week long holiday. Every day we looked at the calender and my boss and me laughed at it. But then. it did happen. How? I have no clue! It was like reliving 'Secret'. So, when you hope for something really bad, it will bound to happen. I wish you luck and keep us updated.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Good for you mimpi! I'm glad you got that long holiday. Maybe if you and me hope together...I can get one off too...lol..Thanks for the response.
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• United States
31 Jan 11
Is everybody home on Sundays? If so take an hour and have family time. Play a game , add an hour and see a movie. Connect before everyone goes to finish their homework. As for the mall, Sounds Great. First you are out of the house. Second, you are walking, Third, It's Shopping!!. If you are like me , it is fun just the window shop. I can';t tell you how many times I found am item on one of these trips and then months or weeks later , went back and got it because I needed.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Oh yes...I love window shopping! I think a trip to the mall is in order...LOL...I work on Sundays too but I think my boss is going to fill in for me this weekend so I can have it off..whoop whoop!
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• United States
31 Jan 11
Is there an hour when you , the kids and your love are All home together?
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
On most evenings we are. I am just too tired sometimes to enjoy it to be honest. I also have papers and stuff to do throughout the week for school. Even when I am doing homework I use my laptop to station myself in the middle of my family so we are always around one another. The winter is always very busy..in the summer I won't be working near as much. I'll have my vacation days and I will only do a 5 day week. sigh...those are the days.
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@ElicBxn (61191)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I think you are being very clever. Where are you planning to go? I think a wander around the mall isn't that great, but to each their own, besides, most of the malls here are failing. Guess I need to try one of the malls that aren't failing to walk - now that my toe is better.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Well..I like the malls but the girls really love them..lol...I am throwing a bunch of things in my mind. Hiking a little, eating out, movie..something nice. If I don't get out..I'm almost sure I'll sleep the whole time away. As far as vacation...I'm thinking Siesta Keys. I don't know though..summers at home are nice too.
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@ElicBxn (61191)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Tennessee is a lovely state, but maybe a winter away from home in a warm place would be better than summer in Florida...
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
True so true.
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@Shar19 (8235)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I know how you feel. I've been feeling really depressed lately too. My grandmom's health is declining fast and my dad is in the hospital. The snow and cold is making me want to hibernate until Spring. I know that I need to get out of the house by myself more. I also know that I need to get moving with my exercising more. That always makes me feel better. I think you should go out and buy yourself some flowers. Then get to the nail salon and treat yourself to a manicure. I think I'll do the same for myself.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Good for you Shar...if you will...I will...but you have to promise. I'll even post some pictures of my toes...LOL. I like pedicures alot. I just haven't had one in a million years...I've been doing my own. Professional massages are nice too. That's an idea...hmmm...you've got me thinking now..lol..
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• Canada
1 Feb 11
I don't know whether either of you two gals have "Groupon" or "Wagjag" in the cities near you...or if you belong...BUT my suggestion is that you look into it...as daily they offer real...and I mean real discounts for massages, spa treatments and professional nail services. Many up to 67%, so making these special treatments within reach of a lot of our budgets. Cheers!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Hmmm..I don't know if I have any of those around me or not...I'll research it and let you know though...oh I hope we have one near us Shirley!
@thanks1961 (7041)
• India
1 Feb 11
I think for me enjoyment is whenever I become free from my debts. I think if we financially sound and no financial liability, whatever we wish can be done. I think and feel so. If the burden on top, I think I cannot enjoy any pleasure as all the pressure gazing at me. Wish you all the best and enjoy as much you can. This is the only life we can do it. Best of luck and have a nice day. Thank-s
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I hope you become free from those soon. I have bills but at this point I have managed to bring myself to the point of little debt. I owe for my house and that is it for the moment. I would like car though. I hope that you find a way to enjoy yourself soon..like you said, this is our only life.
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I know exactly how you feel. I am feeling the same way right now. I feel so much stress! I think I am going to treat myself to a movie tomorrow. Just me, myself, and I. I'm going to watch what I want to watch, eat what I want to eat, and just be myself for a little while. I hope you are able to have some fun and relax a bit. What is the point of living if we can't relax every once in a while?! It sounds like you are really busy. Fitting "me" time in is so important because without it we can get burnt out and that leads to depression. I feel myself starting to get depressed lately. I just need a break. Of course, here I am at 2 am working on the computer! UGH!
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Yes and me taking a moment to get on a few minutes until 5am before heading out the door. Good for you for treating yourself. You deserve it..everyone deserves it. Thanks for the response and take care.
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
How I enjoy life...I just do what i love to do. Right now am trying to discover what my passions are. I've read somewhere that our passions are those things that we love doing, without noticing the time, and without any difficulties...at all. And I love shopping... i love malling...I love looking at the beautiful things at the mall. I really dont have to spend much.I can wall around the mall for the 24 hours without getting tired...
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I like the mall too. I have lots of passions..it's just finding time for them all that I have the trouble with. That's ok though..this weekend is mine..LOL...thanks for responding and welcome to myLot.
@millertime (1397)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Yes, you have to do that. You need to have some way to relax and rewind once in a while. It sounds like you work a lot and if you're going to school too, you are going to burn yourself out if you don't take some time to unplug once in a while. You can pick simple things like going out to dinner or a movie or both. A night out, once a week or whatever time frame you want, but plan it and do it. Then once in a longer while, take a long weekend and go to a recreation spot. I don't know what part of TN you are in or what's around you but I'm familiar with the area around Gatlinburg and Pigeon Forge and there's lots of stuff to do there and a big national park especially if you like outdoor activities. Even if you just go camping or spend a night or two in a hotel and going to a "tourist" type place to do something a little out of the ordinary. It's like a mini-vacation so it's not too expensive and it gives you a chance to forget the humdrum daily grind for a bit. You'd be surprised how a little 3 or 4 day mini-trip can recharge you. I wholeheartedly agree with you. You should absolutely take some time to enjoy life on a regular basis. Go for it!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Thanks..I really do need it. I think we all need some time out. The sun is out and calling my name..LOL...mountains beware..I am coming out this weekend!
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 11
Hi Jen Yes many a time specially when I was working, now I still do because I am sick with the Lungs at the moment and I just do not want to go anywhere well tomorrow I am going into town before I pick my Daughter up from the Station and while she is here no doubt we will be going to places lol I really hope you do this and enjoy it and try to do it more often Jen
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Thanks gabs. I'm glad to hear your daughter is coming. I hope you two have a great time!
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
hello JenInTN! that's a really very good idea, you have to relax and have some time of your own, to give yourself time to wind down and rest a bit. It would not do you good in the long run if you force yourself to work and work with no fun and relaxing in between. I have a different way when i want to relax, i sang my heart out with the Magic sing or what we call here as videoke. It exercise my larynx and throat muscle and it gives me the necessary outlet to let my stress out.Aside from dancing, it's one of my best de-stressors and relaxing activity. Just having a picnic by the beach also calms me down and gives me that serenity which i long for during hectic days at work and at home.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Sounds like you have great ways to relieve stress and wind down. I do need some fun. I've been grumpy..lol...Thanks for responding.
@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 11
Not exactly force myself, but remind myself. It's easy to get caught in the grind, and when you go and do something you enjoy, it works wonders.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Oh I need it Dawn. I am so tired that I will have to force myself..lol..if not..I'll sleep for a hundred years.
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jan 11
hi jeninten sounds like a great p lan to me and you really do deserve iot too. This awful economy with everyone having to cut back and so many people without jobs wears us all down. I am retired but here in this retirement center and being physically handicapped I feel at times isolated from doing anything thats fun anymore. I do love to mylot and that takes up a lot of my time. Then I have a health issue I have got to give in to and doctor for that. I think the only thing I am doing lately is mylotting for fun. I figure once I get my leg well I can do a few things I enjoy doing.Reading, listening to music playing bingo those I love doing. nothing exciting there, I long to go down to the beach again on of these day and just listen to the Pacific and maybe chow down on the best chili in the world at Charlie's chili on the beach. lol Do you have anywhere close to you a beach where you can just listen and relax?I love to stroll along the beach and look for pretty sea shells.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I love the beach. The closest one to me is around 5 hours away. I am thinking of some hiking..I love this one waterfall that is very close to where I live too. It's been sunny Hately and I want to get out. I love myLotting too...if it wasn't for that I don't think I would have any "me time" at all right now. I do hope you get to hear that ocean soon. Thanks for responding.
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@hofferp (4737)
• United States
31 Jan 11
When I worked, I often had that problem. Unfortunately, even when I forced myself to go out and do something different/fun, it was often too little and didn't really help relax me. It needs to be part of a daily routine, not a weekly/monthly/annual routine. I know that's hard; I could never do it, but my overall mental, physical and emotional states paid the price. I'd set aside time, no matter what (to heck with the house being cleaned weekly, etc.), to be with the girls. Make sure you've alloted time for the kids. That one you'll never regret. I now regret being married to work, but when I was working you couldn't tell me that someday I just wouldn't care...
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I do try to set aside time for them. That is one of my most important times. I just sometimes feel it isn't enough...thus the movie choice. It's hard when your all caught up in the job and the school thing. I push myself a little...lol..I don't know how to stop sometimes though. Thanks for the response.
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