Some tips for self protection of women.
By DoctorDidi
@DoctorDidi (7018)
India
March 29, 2011 12:30pm CST
It is a pity that women are not safe enough still now. I have some tips for them by which they can protect themselves to some extent. Always look confident. Even if you feel insecure, walk and behave confidently. Criminals dare not attack an individual who has an air of confidence. Even in unknown surroundings, always show that you are familiar with your whereabouts. Though there is no guarantee, yet I think that these tips may be helpful for women. What do you think of my suggestions?
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
29 Mar 11
It is common knowledge that in any pack of prey animals, including humans the hunter will choose one that show weakness, so showing a look of confidence is part of a good protection. Being aware of your surroundings and if possible carry a weapon, if nothing more than a heavy purse is a good idea, but you must be prepared to use it.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
1 Apr 11
It's a bit difficult to appear confident if someone is stalking you or following you. These guys are cunning and I believe women know moments before hand that a predator is close...not much you can do at that stage unless you know how to deflect an attack.
@RubiePerl (72)
• United States
29 Mar 11
I agree with you 100%, and always walk with your head up and not down too, and look around you paying attention to everything.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
31 Mar 11
I totally agree that you should always look confident. I remember when I was living in Los Angeles and everyone always said don't walk alone at night and stuff like that. I would often do just that, but I walked with purpose and I was almost never bothered. The one time I thought about things that could happen then I saw someone in the shadows and I started feeling scared and ran. I was ok in a few minutes, but since then, I have always remembered to walk with confidence wherever I went. Thanks for bringing this up!
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
4 Apr 11
That's right. Women should know how to protect themself by many difference ways. We shouldn't go out alone at night or empty places etc...
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
29 Mar 11
All women should learn how to kick some serious but. Women I think maybe looked at as weaker than men and therefore they get bothered and attacked more often. I believe that nowadays women are more attentive to whats going on around them. They have become a big part of the work force and are now very independent. Yes, women should learn more techniques on how to defend themselves. But believe me, women today are tougher then ever.
@celticeagle (164633)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Mar 11
It is true that perpatrators do usually go for inconfident victims because they are easier to control and manipulate. People need to be aware of their surroundings at all times. Very important! And most are not and don't even think about it until it is too late. But don't think for one moment that a perp won't try to manipulate even a confident person if the need is there.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
30 Mar 11
Does that happen in India, it happens here too. We need to empower them to need fairly, that make others especially the males they the women as equal, discourage religious and cultural views of women as inferior and train them skills like marital arts to defend themselves.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
30 Mar 11
That's great! You are so smart, Doctor is that it? :p
I dress like a bada** when I was alone somewhere dangerous, like there was this time I was going to my studies but it was night and I had to go through this park, I dressed like guetto you know, like hip hop guys, not girls, really like a man but anyone could see I was a girl. I would walk around like I was really trouble, there is a way they walk, no one ever came closer when I was like that. And having some kind of weapon because we are girls, very hidden, we'll never use but I think a girl who walks alone late of night should have one.
@waterproofpaper (139)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
This time there are a lot of bad guys, some just turn bad because of the influence from their environment, some may look and act bad as their defense mechanism. but still deep inside there's a lot of good guys. Woman are easily get abused because they look weak. Self protection cannot be guaranteed with some knowledge on self defense. Confidence, awareness, behavior and a lot of care are also needed.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
30 Mar 11
Yes friend this is a good tip even the women are unknown surroundings, always show that they are familiar with the place. But some other tips is also necessary like if a person commenting on any girl or women dont fight with them don't reply go strait, don't go anywhere with new person because now in college the girls gone with any boyfriend etc.
nice discussion.
@ashish3090 (254)
• India
30 Mar 11
I think self confidence is good for all but overconfidence have many side affects I agree with your suggestion and let spread this message to all of the women in this world....
@kris182_2000 (5444)
• Canada
29 Mar 11
Being a woman, that does sound like good advice. Unfortunately it didn't help me one Halloween when I was out alone.
My friends had ditched me to go fool around by the school and left me on the pathway alone. It wasn't well lit, but I knew where I was. Sadly, I wasn't 10 minutes away from home.
I was walking down the path with my mask just above my head, the guy who assaulted me didn't know if I was a guy or a girl. He thought I was a guy, the plan was to steal candy only from guys I guess, no idea why.
He had me down on the ground, fighting with me, I was trying to get away from him, he was trying to get my bag of candy and get my mask off my face, which had fallen down by then.
The guy had jumped me from behind, deathly silent. No one knew this had happened to me, I guess my friends were around the other side of the school, or had left already.
I was 13 at the time, and absolutely terrified of going out at night after that. Not that I was ever allowed to, Halloween was the only time I was.
You need to pay attention to everything around you, it doesn't matter if you know where you are, predators don't care about that. If you're distracted for any reason, they prey on that even more.
The suggestion of taking a women's self defense course is a good idea. It could save your life.
@anklesmash (1412)
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29 Mar 11
I have one self defence tip i don't know how legal it is but i would use it if i thought i was in genuine danger of getting hurt.it is to poke your key between your first and second finger of your fist adding extra damage to your punches.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Absolutely and although no grantees walking if full confidence does not suggest being weak in any way. Sometimes woman or man walking with displays of being scared can cause for a look of an easy target.
@sameer_1984 (215)
• India
29 Mar 11
Hello doctor didi,
You have given really a nice suggestion to all women.But I want to ask that Have try this Idea to get rid in any dangerous situation?I think women should learn about some weak points in human body and if they trapped in situation where they can try to hit the criminals at this weaker parts of body.I think they can hit the kick in between legs,they can give strong punch on the nose and if they are fortunate to get some object then they can heat it on head of criminals
Happy mylotting.
@cindrani (19)
• India
30 Mar 11
Yes, I am of same opinion regarding insecurity of women in society, but think a while, is it an occurrence of all the time right from dynasty of Lord Krishna to Monmohan Singh. The difference is that we are informed the facts on courtesy of media. A biological factor works here. Hence, we the female should be cautious a little more. We should not provoke with our dresses, attitude as we often find in roads today.
@knoodleknight18 (917)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Looking confident is helpful in all aspects for all people so I think that's a good start. Also consider this. Avoid unfamiliar areas especially at night, get to your destination: walk don't talk, know where you're going and why.
The best thing to do is to avoid questionable situations, parties with people you don't know well or being alone with people you just met. For all the worrying women do about walking alone at night, most are victimized by abusive boyfriends or while out drinking/partying. Just because you party with someone doesn't mean they will look out for you, especially if they're doing the same.
In the event you are randomly attacked or threatened, yell for help as loud as you can and keep yelling. Run away if possible at least to an area where people might see you. Most criminals fear attention and will probably be scared off. If you can't avoid physical confrontation, poke them in they eyes, or if you have on a heeled shoe, stomp his toes with the heel. You don't need to be strong or well trained to make either of these work well.
No matter what, the best way to avoid being a victim is to avoid situations where you might be one. The winner of a fight isn't the one who isn't hurt, he's the one still standing.