First Responders On A Discussion

Well, well, well as I say to mysd I am almost last! No need to pitty, as I am getting use to it. Okay now that I read about the chains, handcuffs, whips, potted, roots and petals, I figure I would leave my response here: NO I do not feel I have to be the first comment at all and besides I do enjoy the chain discussions and how else can that happen if someone does not add to the mix. No one can dictate here who can and or cannot comment first, that is ridiculous for anyone to say. This is not a conversation between two people, I think there is a place called Yahoo Answers for that. Are you kidding as fast as I am with my own discussions many will be faster then me, and that is okay, because the more content added to any discussions the livelier it gets, you know for anyone who doesn't... It keeps the discussion up in the recent tab list and yes I do enjoy that because the more the merrier. Therefore my thoughts on this issue is that anyone who is against that perhaps should re-think being here as no where does it say we can't, can restrict and or not allow anyone to do so. Errmm many new comers are encouraged to do it daily here, you know to further discussions. *Whistles*

Well... now that y9ou mention it, and seeing as it has been brought to my attention today... I shall do exactly as I always have done and go where my fancy leads me. I might be first, last or in the middle but as long as I get in somewhere I don't mind... with one exception (but we won't mention any names or places here ). When I start a discussion of my own, I absolutely don't mind who comes or when. I think those that respond first on mine engage in some sort of 'tag you're it' game and see who can get to the most boxes I will comment to the first responses almost as soon as they are posted but if a certain lady gets to be in the first box, then while I am going back to her, others will be commenting on the following boxes and that's fine by me. MyLot is teamwork: user A starts a topic and everyone else goes in and leaves responses and comments so that everyone else can go and add to them. Who does it first is of no importance to me whatsoever.

i try to respond back as early as i can to the person who replies in my discussions, sometimes like a discussion that i started a few months back and i receive any new comment on it and i am not in mood to reply or too busy then i just rate them positive. I think its necessary that even if you don't reply the people who comment in your discussion then atleast give their reply a rating.There some friend whose reply i eagerly wait like jaiho as she never miss to comment in my discussions and i also try to do the same.BTW nice discussion friend , its deserves a positive rating.

Except if a discussion finds only one responder, I am never the first to respond, and I am also very slow on my comments. I am grateful to those who put some animation in my discussions and I don't care to be the first to comment a box. I jump sometimes in a box to leave a comment, but I do this only with friends since a member said me last year when I was new at myLot something like : "I am from the old school. I don't want to see anyone else than the starter in my box."

I am fast becoming a professional discussion hijacker! Got a couple of dastardly friends too! Does anyone really mind? I'm also often first to respond on a new discussion and that's where I'm a jinx - it stays with one response forever! I look through me "responded" pages and there I am on most of the pages. I hate being the "last response by"!

I know I have been all over your discussion and commented and also place a response earlier but I wanted to add one more additional responses: This actually is a good discussion as usual I do read through all responses and comments in all discussions I always enter. I am reading and re-reading through a great deal of responses here and it allows me and others know what perhaps might upset some and how we as "polite" members should know what to avoid. Though in my culture we do mingle with anyone in any discussion and or conversation, we certainly do not do so with malice and or rudeness. Often times as stated above in a party per se the host might be quite busy, therefore, why not politely entertain ourselves and the others with perhaps fun and or informational discussions. Oh I don't know it can be quite a boring party if everyone sat around staring into space awaiting on the host. On the flip side here though not a party or formal meeting often times that jumping in allows the responder to get their questions answered. How often we see new members enter a discussion with questions and never get a comment back from the host?? Very interesting and also wonder if anyone has/did/will have an issue why not say something politely. We don't jump into discussions with the intent to take it over, or at least I have not seen it that way, nor have I perceived ever to do it that way. We do respect all here as we too like to be respected as well. I do remember a discussion not that long ago where many of us including us two entered it and all of us got a lot of information from that one and also shared a lot with many others. It was quite a serious discussions which did make it to the hot topic that day, and continued to draw in members and lots of questions. Sadly the discussion starter did not come back until well over 24 hours later and suddenly stated that the member meant it a different way. As the member was perceiving it a different way, by then many lost interest on the discussion as lots of efforts where put forth then for it to have gone in a total different direction then the topic originally indicated. Could have been a long running discussion if the original discussion started made it clear right away. I suppose that is neither here or there as this discussion really is to see how members feel. Therefore, this truly is a great discussion and a way to express what some do like and don't. As I can't imagine it being a rude if one does not know how the other feels. Certainly we are told we can by the guidelines but surely we will respect anyone wishes. So you know I am not one, to ever mind, in fact I prefer it as it gives me yet that much more to chatter about.

It doesn't make any difference to me if I make the first response on a discussion or not. I do try to respond back to all of the comments that others leave on my discussions although sometimes I just don't do it very quickly. I am trying now to catch up on old discussions from when I was not on here alot.

Of course I care, PA, but thanks for asking. I love to get in there and beat you to the punch, it's something about the quaint fragrance of fresh flowers floating int the air that drives me,,,,,, I could never figure why anyone cared if they were first to respond, yet I always try to be first also.

I don't care for others responding first. I think it is kind of rude. Like they feel they know more than I do or something. Or they just have taken over the conversation. There are a couple of people who do this. And not just to one of my responses but several. What's up with that?

I think every box is fair game especially if you see a friends box. Sometimes you have no choice but to jump in and leave a comment as sometimes the original poster may never reply, so why waste a chance to have a good chat with a friend or on an interesting topic. I have only seen an original poster get angry about it once in all the time I have been here.

As much as I want to be the first to comment back on responses to my posts, sometimes it is just impossible. I just have a limited time to myLot (my offline work sometimes takes so much of my time, uggghh!), that I can't get back to it immediately. I do appreciate some users who get in the responses, and contribute to the discussion.

Everyone participating in this discussion said the same thing. It is immaterial who comments first on the responses. The only comment I feel like making here is that it may be appropriate the mylotter starting the discussion comments preferably as the first one. However, due to time differences this may not always possible and we all should feel the discussion has achieved the objects of this site like this very discussion i.e., getting number of participants with lively comments.

Hello PA. Well, i try my best to respond first, but if not, i really don't mind. As you said, it's a lot more fun as everyone just JUMP in and respond. It's the jumping that makes it interesting, don't you think?

Hello PA, You are talking about... what? Starting discussions? What's that? I can't remember, silly me! I haven't started a discussion since... let me see... four months? I am sure it wouldn't have bothered me if anybody else had commented before me, especially that I couldn't be here all the time. I'll try to start a new discussion to see if anything changed.

I think you have summed up my feelings really well. There is plenty of room to talk and discuss, so jump in and have fun where ever you fit. I do not care if you comment on a response before I do.

Well I try to respond immediately, if possible, that way the person knows I am online and thus we can discuss the topic even more. I like when I comment on someone's discussion, then I refresh the page 5-10 mins later and see that they responded to my comment, simply because that means I can continue the conversation right then and there. Does that make sense?

I always hope there are lots of people responding and I don´t mind at all if I´m not the first to comment on my post. In fact, it happens many times that I´m sleeping while other friends are waking up. There ar no ways of participating in "order". Besides, as I have a latin culture, I don´t mind if many people talk at the same time and don´t find that unpolite. What I do like is an interesting and lively discussion.

I never looked at the discussions started by me from the angle mentioned by you. I give reply immediately after comments. If u come across people who share same ideas, beliefs then you may have running discussion. It is not common in my case. have a nice day.

You have posted an interesting discussion and have received a great deal of responses to it. That is a compliment to the discussion that you have begun. I like how you have titled it. I am in agreement with what you have said. I do not always have the time to get back to everyone who responds to a discussion that I have started immediately. I have a job and other obligations. I am always delighted when other people comment on a response. I think that that is what mylot is all about. I do not believe that a discussion should only be between me and another. I welcome anyone else who wants to offer their thoughts. The more the merrier.

Hello PA, I normally get late very time. Its really a fun to jump on others boxes. I have seen you doing this. You really are very fast i have seen it. I also have been trying it but you know things get inherited by experience.