Pressure on getting married...

Hello Chiyosan, well you know your friend more than I do and if I may ask, is your friend a type of person that listens to suggestions or she just do what she likes in life? I can understand if she feels so old being 30 and not yet settled since her brother married ahead of her. But the thing that you can explain to your friend is about marriage. It is not that easy if she don't know the person very well. In this hard life, is her man able to support her financially just in case they would like to settle down. Who is going to handle the wedding expenses, etc. If you think that her bf is not yet capable of supporting your friend, then just tell it to her straight. Another thing to ask her if she was able to meet the family of her bf (family background). Is the guy really single and not married somewhere and to someone else? How long have they been into relationship? Just one step at a time. Don't push her your ideas if she really don't like. You can decipher your friend if she really is your friend and if she don't hide any facts from you.

It is true that one should get married when s/he has settled in his/her life. You can advice her that she should consider all the pros and cons before getting married in a hurry or due to pressure. Marriage is a life long relationship and one should take a conscious and well thought decision about it.

Personally I can relate with this one even though I have been married over 12 yrs. I am the oldest of 5 kids. I was single when my Sister Married over 15 yrs. ago, and no intentions of changing that back then. When my brother married like 5-6 months later this was still almost 2 yrs. before I met my husband even. Yes, there were some pressures there, even if from no one else, but from myself. I was the one wishing it was me even though I knew I had not found the right person I wanted to be with the rest of my life.

If she really wants to marry this guy then just respect her decision. She probably love this guy that's why she asked for it. If they don't love each other then file a divorce. or simply separate each other.

Hello chiyosan, I hope that pressure don't so much that he ends up marrying that guy. You should help her being her friend. One should marry only once he/she is settled and ready to take responsibilities.Its always better not marry then have early separation after marriage.She should take her own time for taking decision.

She must be so pressured. I think, she should not rush into marriage. She might not live happily and just regret her decision in the future. If I were in your shoes, I think, what I could do the least is to give her examples of unhappy marriage because of rushing and thinking that it's her time to get married but she's wrong. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. She must think of it many times and weigh things up. :)

I think it will be suffering to marry to a wrong person. Because this will be terrible for your rest life. Actually today people tend to get married later since they want to have a good finance at first. It is no need to rush in the marriage. And your friend is just 30 years old and it is not an old age anyway. She shall take advantage of the time to find the right one rather than marring to a wrong person. Otherwise one day she may feel regretful to it. I love China

I don't think it is wise to get married because you are being pressured by your family. I believe that there is a right time for doing so. And getting into a lifetime knot should be thought not only once or twice but at least ten times. Your friend should wait for her match and get married at the right time.

My friend's younger sister is also married last year, then my friend's mother is waiting to her marriage. But my friends wants to study further and to get a good job. Its really increasing her pressure.