Sweet and soft voice attract us.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58679)
Delhi, India
September 8, 2011 12:53am CST
Hi All!
We all feel mesmerized by sweet and soft voices. Since our childhood, when our parents used to call us very softly and sweetly, we used to pay immediate attention to them. As we grew older soft voices of our teachers and Lecturers in our schools and colleges used to attract us. Some of us entered into service, where we are required to deal strangers every other day. If we deal with strangers and first timer in sweet voice, they feel glad to hear us. It creates a good impression and it is also said – ‘first impression is the last impression’. Like-wise if we go to any public place and we are treated with delicate and honey laced voices, we feel at ease. We feel encouraged to talk and come out with our problems. On the other hand coarse and harsh voices put us off. No doubt sweet voice and its delivery make a deep impact on our mind. If you are in service sector where you are required to face strangers, do you speak in soft tone and always try to be humble with them or do you just speak in your normal tone and do not bother what others will think about you? Please share your views and experiences.
We all feel mesmerized by sweet and soft voices. Since our childhood, when our parents used to call us very softly and sweetly, we used to pay immediate attention to them. As we grew older soft voices of our teachers and Lecturers in our schools and colleges used to attract us. Some of us entered into service, where we are required to deal strangers every other day. If we deal with strangers and first timer in sweet voice, they feel glad to hear us. It creates a good impression and it is also said – ‘first impression is the last impression’. Like-wise if we go to any public place and we are treated with delicate and honey laced voices, we feel at ease. We feel encouraged to talk and come out with our problems. On the other hand coarse and harsh voices put us off. No doubt sweet voice and its delivery make a deep impact on our mind. If you are in service sector where you are required to face strangers, do you speak in soft tone and always try to be humble with them or do you just speak in your normal tone and do not bother what others will think about you? Please share your views and experiences.5 people like this
24 responses
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
8 Sep 11
Hi Deepak
I agree with you that a sweet and gentle voice makes us feel comfortable and we bond with the speaker immediately. However, what I feel is that an empty sweet voice will not really be of help to me. The person who is speaking should be sincere and genuine too…only then will the sweet voice impress me. Agreed, first impression makes an impact but it should not be the lasting impression just like you cannot judge a book by its covers. Yes, we should always remember to be polite and display good manners but beyond that, if we cant deliver the goods, especially in the services sector, our sweet nature will not take us very far.
PS: as you can understand, I dont really bother to add sugar to my words or voice ....I'd rather be professionally polite
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Sep 11
See, again you’ve made me laugh
Even I don’t know what exactly is professionally polite but I use this term to describe the way I deal with people in office and professional areas. By this definition, I’m never too sweet nor do I bend backwards while interacting with important people or I never smile unnecessarily. But that doesn’t mean I’m frowning all the time or avoiding helping people or shouting at them… I do my job efficiently and expect the same from people.
Actually, there’s a small grudge inside me against ladies who are always smiling and doing sweet talk…. I’ve seen them taking undue advantage of their gender especially with men and getting things done much easily. Call it sour grapes or whatever you will, it’s not in my nature to act and talk sweet but the way I behave with people is exactly the way I am. So gradually I’ve tempered my true nature to a polite smile at the best and this is what I call professionally polite.
Even I don’t know what exactly is professionally polite but I use this term to describe the way I deal with people in office and professional areas. By this definition, I’m never too sweet nor do I bend backwards while interacting with important people or I never smile unnecessarily. But that doesn’t mean I’m frowning all the time or avoiding helping people or shouting at them… I do my job efficiently and expect the same from people.
Actually, there’s a small grudge inside me against ladies who are always smiling and doing sweet talk…. I’ve seen them taking undue advantage of their gender especially with men and getting things done much easily. Call it sour grapes or whatever you will, it’s not in my nature to act and talk sweet but the way I behave with people is exactly the way I am. So gradually I’ve tempered my true nature to a polite smile at the best and this is what I call professionally polite. 1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
Nice to know that I could make you laugh .... Lol!
I now understand the meaning of 'professionally polite'. It means you try to be neutral. You do not smile unnecessaryily or you do not yell at everyone.
You have stated an interesting point - that there are some women who will become extra polite and will smile to get their work done. You see those kind of women know that some men are vulnerable and would fall in the trap of their fake smiles and this way they get their work done. (Do not grude them, it may be their nature .... Lol)
Like you, if someone (read a women with fake smile and fake sweetness) tries to fool me for getting her work done in office, I do not get trapped in such tactics. If it is within my powers to finish the work quickly I will do and if I am helpless, I will polity tell her - "look Madam, it is not possible, and I can not go out of the way or ignore rules and regulations for you."
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 11
Hi Sudipta!
You missed my earlier 2 or 3 discussions
. Welcome back and thanks for responding to this one. Sweet voice do attract us and we feel connected with the speaker and I agree with you that it should not be hollow, it should have some genuine emotions or at least we are made to feel that the speaker is speaking with real emotions. I know you are straight forward and would not add honey or sugar to your voice, for the sake of it.
BTW what is considered as 'professionally polite', it is a new term for me.
. Welcome back and thanks for responding to this one. Sweet voice do attract us and we feel connected with the speaker and I agree with you that it should not be hollow, it should have some genuine emotions or at least we are made to feel that the speaker is speaking with real emotions. I know you are straight forward and would not add honey or sugar to your voice, for the sake of it.
BTW what is considered as 'professionally polite', it is a new term for me.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
9 Sep 11
Hello dpk! 
I like to use a soft, consist and clear voice when I speak as I am not a screamer nor do I allow my vocal cords to escalate. It is not in my nature to raise my voice and I always try to be me in any and all circumstances.
I can say that soft voices are really sweet, as this is the one thing that got me in love with my boyfriend. He has a very sweet soft and passive type demeanor about how he speaks that I admired him very much for being so gentle when he speaks, especially to me. After almost 8 years together, I have yet to hear him raise his voice.
I like to use a soft, consist and clear voice when I speak as I am not a screamer nor do I allow my vocal cords to escalate. It is not in my nature to raise my voice and I always try to be me in any and all circumstances.
I can say that soft voices are really sweet, as this is the one thing that got me in love with my boyfriend. He has a very sweet soft and passive type demeanor about how he speaks that I admired him very much for being so gentle when he speaks, especially to me. After almost 8 years together, I have yet to hear him raise his voice. @hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
9 Sep 11
Awwh Hatley, I like Pattytricia! 
The nickname my boyfriend has called me from day one is "Doll". He did so on our first date and to date almost 8 years later he still only calls me doll. He is a keeper.
The nickname my boyfriend has called me from day one is "Doll". He did so on our first date and to date almost 8 years later he still only calls me doll. He is a keeper. 1 person likes this
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Sep 11
Here in America, the louder the better except in certain libraries.My mom would bellow for me when she wanted me. My teachers used their voice just a bit raised over their regular volume.And even in courtship , many first meet in a night club , where the music is so loud , one must shout to be heard. That's it! Many of us believe we must shout to be heard. So soft voices are rarely heard.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
It is OK to speak in loud voices, where there is need of it. However, if someone speaks to us in a low voice with sweetness it does create a good impression on our mind.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Sep 11
hi dpk I worked in the public as a nurses aide and later as a page'in our local library. both jobs demanded that I was kind and considerate to patients and a soft sweet voice was what I used both places. Ill people do not need harsh cranky voices or too low voices just considerate sweet kind tones worked wonders with very sick people. and p eople looking for books do not want someone to snap at them so again sofe courteous tones works wonders always.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
10 Sep 11
Hi Hatley!
Nice to see you in my discussion.. I can understand that working as a Nurse and then in a library both involves public dealing and you need to be sweet and nice with others. Sick people need more comfort and if someone speaks to them in a sweet voice, they feel more relieved and half of their illness vanishes.
. I can understand that working as a Nurse and then in a library both involves public dealing and you need to be sweet and nice with others. Sick people need more comfort and if someone speaks to them in a sweet voice, they feel more relieved and half of their illness vanishes.
@celticeagle (189793)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Sep 11
This is true. Not always something a parent can do but definitely something we need to try always to do. Using a calm voice and not letting it get excited helps to keep any situation from excellating. I think it is hard sometimes to keep that calm voice too when you get overly excited in a given situation.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
It is correct that in our excitement we forget to keep our voice in a low tone and sometimes this happened unintentionally (this happens with me too, when I talk to someone on phone and get excited.). However, if we can control our voice and could speak in a measured tone, that helps a lot.
.). However, if we can control our voice and could speak in a measured tone, that helps a lot.1 person likes this
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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8 Sep 11
i dont so much think its the tone of voice as the respect it shoes you.
when people yell and scream at you, they lack respect for you and think they can treat you how they like.
also, when someone talks louder than you, its generally thought that they are trying to assert their authority over you.
so talking in a low voice shows respect for the other person.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
Hi chick!
I really agree with you that if someone is speaking with us in a low tone, it shows that s/he is showing respect and if s/he is shouting or yelling that means he or she is unnecessarily trying to show his authority.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
10 Sep 11
No one likes to be yelled at, but sometimes it happens with us unexpectedly.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
9 Sep 11
and no offense to anyone.. but if you yell at me, i am NOT going to listen haha.. i dont like people tihnking they are better than me no way.
@ifa225 (14468)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 11
Hi Dpk...
i try to speak soft when i face my kids. sometimes they really can get you out of control.
i know that speak soft are more effective then yelling when we ask them to do something. but i don't want to be hypocrite, i often lost my patient when i had told them over and over again but they still won't listen to me
i try to speak soft when i face my kids. sometimes they really can get you out of control.
i know that speak soft are more effective then yelling when we ask them to do something. but i don't want to be hypocrite, i often lost my patient when i had told them over and over again but they still won't listen to me@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
10 Sep 11
I hope your kids would feel a great delight when they hear you speaking softly with them and in their heart of hearts they always expect you to be sweet to them. No child likes to be yelled at, even if s/he is very young.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
hello dpk,
This is true.
I worked with customer service and when a customer tells me that I have a sweet voice, (hehehe) I can't help to smile and say "baloney"
I don't have sweet voice anyway..but working with customer service, you have to be sweet and accommodating thu you want to yell the person at the other end
have a good day 
jaiho®
have a good day
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
Hi Jai!
OH! It is sounds really sweet to hear that you have sweet voice and this used to confirmed by your clients. . I understand that you are expect in delivering dialogues with a honey laced voice.
. I understand that you are expect in delivering dialogues with a honey laced voice. @dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
Hopefully, you want to convey that your appreciate good attitude and sweet voice?
@jennyze (7027)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 11
When I was in a service sector as you put in I did try to maintain my expression and of course my tone and voice, too. Do you know I went to the back room and vent my impatient after that and to whoever colleagues would listen to it. I felt like I was a hypocrite most of the time....
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 11
Hi Jen!
You see it would have been your job profile to remain polite with others and you would have left with no option but to speak to them in a sweet voice.. It is OK to vent out with colleagues at a later stage, when no one is around. This remind me of a suggestion given by my senior colleague. He would say that if your boss is thrashing you, be quite in front of him and when you come out of his chamber, give him choicest of abuses (of course in your heart) and cool down your tempers.
. It is OK to vent out with colleagues at a later stage, when no one is around. This remind me of a suggestion given by my senior colleague. He would say that if your boss is thrashing you, be quite in front of him and when you come out of his chamber, give him choicest of abuses (of course in your heart) and cool down your tempers.@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 11
when you see no 'danger' around, you could be to 'yourself' and could blast anyone.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
An angry person, when talked to, with a sweet and soft voice, would lower down the voice too. It's because , they get ashamed that they sound too aggressive over the other person and would be perceived as the bad person.
I too would like to be talked with , in a sweet and soft voice. Nobody wants to be walked with harshly, or with an authoritative of confronting voice. The tendency is to be offended and would sometimes fight back by being harsh voiced also.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
You are right dear that if someone is shouting and we control our tone and speak to him/her in a measured voice, it will create a positive impact on him/her. Yes, it is also true that no one likes to be treated harshly because it hurts.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
8 Sep 11
I also loved a sweet and soft voice. I always loved the people who are generous to me in a gentle manner. Now I am a teacher and I also try to talk in that manner but then I see that some student will deserve that gentle and soft voice but some will not.
They are exceptions otherwise everyone love the sweet and soft voice.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 11
Hi Sanjay!
Nice to meet you. It sounds interesting that you are a teacher and you like to speak in sweet voice. I can understand your point that there may be some students in the class, who won't listen to you, if you are too polite to them. In that case, you may perhaps need to use some harsh tone to control them.
. It sounds interesting that you are a teacher and you like to speak in sweet voice. I can understand your point that there may be some students in the class, who won't listen to you, if you are too polite to them. In that case, you may perhaps need to use some harsh tone to control them.@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
You appear very responsible, sensible and caring teacher and you know how to handle your students. Hope your students admire you. Keep it up.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
8 Sep 11
Yesyou udnerstand it very right because there are some students in every class who will make the noise all the time. They don't take much interest and due to those some students who are there to study gets disturbed.
I love the students who will be responsive in the class and will act positively when I ask them the questions. I talk to them in a soft and sweet voice and it is natural one.
@voracious (624)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
I love people with soft voices specially girls it attracts me most or should I say hypnotize. Even a rich man can be fooled by a simple soft voice. Anime voice actors in Japan have soft voices so everybody loves to watch anime just to hear such cute voices.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
It sounds interesting that sweet voice of a girl could hypnotize you and you will start following her, if she asks you to do so. Who is Anime, have not heard about her?
, if she asks you to do so. Who is Anime, have not heard about her?
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
8 Sep 11
There are people who are gifted with a really soothing and soft voice that just calms you down straight away. When you're angry, that calm voice will immediately soothe out that anger. I have a teacher with a soft voice and when the class starts to get loud, her voice will just settle everyone down! It's amazing! =)I wish I had a soothing voice.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 11
You touch the core of the discussion, it was precisely what I wanted to convey that soothing voice could ruffle the feathers and sore tempers and you have rightly given example of your teacher, whose voice cools down others.
@mayka123 (17083)
• India
3 Dec 11
Yes its true that a sweet and delicate voice attracts us and makes us feel comfortable when talking to that person. On the other hand if the other person is talking rudely and in an angry tone we too automatically respond the same way. Sometimes when talking to any Customer Service Executive on phone even if the job is not done but they talk to us politely and sweetly we are not so upset.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
12 Dec 11
Hi!
We all love to hear sweet and soft voice and harsh voices put us off. Hope you speak politely with others in your office.
Thanks for sharing.
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
9 Sep 11
I get greatly annoyed when someone uses an overly sweet voice with me. 
I feel as if they are being condescending. I feel like they are treat me as if I am 2 years old. They aren't being real. I'd like to go off and smack some sense into them, but of course I can't.I try to ignore these people and not have anything to with them whenever possible. I prefer for people to use their normal every day voice with me.
I feel as if they are being condescending. I feel like they are treat me as if I am 2 years old. They aren't being real. I'd like to go off and smack some sense into them, but of course I can't.I try to ignore these people and not have anything to with them whenever possible. I prefer for people to use their normal every day voice with me. @dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 11
It means you don't like it when someone speaks in his/her sweet voice. Do you take it othewise or feel that the fellow is pretending to be sweet?
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
11 Sep 11
I don't think they are being real. I also think they want something from me.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 Sep 11
My normal tone is usually fairly soft. I do consider the way I say things and the tone I take when I do it though...especially at work. I want to be approachable for the people that work under my guidance and I know if I make them feel like I am being aggressive or cold..they will not come to me. I think people respond very differently to the way things are said versus what is being said.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 11
Hi Jen!
I can very well imagine that your voice would be soft and your speak nicely because the way you write on my posts, makes me feel that you speak gently. I understand that you would be very popular with your colleagues.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
8 Sep 11
I have tried that everywhere but some places it works and some places it does not. When I sweetly ask my maid to do something it is not done. I repeat my command with a soft voice and still it is not done but some need a harsh voice that sets them in action and my maid is one such specimen but we are both fond of each other and indispensable to each other too!
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 11
Hi all!
It may be correct that sweet voice or soft tone may not work for everybody you deal with.. You see 'maids' are special and they needed to handled diplomatically and as per the circumstances..
I think speaking with children with a harsh voice sometimes could be counter productive and children may become rebellious, when they grow up. It is a general statement, nothing to do with upbringing of your brother's children. Thanks for joining us.
It may be correct that sweet voice or soft tone may not work for everybody you deal with.. You see 'maids' are special and they needed to handled diplomatically and as per the circumstances..
I think speaking with children with a harsh voice sometimes could be counter productive and children may become rebellious, when they grow up. It is a general statement, nothing to do with upbringing of your brother's children. Thanks for joining us.@allknowing (153544)
• India
8 Sep 11
My brother (who is no more) never believed in the soft voice theory specially when it came to putting law and order in his children's life. But I have yet to meet a father who loved his kids more than my brother did.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Yes, as I talk to anybody I see to it that my way should always sound polite. You can easily get the trust of others as you talk in a soft and sweet voice. However with others with a man's voice you can be attracted to them the way they carry their conversation in a decent and intelligent manner. And remember,this kind of voice is being used also in making foolishness to others and in bridging crimes.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
11 Sep 11
You mean to say that you believe in talking polite and you believe it does create an impact on others.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Yes, talking politely is really very pleasing to the ears as you hear respect.
