How often do you keep in contact with your friends?

@ksherrie (891)
Singapore
December 21, 2011 5:12am CST
I mean, everyone you know, that you consider as friends. For me, I only keep in contact with really close friends. We even go out on a regular basis for coffee, or a shopping trip. I don't usually call them to talk, probably just message them on the phone. Other acquaintances though, only once in awhile when an opportunities arise. So do you keep in contact with everyone? Or just a handful?
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
I actually have two sets of friends. One is my friends from the office and another one my group of friend from college. The first group, of course are the ones i am in constant contact with. But the second group is only through emails because they are abroad. But whenever they come home once a year, we would really have a blast, chatting and going out. Both groups are what makes my life colorful.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
You divide your group of friends? So these 2 sets, they never know ech other?
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
These two sets of friends that don't know each other. The second one are my long time friends , who are also my town mates. Most are abroad, but we always communicate through emails, and would always gather whenever they go home to the Phils. , which is yearly. The first set are my closest office mates.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
On closer thought, I think I have that define definition too... Friends from work, friends from school, friends from other school... But maybe I been to one or 2 occasions where I have a friend accompanying me... So I have a few friends from different groups becoming friends now due to their common interest of pet dogs and drinking... Now they are closer with each other than with me... Lol!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
I often thought, when I was younger, that I'd keep friends forever. Talk to my best buddies everyday and never spend great experiences without them. But as I mature, I come to realize that friendship isn't all about getting in touch often, but rather, the fact that true friendship could still exist amidst the loss of communication and daily activities. True friendship is understanding that it's part of growth that we need to give space. That when a person grows his/her priorities change and sometimes friendship would get the last priority but doesn't mean that it's forgotten. I have good friends I've known since my childhood days. I don't get to talk to them often, neither do I see them regularly. But we know that we are friends for life. It takes a lot of work to have friends, but true friendship doesn't take a lot of effort anymore. It's just knowing that amidst the silence, friendship is bound for life! I'm happy to have good friends and I am glad that they grow with me. Have a great MyLot experience and a good Holiday Season!
@wanghui (894)
• China
21 Dec 11
i agree with you.as well as see you point.meanwhile,as a addition i think that if can be together with friend would be happy more~~
• China
22 Dec 11
i totally agree with the comment posted by laydee, true friends are meant to be, like the lovers. As we are close friends, we dont need to contact with each other everyday, s/he may be far away, but once we get together, even no words were said, we know. hope all of us get more close or true friends as time goes by.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
28 Dec 11
I see and understand what you mean. I still have a couple of girlfriends, that I don't really meet often, neither do we chat often on the phone or online. But when they need me, I try my best to be there, and vice verse. Merry Christmas and a happy new year to you too!
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 11
errr.. i can say i am rare to keep contact with them since they are live far from me. maybe only in facebook i can say hi to them.. tough i have their phone number, i only contact them about twice in a year
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
Is there any reason why you only contact them twice a year?
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 12
Yeah. I only sent them a happy new year sms and in our holly day That is the right time for me to say hi to them Actually i want to say hi more often but i am afraid i will disturb them cause thy are so busy
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 11
I have a lot of friends and I only contact them when the need arises. I may contact them everyday, and sometimes not even once in a month. Like you do I message them on the phone because that's the cheapest way to communicate. Besides, I meet my friends on weekdays because most of them are my friends at my office. Regarding my old friends, I mean my friends when we were at high school, I have seen none of them ever since. They all might have moved some where else.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
I see, so, yanzalong, non of your friends now are from high school? They how did you get to know your friends? Work?
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 12
I've lost contact with most of them. A few of them are still living in the city but I seldom meet them.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
My friend very often to contact me and I done the same with him...
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
Great! Hope your friendship remains everlasting!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Dec 11
I think the option of keeping in contact with some or all of your friends have become relatively easier with the help of two advances in technology: facebook and smartphones. I have both. Even though I don't want to talk to some or all of my friends all the time, I do know what's happening with their lives as notifications are easily read from smartphones.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
17 Apr 12
I agree, with technology, keeping in contact with friends are so much easier... Keeping up to date with them is also faster. Kind of like stalking sometimes but less intimidating...
@Porcospino (31367)
• Denmark
21 Dec 11
My best friend and I don't meet very often because we don't live in the same part of the country, but we talk on the phone and exchange text messages and emails. When we meet we are usually spend the weekend together, we talk a lot and have a great time together. Most of my other friends also live in another part of the country (I used to live there as well) but we still visit eachother sometimes and we talk the phone quite often.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
I haven't had your kind of experience... Guess email and messages on Facebook will work... Do you miss them as much?
@agent807 (751)
• United States
22 Dec 11
I don't have as much contact with my friends as I used to. We used to hang out and did different things. We started drifting apart, though I admit, I may have initiated the drift. There are two reasons that this drift occurred. The first one was that everyone I knew was becoming more involved in having a relationship, getting married, or dating. It's not that I don't want to get involved with someone, but I haven't found the right person, yet. My friends tried to help me out, or wanted to pull a vicious joke on me by setting me up with people they knew were trouble. The second reason is because I found myself becoming a workaholic. I was constantly working, hardly ever having time off. It wasn't like I tried to take time off, but I was always denied, and had very little time to hang out. So at the current moment I don't have many friends to contact.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
Oh my, how can your friends be that vicious? But I'm sure your friends will spare some time to catch up with friends? Or you can always make new ones here in mylot!
@anil02 (24688)
• India
22 Dec 11
Hello. friends will be always remains friends whether we contact with them on regular basis or not. contact with friends depends on some factors. Age is one of them. In out young age we spend more over time with our some close friends. When we got marriage and have children our priority is changed. We cannot contact with friends on regular basis. But we must be try to live in touch with them by phone, internet etc.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
Hi anil02, I know what you mean, sometimes life just have to go on even we are losing touch with our friends due to other commitments. Thanks you for your response!
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Dec 11
Really depends on the friends to be honest with. Several of them a couple of times a week. Granted it might not be that long, but it is brief and cordial. There are going to be times where we touch base, to really see how everyone is doing, hopefully everyone is doing well, hopefully there is really going to be no bad news whatsoever. There are a few friends that I have with insane schedules. Of course, I think that in many ways there is a bit of a divide, as they have higher priorities than their friendship which if that is what they need to do, then that's what they really need to do. Can't say that I'm not disappointed, but there are just going to be times where life is going to end up like that.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
I guess you do have friends that are mega busy... Don't worry, I'm sure you will meet up with them soon enough...
• India
22 Dec 11
I maintain two types of categories in my dictionary of friends. One is 'knowns only' and second is 'friends'. I only maintain close contact with this category of 'friend'. Very few of 'friend' qualify as 'close friends'. And with thos category I share most mf my personal life and problems.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
I guess that is a very clear classification. I also have a group of friends known as acquaintances that I only play games with on Facebook. I only share personal life and problems with those I meet more regularly. Anyway, thanks for your response!
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
22 Dec 11
With my busy schedule, it's very difficult to keep in contact with my friends. This is one of the reasons why we ended up getting apart with the time until we are not that close friends anymore. That's why I keep seeing that with the time, I'll only have a few true friends, like my sister, because you kind have to see your family in a regular basis, so, I know that I never going to lose contact with her.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
Wow, you are close friends with your sister? Guess I don't have that luck. I have 3 brothers. Different interests, a bit hard to talk sometimes being the only girl... And sometimes, they just don't understand what I mean... Haha... Headaches when that happen, because, if they don't get it, or don't understand, I will usuallly leave it at that and try to change a topic, my brothers, they will ask and pester for an explanation and reason till they understand or they give up themselves...
• Davao, Philippines
22 Dec 11
I have lots of friends...but I only have few selected close friends. And this in only the group of people aside from my family circle, that I manage to find a time to be with them and contact them if ever I feel I already miss them...I contact my close friends at least once a week...It's either we meet in the church, in a mall, in a social gathering or just plain call on the phone. What is important is that we maintain our closeness with our friends whom we value in our lives...
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
Good to hear that! Do keep them close!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
Wow I liked how you spend your time with friends on a regular basis. Now me and my friends don't have any regular days spending time together. Normally when one suddenly invites us only. Or if I tell one friend we should meet up. Probably because they are busy too and one already have a family.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
Thanks... I only have a handful that I connect with regularly... Other times, we are also busy with work and families... Similarly like you, most of us meet each other when there is a specific gathering like birthday or dinner.... Otherwise, it will be another year till we meet again.. Haha
@narthan (325)
• India
21 Dec 11
People who i have just acquaintances with I don't bother to keep in touch much. It is only when required or a purpose i try getting in touch with. And sometimes i try keeping in touch with them through social networking sites like Facebook or orkut. Regards, Narthan
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
Acquaintances on Facebook? I have a lot! Does playing games with them on Facebook count as keeping in touch?
• India
21 Dec 11
I keep in contact with my friends on a regular basis, I have lot of friends, and we usually do hangout call each other and stuff like that, Even my friends that are were in college and school are connected through me via Facebook and other networking sites. friendship should not last for particular time it should last forever. True friends help each other and behave like lovers it may sound awkward, but the true friends are defined in that way. I have heard of many friend in my college days who were friends just for the sake of having a friendship and as soon as college gets over everybody goes on their own track and probably forget each other in their busy schedule life. My friends are in contact with me its like a little word which i have created in my school and college days. I love my friends very much.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
28 Dec 11
Sound like you really have great friends by your side. Keep it up! Wish I have a group of friends like yours!
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
21 Dec 11
Hello ksherrie, I always want to be with my friends but lately due to strenous offline job and responsibilities i hardly meet them but always remain in contact with them through phone and internet.Recently one of my best friend has gone for a job in another state and it is difficult to meet him now a days but i often talk to him on phone which keeps the friendship more stronger.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
Hi sjvg1976, I guess it will be even harder for me if one of my friend went overseas, as I am hardly a phone call kind of person... Luckily there is facebook.
@Woody7189 (247)
• United States
21 Dec 11
I have a small group of people in my inner circle of friends that I keep in close contact with. I will either see them, call or send an email every couple days and they are all up to date on what is happening in my life. The other friends I am not quite so diligent and will get a hold of them whenever I have a spare minute, but it is not as often. I don't really have the time to talk with everybody on a regular basis.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
Sound like you have quite a number of friends... Good for you. I only have a handful of close ones that I keep in touch more frequently.
• India
21 Dec 11
I would like to keep in regular contact with my very close friends but I often get totally sucked into a very busy schedule in company's work. Like the last approximately three year period. It was unimaginably crazy busy. My friends would call me up inquiring if & when we could meet. We have two-three very very close friends' groups. I could only borrow time. But, thankfully, I have found freedom from hectic schedule lately and have started calling & meeting them. Though I live in a different city of 3 hours' drive.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
Woo... At least you call them up. I'm not exactly a phone call person. Maybe the era I grew up in... We message more than call though...
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
I have a close circle of friends and we go out regularly as well, like once a month, we maintain contact every time we have the chance, and that chance is when online on facebook which is everyday. but to other acquaintances, we meet up during events mostly, around a month or so, but i still text them if I have the chance. And of course, still facebook which is like a 24 hour hotline.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
10 Apr 12
Nice, you have a close circle of friends that you go out regularly with. I have one close friend that I always go sing karaoke with... Haha... Another one more often for movie meetups....