To tell or not to tell, again!
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
United States
March 6, 2012 12:33pm CST
So my brother in law yet again has cause a situation I just am not sure how to handle. A cousin of my husband's is on Facebook with me as well as some mutual friends. This morning I saw (cousin is a real estate salesman) that she had advised a mutual friend to call my Brother in law to help sell their home. Now he had started school to become an agent but had dropped out half way through, but apparently has told some in the family he has actually gotten a license to sell property in NJ, not even the state he was going to school to get by the way. Now I made sure I told the friend they where better off going with some one else we grew up with as he is closer to where their house is. True but should I have said my BIL is a liar and not to go to him for that reason? Also this cousin is telling people they can go to him. If he shows a house and something goes wrong she could be charged with federal charges becasue he is not a licensed agent. I think we should tell her but Hubby has spoken to her about BIL's lies before and says we shouldn't get involved if she hasn't listened by now she won't. Morally which is right to tell or not to tell?
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@celticeagle (160102)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Mar 12
I would go to your BIL and tell him you have seen what is going on, your concerns and that if he doesn't stop you will make it known that what he is doing is not on the up and up. That way you give the chance to do what is right. And you can tell people, if you have to tell, that you did just that.
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@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
8 Mar 12
I cannot do that. We have restraining orders against him at the moment for threatening to burn our house down with us in it. To speak to him would go against that cannot happen right now. Plus he was picked up yet again for non payment of child support... I haven't spoke to his mother to see if he is out yet.
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@celticeagle (160102)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Mar 12
I had no idea. I think this guy needs to be in the home for the very very nervous. He needs help. Anyone that would threathen something like that needs serious help.
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@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
9 Mar 12
Preaching to the choir we've tried to tell p[eople tht
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@maezee (41997)
• United States
6 Mar 12
As long as she doesn't go with him to sell her home, I guess it can't really be a problem, can it? I mean, if she is somewhat aware that the 'BIL' is a liar, she should come to expect this from him...
I guess that's a tricky situation to be in though. Maybe I would warn her in confidence about the situation just so she makes no mistakes in choosing her real estate agent. No one needs to get in trouble from the law...
My other question is - can people actually POSE to be real estate agents without being certified/having a license? Doesn't any government source or the bank check up on these things? If not...That is indeed a scary scary situation!
Happy MyLotting! And good luck with your situation..
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@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
6 Mar 12
There are laws about representing people,Federal and State vary. She could be held liable say if he shows a house and it is found he lied to the people about his being an agent. I read the contract when he signed it to go to school which explained it and I will say I am not good with legalize so am confused about it but I do know she could face Federal charges that was pretty clear.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
6 Mar 12
I wouldn't tell anyone that your BIL is a liar, no... but it's very wrong for the cousin - or anyone else - to project that he is someone that can be trusted as a licensed agent and/or advisor. If he has a license, it's easy to prove that. I would ask him, actually... tell him that you've seen at least one person recommending him as an agent on FB and that you were under the impression he had not completed his classes and that he was not yet licensed. If he IS, he should have no problem showing you.
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@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
6 Mar 12
We where asked as witness (we witnessed/signed as witnesses his signing a contract with the company that hired him) to a suit against him. The company he was hired to work for paid for the classes, because he did not finish them or do the contracted work period after passing the test to obtain his license they are suing him for breach of contract. Due to the fact she was married to him at the time My now ex-SIL is being taken as well for payment even though she held up her end of the deal. (The contract was for both of them to obtain license and work for company for one year at a lower rate to pay it back she did, he didn't) We know he doesn't have it. The cousin doesn't know he is lying to her. He can't show anyone any way as we just where told he was arrested yet again
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
7 Mar 12
I will not win any popularity contests with my response, BUT!
Enough coddling...out him! This fraudulent behaviour can/will affect many innocent people...possibly for the rest of their life! Crap rolls downhill..and if they get caught up in an illegal property transfer...they have to prove they were NOT aware of the fraud! Credit ratings for the rest of their lives..GONE! Possible criminal record! Too much at stake here for the innocent! OUT him! I have NO tolerance for fraudulent behaviour!
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
8 Mar 12
I am with you but we have had many issues with family and we have a deal to respect how the person whose family it is wants to handle things. It has helped our relationship to not fight over others. I too think he should be outed but then again as my husband has said it has been done before...
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@cdecker02 (11)
• United States
6 Mar 12
Wait and gather all the facts, don't believe rumors or gossip. You can hurt a lot of feelings and burn some bridges whether this information is true or false.
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@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
6 Mar 12
We do not need to gather facts. Read my response to thinkingoutloud above and it will be explained as to why.
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@kcwheeler (23)
• Canada
6 Mar 12
Family is forever, so tread lightly. Although he is doing something that is definently wrong, you dont want to strain your relationship and create animosity within the family.
I think this is a really sad situation, it just shows how difficult the job market is today.
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@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
6 Mar 12
We are very far passed treading lightly. My hubby being served papers at school to appear in court because of him blew a whole lot out of the water. Read my response to the person above to explain that one.
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