A Household with 60 Members... So How Do You Remember Who Is Who!

Hi Sidhu, I don’t think it is difficult and I felt it is so easy. When you born in such a family you are watching everybody from your birth so naturally you know all of them dear. Just think about the school or college if there are 40 or more students, initially it is difficult to remember their names but within one month or two you become friends with each and remember their names well. Same way, we become familiar to each and every face even if it is more than 100. however I wish to add, if the members are scattered and living in different family in different places, it is difficult to remember their details for sure. It is really great to live such a huge family. It is difficult to maintain the peace and discipline in a large family, if both are there, that family must be a heaven. Note: Where you have been these days, I thought to check about you by sending message then I saw the notification in my inbox. Hope you are doing good and great in health.

Wow! That is way to big a number of folk to remember! I have only 2 brothers and 2 sisters and i very seldom communicate with them. I find the mylot community more of a family than my own! If i had to remember 60 peoples information i guess i would have 3 different files in my laptop marked 'favorites', 'okay' and 'can't be bothered with'. i tend to find that in all walks of life people come into those 3 catagorys'. You come under 'favorites' ;).

wow! What a family! Well, now that I come to think of it, my mom used to talk of her family earlier.She was one of ten children and her father and his brother/wife+children were in a joint family.However,since they used to get married young and there were more daughters than sons, the crowd got gradually dissipated. But , for me remembering those twenty and odd cousins was not a big deal even when I was very young.Remembering mail ids or phone numbers is very difficult.Remembering relationships like mausie etc.., is relatively simple when you live under the same roof.

Truth to be known, dearheart...YOU--have not actually graced the pages here, in this family, noticeably in the last while...AND THIS family (much greater than 60+)has TRULY MISSED YOU!!!! And how would I accomplish this feat??? I see, sooooo much, all the wonderful apps. for cell phones, and for me, I would have to get one of those "EYE" recognition apps! Some security systems use them (like fingerprints)! Point the phone, and I would have all your vitals! Voila! That would work for you..BUT me, being technically challenged...I would have to resort to the "good 'ol Canadian"-----"Hey you!" Sometimes, little Bro...you remember me of a handsome Monarch Butterfly...flitting here and there and leaving happiness in your wake!

The question that comes to mind for me is how big is the house they live in! I would be dizzy with all the people living together and how they were all related. Here as you may know it goes higher with relations in that we have second cousins. I have a niece and nephew, and so my cousins would be their second cousins and the mother and father of the cousins would be a great aunt and uncle. It'd become quite confusing. Here in the USA we don't normally address our family such as aunts and uncle as "Aunt Betty or Uncle Larry". Some do, but in my family it's just by their name. As for email id's and phone numbers. Phone numbers would be saved in a phone and you can save their email ID along with it. Of course if you have a facebook you can have them on their and list them as family with various relations.

I have noticed that in India, families and realtives seems to be so closely knit . Maybe a lot lives in one compound but not necessarily in one house? Am i right, sids? Well ,if they live in one compound but in separate houses, that's very nice. The tendency is to protect each other, in case a stranger makes trouble within the compound. And not to mention that it makes a happy family atmosphere. However, in my opinion if it is in one house, for me it's a bit not good. It seems that there is no privacy anymore, because if you fight with your hubby, everybody in the house will know it. am i right sid?

Hi bhai!!! Read your discussion and just jumped over it!!!!A very nice topic ... dont know how it came into your mind but it sounds very interesting to know that u have a friend who has so many members in his family... no matter population in india is increasing day by day!!!! Well, i have too heard many such stories and i keep on thinking the same as you... We, in even so less family members cannot remeber each and every thing about our relatives... then just thinking about life in such families is ridiculous... How do people manage in so many members and get with each other so well.. this is the main point that occurs in my mind when i hear such incidents... Nowadays due to inflation in prices in our country, especially in urban areas, keeps people apart... like , in urban areas you can hardly find such families which have so many members and get on with each other so well... its very difficult to adjust and seems very disgusting .... but sometimes i also feel that i should have a trial of such funny life...... well, in india it becomes more difficult so its better not to face such situations.... i hope my response satisfied u... bye have a nice day...

Hi there Sids Oh, I think that after a time, the names and all would be remembered quite well.I would imagine that over time, you just know who everyone is. It would be visiters that would get confused, I would imagine. As for the phone#s and e-mails ...no! I'm pretty sure that I would have to have them written down somewhere.If we all lived together then I'm sure that there would be a select few that I called enough to remember the numbers and e-mail would be even less. I'm not sure that I would like a household quite that big.Seems like it would be too chaotic. I really can't even imagine it.

I can't picture living in that big of a family/household! I have trouble remembering fewer people than that and I need my space! I have always had trouble when I tried to live with people so I don't know if I could live with that many people! I hope that your friend's family gets along better than I would have! Have a great weekend!!!

Hands up! I am present - Yesterday he said, 'it is fixed' and I though you already gone to attend the wedding also. I didn't though that 'fixed' means 'got married' - (just joking on Shibim). Where is the remote village? In your state only? But I think it is not a matter to recollect everyone and remeber their names also. I just thought that if I gather and collect my family (from father's side & mom's side) there may be about 50 above and living differnt places in Kerala. I don't think they all of them met togher at any point of time. Though I left Kerala about 25 years back, I know each and every one's name and relationships. When I met all of them (best most of them) for my brother's wedding time, I could have easily makeout everyone (except all girls and boys got married and become part of our family). But as you said, as all of them are lving separately like independent families, the grouping or coming togetherness is happens very rarely and which given chances to measure the size of the family. I just is presuming now it is may be morethan 100 - Yes, if all these are in a single roof, Ohh! too much to think also. Better to live separately so that all the nice things may be so less if compared with the ugly part of the life, especially everyone bothered of 'mine', in these days. My language become so ugly as I have not much time to think and write - what I feel is just getting typed and the senetnce construction is not as per English structure, it is just the way mind runs - hope you follow what I mean. hahaha

Hi thesids, 60 members in a family, that is really big family, and I can hardly imagine how are they going to stay together. I believe if you have a big family, you will be able to remember all of them, because you actually meet them everyday especially if you are staying together with them. I can remember all my 28 family member's name easily. So, I think it is not difficult to remember another 32 family member's name or who they are. I think our brain can actually memories many things if it is repeating every day. I can also remember some cell phone numbers of my family member as long as I am using it frequently. Never under estimate our brain capacity and ability. Have a nice day!

i suggest you give each of them a nick name using there first names, like mike for Micheal M for Miriam and so on, that way cramming the names of sixty people wouldn't be that hard cheers

Sixty members in a family is not a surprising news for me.I know many families that consist of as many or even more members.My own family had more than 50 members till recently.I have read about a couple of families one of which is in Rajasthan and another in Laddakh.Each of these families have more than 100 members all of whom live under the same roof and share the same kitchen.

How teachers do it pretty much, remember the names of the kids as the come by and probably do something like rowcall.

Personally I cannot imagine living in a household all the time with 60 people. To me that is quite a lot, and really is crazy. For me, more than about 6-8 people in a house at the most all the time is enough. 60 people in one place all the time would be hard to remember all the people, and would have to be a really large place. I hear many times for Financial reasons of people having to live in larger groups to keep a house, etc. but 60?

Lol... I come from a big family myself...so I can relate to that :-)My dad has 8 siblings and counting an average of 2 kids each (a few have 3 kids), it comes to 32. A few of my cousins are married and so am I and we have 2 kids each. We don't exactly live in a joint family...all of us under one roof...but it's more of different houses in the same compound. I'm very particular about names and relations...so I have no confusion. But it does get confusing for the kids with so many people around. In fact, my kids' generation has a hard time relating to their grandparents' generation since most of my aunts don't look like 'grandmothers' to them. My younger cousins are just a few years older than my kids and my younger son finds it hard to refer to them as aunt and uncle :-) It doesn't help either that we don't stay here and we visit once in a while. But I've been here for a little more than 2 months now...and I can see that it's getting easier for my older son to relate to everyone now. My mother also has 7 siblings and another huge family there :-) I personally have no problem remembering names and relationships. Cell phone numbers and email ids are stored - not in my head! It's hard enough to remember one number each and most of them have 2-3 numbers and ids.

Hi Sid Even I used to live in joint family .. but surely its not that big(only two family). But I guess its not that hard to remember name and relations.. As they live and grow together I am sure its an easy task.. But yes other things like mobile numbers and Emails , it can be too hard to remember all for them. But that task can also be easy because of phones.. Because even though my family is not that big still I don't remember all numbers of my family members..So for that I use mobile phone.

Hi buddy! Good to see you again,nice to see my dear friend's discussion again here. I consider our family a big one,hehe! I have a total of 13 nieces and 4 siblings. Whenever we have a reunion,it's like a big party already even if we don't have any other visitors,lol! I'm happy to say I do remember all of their names,even if I'm already having some poor memory,waaa!!! But with regards to their personal infos like their cell numbers,I store them in my cell phone,even their birth dates,hehe!

Wow, what a big happy family. Well there might be some situation that you will switch on calling names and ownership of somethings within the household if you have this big number of family members. The crowed is also hard to control sometimes especially in times of argumentation.

That household would be way too many people for me to handle. I like to be with just my husband and dog and cat. We have friends that we work with and who live up stairs but they are tolerable, there is only three of them.