Which is easier?

i think it depends on the personality of the individual. i have a 21-month old son who is hyperactive. as per her caregiver, he is actually more active when i am around. although he can easily understand what is no no for him. i think when we train them earlier it will help us in taking care of them. trying to explain them what is this and that will help them understand their environment. and i think it is understandable that as a small kid or toddler, they are eager to learn everything all at once and be the commander of their world.

My wife and I have raised our two sons, and it was no cake walk. My younger sister is raising her only daughter and that isn't one either. All of this makes me say, its trouble all the way, no matter if its a boy or a girl. Concern for the kids good makes us go high strung at the smallest thing and we the parents react. The children react to this and we don't always like it some more, till things escalate and both of us are miserable. All this, ironically, in good faith. However I have found that sons respond better to their mother and daughters to their father. This works both ways, parents manipulating children and the other way around. Teen years are the most difficult, and past this, there is some sort of truce and understanding and it is peace time. Life then turns bitter-sweet, some bad memories, but, mostly fond ones till marriage and moving away comes. The parents go on an overdrive then and do their best to mess up things, because they want to protect their children. The not-so-young but not-so-old children react, life starts all over again! Never mind what medical science calls what the behavior is all about, what causes it is the act of finding one's feet at a young age, by oneself. That is the way living a life is all about, I suppose.

Both my kids were great, and pretty easy. My daughter says I have selective memory. I am proud of both of them, and think they do okay. Son got off track for a while, but is in good shape now. I think how easy they are depends on health, both physical and emotional, and what kind of partner you have or do not have to help you. It also depends on your skills and what you learned from your parents. We all promise ourselves that we will not do the same things that our parents did, but sometimes it seems like it is destiny. Other times we go so far the other way it just is not good either. Honestly, no child is really easy to raise.

I personally think boys are a lot harder work than girls. Although I have friends who think the oppsite. I have four children, two girls 23 and 12 and two boys 14 and 12. The eldest girl was almost no trouble until she left home at almost 20. She just started doing things other girls did at 18 etc, don't have hardly any contact with her at all and haven't seen her since her 21st birthday (long story) but know she is fine and knows where we are if she needs us. Other daughter is hardly any bother. Boys eldest son should have been born the youngest by many years or should have been an only child as he is very demanding etc. Youngest son who is the twin brother of our 12 year old girl is ok when he is on his own and not much bother when he is with his twin sister, but put him with his brother and wow they are so terrible together, picking on each other/name calling/ fighting etc etc. I think it is because there is only almost two years between them, they argue and are very awful together. Went through a phase when I really didn't want to leave them alone together because I knew they would fight so much etc. BUT I do know they would look after each other/save each other if the need arose. So I know why my boys are so much harder than my girls. I do have friends who only have two children, one of each etc and they say there girls are so much more harder work than there son. I think some of it must depend on the child and its make up as well. Hope you are doing well.... everytime I get on here I get called away. I will get ot answer your disscussions etc, now Easter Holidays and everyone including hubby about.

The one thing that makes boys easier is that they cant get pregnant so that part of things is never a worry and decreases the pressure on the parent or guardian. With my ADHD grandson who is a lovely lad until his mood swings usually because he can't get his own way. These days knowing it's because of his frustration and need for attention we can ignore it and find that he comes down quicker. He usually storms off to his room and takes his mood with him along with a few choice words.

Congratulation you have so many children and has been grandmother. I don't have any child yet, but I think boys are wide and girls are fine and smooth . Boys is direct and girls aremild.Boys like to fight and girls like to slight. In my opinion girls and boys are the same since depend on their character. Happy family lifes.

Well With 4 boys and one girl I thought boys were easire. Girls need to much in clothes and makeup. Personalities Girl is like mine and my moms mixed. YOungest son was diagnois with bipolar in his 30s Can tell when it kicks in he wants to buy buy buy when he dont have the money and then he gets deppressed . BUt for the most part he is ok flare ups are farther away than they were.

I cannot give you a definitive response...as I only raised a son! I know at times, I had to step out of my comfort zone, and be the Father, too! Thank goodness...there was remaining still quite a bit of a "tomboy" in me! Even tho..today, my son reflects ALL that I hoped that he would be...Growing-Up was a different story, and I felt nothing I imparted, remained between his ears! He was a typical "snakes and snails" boy..and it, at times were very difficult..and I wished for a daughter...LOL! I am just thankful..I have a healthy child..DUH, he is 31!

I was diagnosed with bipolar as I have said before. I have and had family members that have and had bipolar. I say it that way as two have passed on. In any case, I think it is much harder to raise them as they are stronger and it seems their moods and such are much different then that of a woman with it. I think boys would be easier to raise though, but I'm not yet a mother so won't go further into why I believe so. (no real ground ya know).

I think girls are a little tougher too. Mine are a bit more demanding than my son was. My son was crazy about me and never challenged me as far as authority goes but my daughter went through a stage where she thought she was going to "run the show" It was a rude awakening for the young lady.

We have one of each that are fully grown adults. Our daughter was the oldest by 2 years and sensible and the boy was the opposite. As adults our daughter is more of a mate with her eldest daughter and goes to BVB concerts with her. Our boy did concerts when he was young. Has had his own building business, taught bricklaying at college along with other things and now at 41 is back working as bricklayer working as lead bricklaying services with another ex-tutor for a building company.