To go back into college or to get a job?

@choybel (5042)
Philippines
May 31, 2012 10:23pm CST
Enrollment in the university that I once was in and should be enrolling again is about to end but I haven't really decided yet if I should really enroll or just go to Manila and get a job there. My dad strongly suggests that I should finish my course first, get a degree before I get a career and so does my girlfriend. I believe that it is what I want too but the conditions are really not that easy anymore. It will be my 9th or 10th year in that university and one thing that really makes me think about otherwise is the process of going back because this involves lengthy and most probably humiliating encounters, which I really do not wish to have. One other thing that concerns me is also the possibility of not being accepted in the school or in my department after all the processes I will be going through. Going to Manila and getting a job on the other hand will not be smooth sailing for me either. Two hours from now, I am in fact going to try to get myself into the university again and see what happens next. I do hope that the best will just happen for me. Good luck to me!
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16 responses
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I would suggest you to go back to college and work on going into a field that you are comfortable in because after a while you get incredibly tired doing work on jobs that you don't enjoy or that get boring and repetitive. By going to college it gives you some kind of control over what your life will become and I think that since you've already been in that college you should stick with it and finish it out. If you don't go back then your investment into the classes you've already taken will just be a waste and you will basically be throwing money away.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Actually the course I am taking is one that really is not on my top choices. I chose this for my father. My father is a civil engineer, he has 8 children and none who is one. I remember him saying when I was a child that he would die unhappy if none of us get to be a civil engineer, or something like that, so I, being the good son that I want to be, decided to take that path. My brothers attempted but have eventually failed and shifted to different courses. I am willing to finish this for my dad but I just don't know how. All i need right now is great courage, strength, and a lot of determination. I also agree with you on getting tired in a job I do not enjoy and throwing away money because of the classes I have taken and not really getting it to somewhere. Right now, I hope and pray God shows me my best option and helps me through it.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
This is what most of the people I know tell me, including my sister. She was really convincing me to shift to a course that I feel happy and comfortable with. I know that's probably the best move, but I guess I'm just born stubborn. I also hate the idea of giving something up after working hard on it. I do appreciate your kind words and concern very much. Thank you for that. It was a good afternoon for me, in fact, as there is a great chance of me going back to the university without the dreadful unnecessary remarks.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I'm sorry to hear that, I don't think that it's best for us to try and live the life that someone else wants us to live. I do think that it is nice that you are trying to make your father happy though. My best advice for you is to have faith that everything will work out in the end, just work hard and don't give up and things will most likely work out for you in the end. Good luck my friend and just stay positive and keep a good attitude and things will get better :)
• India
2 Jun 12
I was in your country as a visiting professor in 2004, am aware of the job situation there, so if you can get a part time job such that it wont interfere with your study time better to work and study at the same time.. ENJOY A HAPPY WEEKEND Prof.Dr. B.Saraf. PhD
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Good day Professor! It's nice to know that you have visited our country already. How was your stay here? I hope it was fine. Anyway, I did have part-time jobs before while studying and it is something I wouldn't like to do again now once I get enrolled because I am planning on giving all my time for studying this time. I appreciate the suggestion, anyway. Thank you for that.
• India
2 Jun 12
Do whatever you feel like doing.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I did, actually, and it has gotten me nowhere yet.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
I think you should take your dad's advice to finish your degree first and then have a career. If your budget is really tight then you can be have a part time job :)God Bless!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Well, I am now actually going to take my dad's advice. I will, however, try not to get involve in a part-time job again, as much as possible, because in my experience, it stands as a distraction, and I just wish to focus on one thing now. Thank you very much!
• India
2 Jun 12
I will always recommend to get a job as it is always good to earn money. After having some degrees it is always better to get experience when job is available. Now a days it is hard to get good jobs due to over populations and it is more hard to keep the job going. So you can attend any university any time so my suggestion is to get the job rather than going to a university. Good Luck and Happy MyLotting.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
You are the only one among all the responses in this topic who have actually said the opposite. Wow! Your point have actually kind of got me thinking for a while there. Actually, I did think about that before. Part of the plan was to get a job, save and then continue studying in a new school far away. Something like starting anew. Thanks for your contribution here.
• United States
1 Jun 12
Personally I would finish school. Someone can always take your job away but they can never take your intelligence away. The higher the degree the more money you will make and the better you will feel about yourself. Even though you may not really want to go back it is still very important. Just finish up your education and in a few years you will be happy you did. Good luck, I am sure you will do fine. Dont doubt yourself becuase you can be one of the best, you must just believe in yourself.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Point taken. "Someone can always take your job away but they can never take your intelligence away." - this has been mentioned to me several times by friends and relatives, which is very true. Well, I do hope I get to finish my education soon and be very happy about it. Thank you very much for the support and contribution.
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
You have to go back to college and try to finish up a course. After that you can get a good job. Be more patient and time flies so fast so you won't notice it. YOu'll be graduating soon and you'll be getting a good job! Goodluck!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
That really is the summary of it, right? Get a degree to get a better job. I do understand this and really want to realize this. It sounds easy but really is difficult for me in my current situation. In my state now, I have noticed how time flew and how much time I have already wasted. I guess this is more of a wake-up call for me. Anyway, thank you very much for your input here.
• United States
1 Jun 12
In the United States the economy is bad and I am working towards a second Master's Degree in Management and Education in hopes I can open my own pre-school. I am working online to make extra money and I am hoping that once I am done with my school work for the summer I can work on my crafts. I miss working on them and I will continue to take care of Randy. I think it is great that you dad is supporting you while going to school because I am in school and taking care of Randy at the same time and my mom wants me to hire a nurse so I can work instead of going to school (it is online University and I love it). My mom seems to think that I may end up losing Randy because I have more education than he does and men do not like smart women and in reality if it were not for Randy I do not think I can make it.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
My girlfriend is actually going to enroll in a special course which would give her a second degree because her job requires this specific degree. I also went with her in the processing stage and I envy her grades. I was with her all throughout college and while she did great, I was the opposite. Hence, the position I am in now. I am planning to get another degree after I finish the one I am going to enroll in now, that's if I get to actually graduate in this one. Anyway, I think you are doing great. It inspires me knowing people like you, dedicated and loving as well. Thank you for the input.
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Think of it this way: the sooner you finish University, the sooner you stop having to go back to lines. Sometimes it's really inspiring to hear how people who don't graduate from college are those that find high earning jobs. But it's not always like that. And of course when you graduate from college, you'll have more and better oportunities when looking for a job. You can settle for the job that everyone is applying for, or you can get the job that not everyone's qualified for. Trust me, it pays to have a degree. It's something you can hold in your pocket. Besides, the only thing any parent ever wanted was to see that the money they're spending on you is not a total waste. Although parents have a different perspective of success than us, and while we see that going to school hardly really gets us anywhere, to your parents, it's an achievement on their part. It's the ultimate goal of a parent to give their child a successful education. Don't ruin it for them. Otherwise, you're going to be haunted as the kid who smashed his parents' dreams. And you don't want anyone to go around smashing your dreams, right? Give them what they want, and do yourself a favor. No pressure. You're doing the right thing. :) Good luck with college!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I truly see the wisdom of your statements here and I admire it very much. Aside from the already established belief, or maybe truth, that having a degree grants greater job opportunities, you mentioned that it is the parents' responsibility and achievement to have their child have a college degree, and my father has expressed that to us, his children, in many ways, which I believe is just right and true. My father really has high hopes for me in getting that civil engineering degree, and you're right, I'd really hate to be the son that disappointed my father, after all the things he went through. Thank you very much for re-introducing this perspective to me.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Your decision of going back to the university is the best option for you, once you've earn your degree, getting a good job is easy since you have the best weapon to show to any company you would like to apply in the future which is your Diploma, and wherever you go, you can always apply, the hassle of going back will always be a part of you sacrifice, but once your done, you'll now be able to harvest the result of all you sacrifice. So just move forward to the Goal set, and you don't need luck, so may all the blessings be with you.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Thank you very much for the supportive message. As many have already stated, it does seem the best option for me. No glory without sacrifice, right? I just hope everything will turn out right in the enrollment process so that I can have a good start.
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
basically, this is also my dilemma,. I am still deciding whether I should work for the meantime and delay my studies or go ahead and enroll. my mother would surely tell to do my own thing even though I know that she secretly wants em to finish what I started. But the urge for me to do work is more tempting at the moment. My friend also stopped his studies because his family' financial needs are really affecting him. so he decided to work first and study alter. however, like you said if he return, it's not a smooth sailing since there are already changes in the registration process and the office. I do hope he will return but actually doing it is another matter. I wish you good luck. I think that like many others, whatever happens will happens and we just hope for the best and survive the present.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I have already talked to our department staff and it actually went well. Thank God for that. My only problem would be the admissions office. I am so scared of tomorrow. I just hope and pray that it goes well. So, you see, it seems that I am in fact going to give college schooling another try. I do hope you prosper in whatever choice you decide to take. Good luck to you, too!
@gelomon (286)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
hello. I suggest that you to enter the university again and finish your course. If you are humiliated for being in that university for ten years that not a problem anymore, you have the choices that you can transfer to other schools to avoid humiliation and self pity. Remember this, If you are a degree holder, you can get a fair job that can support your daily spendings and to settle for the future. By the way, that was the best thing to do, just for me, have a good start of june dude!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
It seems to me that the idea of graduating first for chances of getting better jobs has been established very much here and by most people I have conversed with, and I do believe that too. Transferring to another school is actually in the plan. I just really really hope I won't have to. Anyway, I really appreciate your thoughts here. Thank you for that dude!
@mercvict (127)
• India
1 Jun 12
Like you dad, my opinion is also to get a degree and then look out for a job. If you have degree in hand, it will be not tough to find a job. so, all the best for your higher studies.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Thanks for the support.
@obey39 (125)
• China
1 Jun 12
Hello,my friend.To get a job could enrish your horizon and help you to get priceless experience out of your classroom.But I doubt that your expected salary and your opportunity of being given an interview with the employer being cut down,if you leave schooel without a degree.and this is vivid situation happen in China.Otherwise you will get a degree , getting more opportunity to be enrolled by some fortune 500 organzation,which will be conducive to your career development in teh future.But the problem is that if you go to school, you will miss a lot of time involving in the society to face cut-throat competition.It is really a priceless value.As for me, I choose to go out of classroom and spend spare time studying at night school.And this decision is also against the will of my parents, who scolded my fool at that moment while it turns out to be a good adventure. Believe yourselves!I support you!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Well, I was actually doing that before, having a part-time job and going to school at the same time. It has proven to me that this can really mess my studies. I know that many have done this and went just fine, but it has not for me. So now, although I still think I would be considering the same option, I would very much like to focus on one thing either finish my school or get a job. I went to school already and talked to our department. It went well, so now I believe, if everything goes well with my enrollment, I will have to focus in studying alone. Thank you very much for your insight.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
That's good that you considered trying to go back to the University and see what happens. Going to Manila and getting a job would be too risky and if you don't need that money to get you to the university again why would you bother. It's your father already who said that you get a degree first. So i really hope God will bless you today and make everything smooth in getting back to college. God bless.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
That's actually one option I have considered, getting a job there and probably starting a new life by continuing my studies there after I have saved enough for it, but like you said, it's risky and I do know it. I have siblings and relatives who are willing to help me there and they are sort of my fallback option. Still, it would be great if I would be able to get back into this university without all the unnecessary hassle that I fear. Anyway, thank you very much for the concern and everything. Have a nice day!
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
You should go back to school and get a career. Your so lucky to have a father who is very supportive. Think for your better future, you can get a nice job and good salary if you get a degree. As you know here in Manila there are lots of opportunities in getting a job but the competitions are so tight. But this time look for the course that you really like and in demand until for the longest time. Good luck.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
That is in fact one of the reason I put into consideration about this problem. My father is so concern about me getting a degree, that I feel bad putting him in this stressful situation at his age. I sometimes wish I could just finish my schooling at a snap and that everything will just go okay after that, but reality just doesn't work that way. I have considered shifting into another course but I believe that I can't and I won't for reasons I have stated on one of my previous responses. I am thinking of just finishing this one and probably get a second degree, one that I truly like and would benefit from a lot. Anyway, thank you very much for your thoughts on this.