Men!!
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (159752)
Boise, Idaho
August 21, 2012 8:22pm CST
I just recently started hanging out at a social networking site I hadn't been on for awhile. A few years back I had met a guy on it that I thought I might go meet. He seemed nice and was the type that actually liked a woman with a few curves so I thought maybe this could work out. And I was into going traveling then and thought this would be a nice trip. He was living on a indian reservation and his wife held title to the house he was living in at the time. He was seperated from her, had been astranged for sometime, and in the process of getting a divorce but because of the legal ramifications from this house they hadn't gotten it in writing yet. So he and I were friendly with the understanding that I would come up there and meet him when he got this legal mumbo jumbo out of the way. I was willing to wait since I wasnt in any hurry and he was a nice guy. So next thing I know he wrote me on the site and told me not to be alarmed but he had this other gal on his friend's list that was bugging him and he had put his status to 'in a relationship' to appease her. So, needless to say I came unglued and backed WAY WAY way away and finally ended it with him. I hadn't heard from him in a couple years. I went back on the site recently and just happened to see he had been checking my profile out. (there's an area you can go to check who has been doing so) So I clicked on his picture thinking it couldn't possibly be him but it looked so much like him I was curious. Yes, it was him. He emails me back with this note saying why are you checking my profile out? I thought you didn't care to be freindly. And he was asking if we could be friends. I told him that no, I didn't want to be friends due to what he did to me and because he is married. So he writes back that we could be freinds but I am pissed at him. Well, ya! So, here is my question. Why is it men think that they can get away with these things then come back and be all friendly with a person as if nothing ever happened? This isn't the first time this has happened. Happened with another guy I had just met on there too. I asked him some questions about himself and he was hedging and heeing and hahing and just couldn't even carry on a intelligent conversation. Why is it men think women are weird when they find fault in them and want to discuss it? WHy is that? Then they come back with such things as I need to just get past it and move on. I had moved on! He is the one that has come back into my world. (And I would like some kind of apology too which I never got) He knows he acted like an a*ss but I am the bad woman for bringing up reasons why I don't want to be friendly with him anymore. What is up with that!?? Men are so ablivious to any wrong doing. GRRRR! And for a woman to be intelligent enough to catch them in wrong doing and bring it up to them--they just can't handle it.
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12 responses
@GardenGerty (157788)
• United States
22 Aug 12
It sounds as if he has an attitude and a roving eye, as well. He was checking out your profile, so why shouldn't you check his out. better off without him I would say.
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
Hi GG. Ya, I am not into finding a man anymore. I just harass them is all. But this guy is weird. Puts it back on me when it was him checking my profile out.
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@GardenGerty (157788)
• United States
22 Aug 12
You caught him, he is embarrassed so he goes on the attack.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
22 Aug 12
I'm sorry you were hurt. Something I gave noticed is that most men think with their 3rd leg so to speak.
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
I don't even think they have a brain. What works for one is that third leg.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
22 Aug 12
Men THINK they dominate every thing so that when a woman shows some cumption they pay no attention to ya.
So then they think ya will take them back on thier terms grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
ANd if they are nmarred at the same time really think they get away wit h alot of LIES .
I feel like the min. they say they ar e married BUt seperated they probably arent they can write anything they want on puter you cant see their faces realy nkno nothing about them but what they have TOLD you. I would run fast away and never tak to them again!
Ya might meet a good one on line but they are far and few inbetween.
I see you being broken hearted over lies.
and then I saw another friend meet a fine man and got along fine he didnt lie to her.
Ya just have to be so careful meeting on line!
So it worked out .
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
I wouldn't go meet him until he got the whole thing straightened out with his wife and I think that he went to that other gal cause she was close and she would be with him even though he was still married. Now they are married and she can have him. I was respecting her afew months ago when he tried to befriend me and I wouldn't have anything to do with him then. Gheez!
Really!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Aug 12
hi celtic eagle like my husband told me and I agreed some men
will never be monogomous and will always be players using women
hen if they tell the player hes wrong they get all upset,. we
agreed if a man plays around once do not think he will c hange
as he will keep right on doing it. I said to him "some men
are real horse's behinds" he laughed and agreed with me, He and I were partners and we trusted each other explicitly. We never
even checked on each other as we knew we were faithful. we were also
best friends. our marriage lasted 33 years ending with his fatal heart attack.some men are boobs and will always be boobs.
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
Yes, I so agree Hatley. Your husband was a wise man and it sounds like you had a marvelous relationship.
(Why was 'Lamb' brought into this?)
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
22 Aug 12
Cripes, Hatley, don't you know what will happen when Lamb gets an eyeful of "boobs"?
Lash
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Aug 12
i HOPE U DO STAY AWAY FROM HIM. aLL MARRIED MEN TELL THE SAME TALE, HAVE HEARD THEM TWICE FROM Two different ones. Guess where they still are ?? still w/the old mean woman who just doesn't make them happy, yada,yada,yada. They are full of shi* is what they are.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Aug 12
hi celticeagle yes indeed do stay away from him.Like mygrandpa
once said about the towns womanizer,"that man is full
of himself and also he stinks" leave it to my grandpa. He
might not have had a lot of schooling but he was people
'smart.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Aug 12
U can't be respectful to a man like that.Most men are so full of themselves & they are going to turn everything around on u because they think they are perfect, NOT [em]thumbdown[/em
hATLEY, UR GRANDPA WAS A SMART MAN. hAVE A GOOD DAY.
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
I was being respectful and waiting until his divorce went through. Still with their wives ofcourse! He left his but lied to me. And thought i would believe his stupid story.
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@Orson_Kart (6155)
• United Kingdom
22 Aug 12
Despite the title "Men!!" This looks like a women only discussion! 
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@Orson_Kart (6155)
• United Kingdom
24 Aug 12
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
I thought there was nothing I could say that would make you see us in a better light.
Some men (maybe most men, depending on the situation) would do/say anything if there was a chance of a bit rumpy-pumpy at the end of it.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Aug 12
Personally this is the way men are. Too many times men anymore just expect women to bow at their every whim and want to be with them no matter who they are. These are the type of men who want their cake and eat it too and leave many women strung up by the way side and then wondering why all of a sudden people catch on and want to leave them.
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@slico79 (212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 12
Whoa... slow down. Calm yourself :) And please don't generalize that all men are incapable of being honest in a relationship. Not all men are a*sses by the way, there are still some who tries not to be.
In your situation though, that MAN was an a*ss! :) And next time you want to have a relationship, go out, have fun, and find someone. Not in the net, it's a breeding ground for disaster in relationships. Though I have some acquaintances who found their soul mate in the internet... for me, it is still to impersonal to get to know someone in front of a screen.
@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
Thank you! I am glad that a man wanted to be heard here. I wish I could go out, have fun and meet someone. I have issues that won't allow me to do that. I do acknowledge your opinion on the net and ,yes, you do have to be careful but I am willing to take that chance. Or i was. I don't care anymore. Not looking.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
22 Aug 12
it is called the quilt trip and it works on many women so that is why they do it. You were smart to stay away from that loser.
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
I think so. And he tries to befriend me and I want to talk about the past so I can have some closure and he won't even go there. Why? Cause he knows he acted like a jerk.
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
22 Aug 12
He is quite obviously not worthy of your time or even the hint of agitation. He sounds like a grade a DAWG from day one. Don't worry over him and just block him. Men that do these things hate getting caught and hate the women who call them on it. Its best not to dwell on this type of individual. Go on about life and block him.
@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
I went on with my life two years ago after his lies came to light. Then he reappeared and couldn't understand why we couldn't be friends. I wanted closure so I didn't block him but I guess I should. I always want the last word.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Aug 12
I don't why it is that some men think that there is a chance to remain friends after something like that. My ex is the same way. I went through a lot when I left him. Long long story but I wonder how it is that he thinks he should be able to walk up if he sees me and just act as though none of it mattered and we should still be friends. I have no desire to be friends. I am not going to outright do anything to hurt anyone and I don't wish bad things for anyone but I don't want anything to do with him either. Besides that..I don't think he would want to be friends anyway unless it benefited him in some way. There are those that just want to ruin others though and if acting like they are friends so they can get in one more violation works...I have seen that too. No way I am going that route. I know I have issues with trust where people are concerned but I just consider it a waste to worry with them after they are gone. At least anymore than what I have to.
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Aug 12
I can understand tht you don't need the worry. I would have perhaps forgiven and forgot if he would have atleast talked to me about it. He wouldn't discuss it. I needed closure to get over it and he wouldn't allow that. Just thought i should go with the flow and put up with whatever. I don't roll that way!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
22 Aug 12
Men,at least some,thinnk they can get away with anything! Then they act like they did nothing wrong and then blame us! I think it is pride and arrogance that make men do this stuff! This is a few of the reasons I don't date! Men are not worth the time! They are hard to trust! They don't understand!They can be so clueless! They can be mean and abusive! There seems to be no good man left on this plant that is available or is gay! Maybe I am missing out on finding a man or least companionship? If I am it is my chose! I say this becasue I turnesed 50 in May and I am looking back over my life so far! I nned to stop being a drama queen! Life is must simpler and easier with out a man in my life!
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@celticeagle (159752)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Aug 12
Yes, some men do seem to think they do anything. It is very aggrovating. Pride and arrogance--you betcha! And after they have been caught and you want to discuss it they get ARROGANT and turn it back on you. With my complications and committments I don't care to have a man in my life. And with the experiences I have had a man would really have to be something for me to want him in my life. I am ten years older than you and I am done with them.
