The Kids are not Here

@dawnald (85146)
Shingle Springs, California
December 25, 2012 12:43pm CST
First Christmas in years, no children. Well, they will be here, but their father hasn't brought them yet. He took them to his mom's last night. His family celebrates on Christmas eve. They spent the night, and I had an easy,quiet evening, and finished wrapping pretty early. But somehow it wasn't quite the same without Cary creeping in at 7 AM, "mom, can we do presents now?" Maybe next year I'll go pick them up so they can sleep here. Cary didn't want to spend the night anyway.
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• China
28 Dec 12
You certainly felt lonesome without children round you,much more at Christmas.Now that ,they went to their grandparents' on Christmas eve,they should have returned at Christmas.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Jan 13
Partly true...
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Dec 12
They came back Christmas morning...
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• China
29 Dec 12
They were surely eager to come back,because they hated to part from you during the holiday.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 13
Wow, I guess that was quite eerie not having the kids, I bet your house was real quiet without them. May I take this opportunity to wish you all the very best for 2013 my friend.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 13
Sorry for the lateness of the response, I am still trying to catch up on the notifications, having taken a break from Mylot over the Christmas period.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Jan 13
Happy new Year (I'm behind too).
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
26 Dec 12
That happens when people get divorced with kids! The parents have to share them over the holidays! I know alot of grown up kids who had parents divorced when they were kids. They spend the holidays at both sets of parents! I alawys thought my parents would divorce when I was growing up. It never happened and in some ways I wish it would of! Not sure where I am going here! I hope you and the kids had a good Christmas! My Chrsitmas will be on saturday with my family and I am looking forword to it!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Dec 12
I thought mine would too. they worked it out and had a few good years, but the last few were pretty miserable.
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
28 Dec 12
Sometimes we have to take things in our own hands if we want to accomplish anything. I hope you get your kids next year. Just let it be known that you want them at home with you and you all can spend some quality time together.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Dec 12
It was mixed feelings really. It was nice to be able to wrap gifts earlier, and to sleep in Christmas morning, but at the same time I missed them.
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
28 Dec 12
Well I do hope you will be able to have them with you next year. Christmas is all about the kids.
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• United States
26 Dec 12
What a life. Hmmm.. at least they are in good place right now with their dad... Christmas is all about understanding and sharing also. :) Belated Merry Christmas to you and God bless you as well!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Dec 12
Well, they were with their dad. He brought them over between 10 and 11, and he stayed and watched them open presents.
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@Huyubo (14)
• China
25 Dec 12
This christmas ,i am very lonely,i miss my parents very much ,i havnt seen them for about a year? my be in our china ,we do not celebrate christmas,but,i think it is a great festival,may be my expression is not very fluent ?i do see the topic and i miss my parent and friends very much
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Dec 12
Are you going to school or working in a different country?
@GardenGerty (160781)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I am sure that feels strange to you. I think the kids are old enough that if they did not want to spend the night away then their dad should have honored their wishes. Merry Christmas, Dawnald.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Dec 12
One didn't and the other two didn't mind, so kind of majority rules, I guess.
• Canada
3 Jan 13
It makes sense that the kids had one day of Christmas with their non-custodial parent, but if it was more comfortable for them, I think they should have been able to stay at home with you. I always hated going to Dad'swhen I didn't want to go. Not that I had a problem with Dad, just that I felt more comfortable at home.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Jan 13
the kids are not crazy about going to grandma's, "nothing to do"....
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Dec 12
oh thats a tough one! I have had a hard time with that one when my kids were younger. I actually put it in my divorce decree that they were to wake up with me every Christmas morning. Luckily we never had an issue with it. His family understood and we all worked it out.Im a pretty peaceful person and always made it clear that he was welome to come to my place in the morning to watch them open gifts and have breakfast with them which he did do on some years. other years,he would just pick them up after.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Dec 12
That seems to be pretty typical. I think that some of them focus so much on worrying about what they might have to pay out in support or assets that they ignore the other issues. I probably would not have even given it a thought myself to add that Christmas clause except that I did my divorce myself. I was very unsure of myself and read up a lot on the process and got that little tidbit of advice in one of the books.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Dec 12
He got so upset about the clause having to do with college tuition that I think he skipped over everything else.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
We didn't put any of that in the divorce agreement. Just that they were to live with me during the week. Not that he pays any attention to what's in the agreement. he just signed it to get me off his back. Later he was very surprised at some of the things it said.
@celticeagle (167471)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 12
My grandson had his CHristmas early. He has his holiday from school from December 20th until January 2 so we let him open one present perday from 20-25. With his ODD it is the only way to live with some peace and it is sort of a nice tradition. It works for us. Happy New Year!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
Whatever works! Happy New Year to you too!
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@celticeagle (167471)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Dec 12
That is what I figure.
@vandana7 (100393)
• India
26 Dec 12
Oh sweetie... Your last sentence said it all. You are missing them a lot, right? They are not going anywhere...they will be right back. In fact, I hope they are back by now, and you are enjoying with them. :) Merry Christmas Dawny.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
I was missing them, but it was nice to be able to wrap presents early the night before, and sleep in the next morning. Merry (belated) Christmas.
• United States
13 Feb 13
Aww.. see how different it feels when they suddenly are not around? I remember feeling that way at first. I got used to it now but that doesn't mean I don't care and stopped thinking about Vanessa. She reminds me to much.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Feb 13
Well, it was weird anyway...
• United States
16 Feb 13
I know but I'm sure next time things will go smoother.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
25 Dec 12
Same for me here, seems kinda strange. My 14 year old son is in the usa this year with his dad. I always would get up on xmas day and put stocking up for him here. The stocking is there with his name, only he isnt. Im glad hes ok with his dad in the usa. I miss him very much here. And merry xmas to you there as well.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Dec 12
Merry Christmas to you too. The kids are here now, and everybody is happy!
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26 Dec 12
wow its great that you celebrate your eve with children.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Maria , your son is with you , feel his spirit same thing with your son , your spirit is with him , that's enough to make you and him happy.
@deiusz (193)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
well ... not different here, my mom miss her grandchild from my sister children about 3 years old, it's been long time didnt see him anyway. But wasting time for waiting her family,no news, even say 'merry x'mas' by sms or phone, it's highTech ERA.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
Does your sister live far away?
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
For me, it's always sad when kids are not around during Christmas. My nephew and niece was with their mom this Christmas as well and I guess I was pretty sad but hey, that's the way it should be - since the mom and my brother separated. I guess Christmas is really nicer with the kids around. Let's hope things would be better this New Year's. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
At least they came around later...
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Dec 12
Probably going to take some time to figure out these little things like holidays and such. By the time you've got it down to a routine the kids will be grown and having their own families.. then you gotta figure out a whole new routine.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
blah...
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Dec 12
Hi dawnald Merry Christmas friend. I read on your responses that Cary is back home. But yes, the idea of going to pick the kids up sounds a better idea.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
I might do that next year, but it is an hour drive each way.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
The house is quiet whenever the kids are not in the house. One can really relax well, however it seems something is lacking. The children's laughter and noise is what makes a house lively. And the house becomes empty without them, don't you think so , my friend?
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
yes, very empty
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
26 Dec 12
I can imagine if no kids at the time festival means how feel because we are always find the happiness in our kids. Even I have no kid but I can imagine and feels such. Wish next year kids will with you and you feel happy.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
thanks...
• China
26 Dec 12
It do has less festival atmosphere if no kids at home in Christmas,and you really need to pick them up next year and celebrate the Christmas together or you can go to their house as well,Happy new year my friend.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Dec 12
maybe I will, but by them being there I was able to wrap things earlier and go to bed at a decent hour. Also their grandmother was glad to have them there.