Would you choose someone you pity or someone you love?
By Kevin
@excellence7 (3698)
Mauritius
September 15, 2015 4:24am CST
Sometimes, love turns into pity and sometimes pity turns into love.
Have you ever been into a situation where you stay with someone only because you pity that person? If yes, what is the right thing to do? To walk out of the relationship or to compromise and live?
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@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
16 Sep 15
I'm glad that it didn't work either; maybe you would have both spent a lifetime pitying each other.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
16 Sep 15
@excellence7 ..me too. I mean, it would have been a kind of compromise. He was a miserly person, and while I was going through some tough financial phase, and it is not an easy thing to be with my parent, it would have made me really really miserable because I can at least afford somethings with my earnings, which would not have been possible with a person like that. 
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@gregario888 (1276)
• Aurangabad, India
15 Sep 15
It depends on the attitude, a holier-than-thou attitude is sure to imbue a false sense of pity in an individual; which is a hairline away from contempt, totally incompatible with love.
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@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
16 Sep 15
That's a nice way of seeing it. But do you think love can grow out of pity with time?
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@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
16 Sep 15
@gregario888 And compassion with love?
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@gregario888 (1276)
• Aurangabad, India
16 Sep 15
@excellence7 No! I'd rather associate empathy with pity, it seems more apt.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Sep 15
Are you a Libra 
Well it is a fine line - Love Vs Pity - when we speak of them in the emotional aspects. Definitely different though, Love is long lasting while Pity is not.
I cannot live with a person whom I pity for - because that would make things mostly one sided and lead to a very unhealthy scenario at a later date when the Pity would not be around. I would prefer walking out if I sense the relationship is more because of pity - maybe me pitying the other or the other pitying me.
Well it is a fine line - Love Vs Pity - when we speak of them in the emotional aspects. Definitely different though, Love is long lasting while Pity is not.
I cannot live with a person whom I pity for - because that would make things mostly one sided and lead to a very unhealthy scenario at a later date when the Pity would not be around. I would prefer walking out if I sense the relationship is more because of pity - maybe me pitying the other or the other pitying me.1 person likes this
@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
16 Sep 15
And what if the person whom you pity is deeply in love with you?
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@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
16 Sep 15
@vandana7 I am still not comfortable with the definition here. How can love be linked to a fear - a fear of losing? I am sure we can think bigger to have a more subtle definition of love. But I certainly agree about the idea of taking a break to re-evaluate our feelings.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
16 Sep 15
@excellence7 ..as we mature we realize the difference. Love is beyond lust and pity. It is, what should I say, a fear of losing the person. I think I would call that love. I would in fact suggest everybody who thinks he or she is in love to move out of the context - take a break, check if he or she still feels that way when there are other things to think, feel, see, etc., before deciding that it is love. The break should be long enough, about six months to an year.
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@skysnap (20152)
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15 Sep 15
I think on the face everything is clear. It is really hard to say in some cases whether we pity someone or love. I am sure you know that pitying someone is not that easy and that is not a good thing. I'd say wait for things to settle and you know who to accept and who to keep distance with. it is easy sometimes and harder too.
@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
16 Sep 15
Right. You feel like you are not living your whole life if you pity someone, as there is no love really.
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@LadyDuck (502812)
• Italy
16 Sep 15
@excellence7 I am sure that sooner or later, the sadness not to live a happy life shows and both people are unhappy.
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@helenrich (59)
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15 Sep 15
Well they say that "love conquers all", and to a degree it is very true. Most people (including myself) would always choose a lover over somebody who is down on their luck.
Pity is just a way of your heart telling you that you should probably do something to help somebody. I would always choose love and not pity, but there will always be a side of me that wants to help.
@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
15 Sep 15
And this is how I feel. I am torn into two - pity and love.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
15 Sep 15
No. I do not find weak spirited men to be attractive. Only annoying and needy. That whole "tortured soul" thing was cute when I was young, but now not so much.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Oct 15
I know I can't be trapped in a loveless relationship. Especially one where the only thing holding me back is pity. We only have one life to live, you know? How miserable will that be if we tried to live the rest of our lives pleasing other people at our own expense. I would choose the one I love, GRANTING, that he also loves me back. If not, then I'd choose neither of them.
@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
15 Sep 15
Then, what is the solution? What if a married couple is living like this?
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
16 Sep 15
No,Even if you stay because you pity for that person,you'll eventually not being happy anymore as time goes.Besides,It's unfair for that person and if you truly pity him then let it go,let him know what's really the score than keeping him hoping that there is something else between the two of you when there is none anymore.
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