Is it difficult to be nice to mean people

That's excellent advice, Anja, along with teaching us to think in a better way. I may try to remember what you said and share it with my co-workers. Do you care if I copy this to give to my manager?

@MarshaMusselman S'ok by me. I stole it right from the Bible - if not word for word. Socrates said that knowledge is virtue and ignorance is vice, meaning that if people realized they didn't benefit from their wrong deeds and understood the detriment to themselves, they would be more virtuous. Jesus was even more upfront and demanding - forgive your enemies, even when they don't deserve it. And it's not easy to bless those that curse you. But it's what Jesus did for us. We really haven't got any right to offense, because He suffered all offense in our defense.

@Rollo1 That is the perfect answer , but I am not perfect after all. I would have reported her though I wouldn't have pocketed the change. I hate being made to wait and being pushed and tugged around by a sales assistant. She certainly would have not got my sympathy in that situation.

@antonbunot I guess I would react that way too.. its kind of hard to take money that doesn't belong to you. I guess you better leave that pretty widow alone.

@antonbuno how noble kuya :) I don't always count my change so I wont know if there are extra cash :)

@antonbunot hahha! I could not help to laugh out loud hehe :)

@suzzy3 ...If that kindness and sympathy is genuine. I can usually see who people are.

You always get a better result if you are kind and sympathetic no matter what you may think of the people yourself.

@celticeagle Actua;lly the lady was a nice person.. she was told to act mean. just for the experiment. When she was being herself and handing extra change almost everyone returned the change. You are right about having the right attitude .. it always oils the wheels.

@scheng1 I agree with you about the money part completely. Would you be happy with a mean person who makes you wait and perhaps even says some rude things to you? Like whoever has doughnuts for breakfast and stuff like that.. That is not her business at all.

@LadyDuck It is tough.. but would you pocket the extra cash?

@LadyDuck I always hand the money back as like you say the poor assistant gets it taken from their money.

@sofssu No, I never do, because I know that the missing money is deducted from their salary.

@WorDazza Hmm tough thing to do.. Hats off to you if you can do it.. I hate to be kept waiting at the desk.. ( which is one of the reasons why I hate shopping) I wonder if they would even get the point.. I often say 'bless you' to someone who is mean.. but they mutter some more and walk away.

@WorDazza I do the same. Feels like sweet revenge! Feels good!

@salonga Very true. Its tough to be kind to rude people.. The right thing to do of course would be to be honest and polite.

@AbbyGreenhill I believe that was what most people answered when they were queried about their behavior.

@sofssu I don't blame them!

@JudyEv That is what most of the people naturally did.. I wonder if I would.. Maybe I won't. I would feel too guilty.

@JudyEv Its doable.. but difficult.

I think WorDazza has the best solution - be really nice to them.

@Auntylou I would complain too.. She means bad business if she was rude and careless.

@Namelesss I don't know about that.. For me its is tough to be nice to someone who is shoddy about their job. I wouldn't pocket the extra cash.. but I guess I would say a word or two that wouldn't be so nice.

@sofssu oh yes definitely .. such behaviors needs to be reprimanded :)

@Syllogism You are right.. but don't you think its tough when you are yourself in a fix.

@sofssu Yes,I might burst out.

@fishtiger58 Its really tough to be nice to such people. True we just want to walk away from such people.

@sofssu If I don't walk away I would probably say some not nice things.

@sofssu I love those type of shows they do give you an insight.

@suzzy3 It is.. and the show was really a great eye opener on human behavior.

@BelleStarr I am sure that I would be too..

@sofssu I am sorry for going down to my standard but I think that rude person deserves to be reprimanded by anyone from higher management.

@wiLLmaH So you will join the majority of those that pocketed the change.. Is it wise to let others change your moral standing by their behavior?

@marlina sounds fair to me. Maybe I'd will act similarly too .

@Jessicalynnt I expect very few people to turn the other cheek.. but I would have expected to see all return the extra cash back to the people.

@sofssu as this could really get a person fired? yeah.

@Waiiii That is not what they said.. almost all who kept the cash said that she did not deserve to be treated nice. But I do see your point.. I wonder if anyone felt taht way.