What is it going to take for people to realize that online dating doesn't work?
By Tyler
United States
December 18, 2015 7:37am CST
Expressing my views about online dating and why it doesn’t work, how there are better options.
What is it going to take for people to realize that online dating doesn’t work?
I hate online dating it’s tedious and can cause people to loose a lot of self confidence and lower your self esteem. Online dating also sucks because usually you have to pay for it. Now I don’t know about you but for me I’m not paying money to any dating site just to possibly meet a guy or a girl. I mean after you sign up for the account and fill in all of that data about who you are and what your interests are, Who you’re looking for, what features should they have etc….You then have to browse through the site’s users to see if there is someone there you like or think is really cute then you like their profile and if you are confident enough you send them a message asking them out or just saying “hey” which by the way a lot of people on dating sites are now saying that you need to be original or say something other than “hey” or “hi”.
Even if you manage to come up with something they still don’t message you back or even look at your profile. At this point it’s the waiting game, you have to wait for someone to like your profile and send you a message, you so anxiously wait for that email notifying you that…. (username) has sent you a message or liked your profile.Days go by then weeks and still nothing, now if you paid for this site then you are beginning to realise this is stupid and you just wasted all of that hard earned money. Even if you didn’t pay for the site you still wasted a lot of time you could have spent shopping or doing something else like getting a pet personally I like cats so there’s an idea for all of you out there who have been run down by those supposed to be great and help you find your soulmate but turns out to be useless dating sites
A lot of dating sites are a waste of time because you could be looking for a “relationship”, something long term, then you look at all of the cute guys or girls registered and they are looking for friends or dating, and even if they say they are looking for a relationship once you message them and by some miracle they message you back all they want to do is “date” and get to know you. Now here’s my problem with that, people seem to not grasp that a relationship is different than dating. One you and the other person are committed to each other you are “official” neither one of you goes out with anyone else with any kind of romantic interest.
The other being “dating” is where you two are just casually seeing each other nothing is official and you are not committed to each other so you can go out with each other one night and one of you could say “oh so sorry I’m going out with what’s his face tonight, but if it doesn’t go well we can go out again” All these people say try online dating it really works, to these people I say you are a liar and an idiot, for spending all that time and possibly money to find someone who you could or could not still be with. If you are like me and trying to find a relationship a long term one just try something different or dress your best and look available when you go out. Someone is bound to take a romantic interest in you and if not then get a cat and binge watch all of your favorite shows, you could even learn how to cook and bake, come up with your own recipes. Travel when you can, don’t fall prey to the scam that is online dating it’s not worth it.
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10 responses
@Marilynda1225 (79998)
• United States
18 Dec 15
My daughter and son in law met online and have been happily married for 15 years. It does work for some people
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Dec 15
I think maybe it depends on the site. My husband and I met online and we have been together for 11 years, married for 10 years with 4 children. It worked for us. 
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
22 Jan 16
Sarcasm suits you, doesn't it? While you made me laugh with your snarky comments, I am laughing...at your bitterness.
I personally know of four success stories.
If what you are doing to find the perfect partner isn't working, try something different. I utilized a number of different approaches. If you don't know how to differentiate between a hookup and a relationship, then perhaps you shouldn't consider dating at all.
Online dating has changed significantly in the last five years, that is for sure. I didn't pay anything to meet my husband online, short of my cell phone bill.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
18 Dec 15
I met my husband on the internet and we have been married for 6 years. I also have friends who have found their partners on the internet. It can be a challenge to find love online and many people get disappointed, but it is not impossible.
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
19 Dec 15
It hasn't worked for me yet, but two of my cousins have been married because of dating sites. So it works for some people. My problem is that my personality is part of what makes me fun, and you won't see that on my profiles.
@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
18 Dec 15
Well it can work for some people. I met my last boyfriend online and found he lived 6 hours from me we would meet on weekends and we dated for 7 years then he cheated. Then i found my new boyfriend online and we been together 5 years and he lives in the same town i do. So it depends on the person but for some it works and others it doesn't. You just have to be really careful these days.
@rebelann (111286)
• El Paso, Texas
18 Dec 15
I think each of us has to determine if they'd want to spend money for something like that, I have no interest in it and am very happy meeting different people on my shopping sprees.
Oh, having pets is much better for me, they never judge me or expect me to clean, cook or be in a good mood, they simply love me no matter what.
