Long road to, well anything....
By Jekca
@Jessicalynnt (50525)
Centralia, Missouri
January 19, 2016 12:15pm CST
So we have no news on anything job wise, no call backs, no new interviews, nothing even from the interviews he already had. I think a week is long enough and to call asking for updates, but I can't make him, so don't know if he will or not. I do have all the bills paid for January, and already paid the mortgage for next month. I am about to go pay next month's cell bill too (which is our only phones). I think looking at money that February will be ok money wise too, I think, I hope. But it's going to start going downhill pretty fast if something doesn't change fast.
I am about to go do more online job searches, I just spend time looking and send him links of what I find. I feel this compulsion and need to fix things, and since I can't, and I don't want to be all naggy about things, I have tried to channel it into this. I can feel like maybe I am helping then.
Bah!
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29 responses
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
19 Jan 16
You can't force him, maybe he needs more time. I've never been in that situation so I don't have much to offer - except - hang in....
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
I know, and probablly, it's hard to bounce back from a firing. The issue is, he really doesnt have much time, not if we want to keep the house.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
20 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt Hopefully something will change soon.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
it really does, and thanks!
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
19 Jan 16
don't let it dishearten you or your husband - you'll get by, you'll see
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
20 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt They will stretch their red tape out wide to make things awkward for everyone
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
@arthurchappell that's what it seems like, like they want people to give up
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
right now unemployment needs to hurry up, apparently there is a nasty delay in getting it started. freaking me out a bit.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
20 Jan 16
Things have to get better we pray.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
they really do, and thanks!
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
me too. He really got his hopes on that first job and interview, I kinda wish they hadn't called back so fast, I think he thought he'd have a new job within a week of losing the old one, three weeks in and nothing now
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@just4him (308693)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt My prayers are still with you for a new job for him.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
I know I can be, if I am not careful, I know i can get that way, but money stuff freaks me out, there isn't a tree I can get it from, there is no family who can "support" us like I see so many couples having. We dont get handouts.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
21 Jan 16
@JudyEv if he is freaking out, he hides it well.
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@JudyEv (326715)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt We started pff with very little too and I remember always worrying about our finances whereas my husband seemed quite okay with the situation. One family wasn't much better off and although we wouldn't have asked for help unless desperate, we did have some backup.
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@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
20 Jan 16
Finding job for someone else is always a bad idea.
It is better for him to find the job, and for him to catch up with old colleagues.
I think the best is to let him rest a while, think about what he really wants to do, what he can do, and how he wants to do it.
No point rushing or putting pressure.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
except he cant do that, not unless we want to become homeless.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
20 Jan 16
There is a saying -you can take a horse to the water but you cannot make it drink. Keep your fingers crossed something good will come out of your efforts.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
pretty much, so trying to find ways to make the water more enticing without him noticing, lol
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
I keep hoping he hears something, at this point hearing a no would at least cross something off the maybe list and maybe free up the feelings to move on
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
me too, I can only work so much OT, although I am watching for a part time job I could maybe do on my three days off a week.
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
20 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt This is the best to do, do not tell him, but search. One of my friend was in such a situation last year and finally her husband found a good position, even better than his previous job.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
yep I know. It's just frustrating because I feel helpless, and am freaking out I can't just 'fix' the budget. Much of the time I don't even tell him I am looking, I just quietly search.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
@LadyDuck Yeah I think you are right, not finding much anyways, so why point that out. I do hope that works out this way for us too.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt Yes, I can understand the difficulty, but I'm sure that he realises that you are trying to do your best for both of you.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
it's a fine line though, totally dont want to be naggy
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
20 Jan 16
I find employers are very very slow at getting back to people. I have been in a job 3 months before someone contact me for an application I put in months ago..
I hope he will hear back soon. Jobs are like buses, either nothing or all show up at once.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
21 Jan 16
@Jessicalynnt ya unfortunately, employers don't really care, as they are made to think it's the job seekers who should all bend backwards for a job
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
22 Jan 16
@Drosophila I dont mind some effort, but there is some respect that aught to go both ways, my company is bad about that, I have tried to move departments, gotten an interview and then never even got a sorry we picked someone else automated email!
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
yeah that really bugs me, an email that says "no" "dont know yet bear with us" SOMETHING would be nice
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
I know he isn't, I just wish I could do something more.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
@sofssu lol, thanks dear. You know how hard it is to not keep worrying...
@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
23 Jan 16
It's hard, the more anxious I get, the harder it is to control behaviors that aren't conducive to relationships.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
20 Jan 16
It it tough out there, I know when we had one job opening over 300 people applied. When I was out of work, , I would get nice emails back saying I didn't get an interview, as over 500 applied.. seems like a lot but I believe it. Jobs are still very hard to come by..
I seen good times and I seen bad times, where I had to shut off cell phones, internet, to buy food and pay bills.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
cell phone is the house phone, but I could give up mine perhaps.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
thanks dear, really need it.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
20 Jan 16
I can only imagine what you are both going through. I believe that if he calls, they will get to know his name. That often helps, but he will do only what he feels comfortable doing. Best of luck. I hope he finds something soon to unburden your minds.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Jan 16
I want him too, but I can't make him or do it for him. and me too.
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