Five Hours
@GardenGerty (169479)
United States
January 30, 2016 12:49am CST
In reference to my previous discussion, I was pleasantly surprised.
I was going to meet a half sister to my first husband. Someone we never knew existed. I was anxious and nervous.
I do not know if I can make her feel any better about the loneliness in her life. Her adult life seems to have been okay, but she always wanted family. The surviving brothers treat her wonderfully and that is good.
It stirred up old memories, and mostly good ones. People I have not thought about in a long time.
We talked for five hours.
I found that I dreaded this for no reason at all.
I bet there have been things you dreaded that turned out okay, too.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Jan 16
I agree. Worry is one of the biggest time wasters in my life.
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@JudyEv (382240)
• Rockingham, Australia
31 Jan 16
@GardenGerty With immediate problems that aren't ongoing I now say to myself 'this time tomorrow (or whatever) it will all be over' and for some reason this helps me cope.
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@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
30 Jan 16
I find that often the things we dread, turn out to be much easier when they occur. I'm glad the meeting went well.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Jan 16
I had made up a persona for her that was not related to any facts. She was much more down to earth. I can see some of the family resemblances to a dear family that I was part of for twenty five years.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
30 Jan 16
I sometimes get nervous for no reason too! I'm glad everything worked out and you two were able to connect for the first time!
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Jan 16
She e mails me a lot. I do not always do very much with personal e mail. I will scan some photos for her and mail them.
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@Juliaacv (56320)
• Canada
30 Jan 16
I'm glad that the meeting went so well, I could sense that you were a little concerned about it. But it sounds like you had a good encounter and that the thoughts that came back to you were pleasant ones. Hopefully now you will enjoy a stable and happy relationship together.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Jan 16
We have some things in common beyond the family issue. She also caught me up on news that I did not know about the family.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Jan 16
Yes, and it may be that she will turn out to be a good friend for me. We all need more friends.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
30 Jan 16
Sometimes we overthink but I am glad that your meetup turned out well. 5 hours, that is something
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
30 Jan 16
Yeah, we chose a slower time at the restaurant so we could talk without being rushed.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
30 Jan 16
@GardenGerty oh yes because if it were during peak hours you could not stay that long.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45941)
• United States
30 Jan 16
Whenever I am assigned a new client I can feel that wave of dread crashing over my head. Often times it is not to be worried over. However, there have been a few that I have met that leave me a bit unsettled after I meet them and even after a few visits I continue to have that nagging feeling hover over me.
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@celticeagle (189915)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Jan 16
I worry and stress just like my mom used to. I term it as being allergic to stress because it affects me horribly. I get sick. So I know how it is. I am glad it turned out well. THis is the way it usually goes. It is never as bad as we thing it will be. Thank goodness/
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
30 Jan 16
perhaps you could exchange letters? this would take the immediate off, but give you both something to look forward too, because who doesn't like nonbill mail!
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@Auntylou (4262)
• Oxford, England
31 Jan 16
It is easy to build "worry castles" in your mind, but such a waste of effort as things are mostly not as bad as we fear
