My Guilty Valentine Secret.
By Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
United Kingdom
February 13, 2016 9:47am CST
I have two older sisters and when we reached our teens and they started getting Valentine's cards, I felt really left out. So I remedied that by sending one to myself.
I wasn't even interested in boys at that stage, I just wanted them to be interested in me - or at least to make my sisters think they were.
I don't know if they guessed or not, but I never confessed my guilty secret.
I have to tell you that was the only Valentine's card I ever received - sad but true! I have been happily married for 50 years, and in all that time I have never received one from my husband! Then again, I haven't sent him one either. It's just something we've never done.
So do I feel deprived at not getting a card? - naah! I've had plenty of love in my life, and still have it. I may not have a romantic husband, but I've got a good one.
What's this - no Valentine?
Where are the roses and wine?
Their lack is no loss
I don't give a toss,
I have a good man, and that's fine.
Image from Pixabay
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69 responses
@allknowing (133460)
• India
13 Feb 16
So you were wicked in your own way (lol) Great limerick there (*switches off the recording)
The Mills and Boon novels that I read made me blind to the way my husband showed his love - washing dishes when the maid was not around and doing so many other chores which I took for granted until realisation dawned on me that red roses are nothing compared to this.
Valentine's Day anyway was never celebrated here until may be in the last few years.
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@allknowing (133460)
• India
14 Feb 16
@jaboUK And now it is not just between couples but with parents and children, friends the works.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 16
@allknowing I'm so glad that you came to appreciate your husband properly. That's interesting about this day not being celebrated in your country until recently - MALUSE said the same thing about Germany.
As you can tell from the fact that I was a silly young girl in that I sent a card to myself, it's been celebrated for a long time here. It wasn't so commercialised then though.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 16
@allknowing They are missing the point - St Valentine is the patron saint of lovers.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
13 Feb 16
there are so many other ways to show a persons love than to get a valentine card, and to me there much more fun and enjoyable
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 16
@hostessman You've hit the nail on the head there, Bobby.
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@Scindhia (1906)
• India
14 Feb 16
@hostessman We must show our love at every instance possible instead of waiting for a single day in a year. That does not make sense to me.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
13 Feb 16
Some years we pick up dollar store cards, others we don't. It's not a big deal. Either way, like you, I have a keeper.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 16
@Morleyhunt - Yup, I'm not throwing mine back in
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 16
@Morleyhunt That is so right. There are actually a lot of people on this site that have been married a long time.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
13 Feb 16
@jaboUK when I hear some stories, we are blessed to have chosen our mates so well.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
13 Feb 16
We don't celebrate Valentines Day either at my insistence. My husband tells me he loves me everyday and I tell him. We don't need a day to remind us to do that.
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@rebelann (112565)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Feb 16
That's totally awesome @fishtiger58 & @jabo
Valentines is no more than a commercialization of love rather than having anything to do with actual love.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 16
@fishtiger58 As you say, if you love one another that's enough., though I wouldn't begrudge anyone else getting the whole flowers and chocolates thing if that's what they like.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
13 Feb 16
9 years of being with my boyfriend, I got one card - no flowers. He said everyone he gave flowers to - doesn't last relationship wise lol.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
13 Feb 16
@jaboUK He said he'll get me balloons instead lol. 
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 16
@infatuatedbby That's all right then - he obviously wants it to last
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doesn't matter from whom.
Now I wonder if I'm gettin one.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
13 Feb 16
I've got a good man but I suffered 10 years with a bad one! I am happy that my husband and I do exchange cards and we usually buy them at the same time - For an anniversary a year ago we both the identical card!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 16
@AbbyGreenhill That bad experience with your first husband must make you appreciate the one you have now all the more. Funny that you both got the same card.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49965)
• United States
13 Feb 16
My husband and I don't always exchange cards either.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 16
@Tampa_girl It's not really necessary if you live in the same house, is it?
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When you have the love of a good man, you don't need a card to prove it. It's so awesome you've had lots of love in your life.
@Mike197602 (15506)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 16
I got a few valentines back in the day when I was at school.
Then I had a few when I've had girlfriends in the past.
This year I won't get any as nobody knows my address and I won't be sending any.
That being said I'm a massive fan of romcom films and books
Not many are lucky enough to be in your position...I may be a little jealous
Not many are lucky enough to be in your position...I may be a little jealous2 people like this
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 16
@Mike197602 Sorry you haven't got anyone at the moment Mike, but at least you've had someone in the past. You surprise me with you liking the romcoms.
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@Mike197602 (15506)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 16
@jaboUK I surprise many people
I'm a big fan of romcoms and I even like chic lit with the pink covers
I'm a big fan of romcoms and I even like chic lit with the pink covers1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Mar 16
Love the poem. :)
I'm glad you are happy with your husband. Valentines Day can be a sweet idea but it seems a bit forced anyway and just a gimmick for stores to make more money.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 16
@VivaLaDani Thanks for coming back again for this one, and what you say is true - it's too commercialised. (Did you sort your own problems out?)
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 16
@VivaLaDani13 Yes. I see you deleted your post, but i don't mean to pry.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Mar 16
@jaboUK No worries. :)
You mean the boyfriend thing?
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
18 Feb 16
Lol!! I know I am responding a tad bit late but..... *shrug*
I believe that "Every day is a valentine when you are in a right relationship with a right partner"
Good poem........ :)
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb 16
@Daljinder It's good of you to come back and respond on all of my posts - I know you were busy when I posted them. Thank you. And your quote is so true.
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I'm flattered.@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
18 Feb 16
@jaboUK I find your discussions interesting to read. So, I make sure that I read them. I only missed one about immigrants. I had no knowledge on the subject matter so I missed it.
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