Having Babies
By Susan
@HazySue (39264)
Gouverneur, New York
February 15, 2016 1:19pm CST
I have been reading articles about having babies, not having babies, having babies they don't want, not having babies they do want, and so forth.
My opinion about babies is if you can have them and you want them then you should have them.
For those who don't want them, don't have any. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. If I didn't want a child there is no power on earth that could make me have one.
I do have three daughters that I would not trade for the world. One of them does not want children and I would never dream of trying to harass her into having one.
One of my daughters has four children. She knew, I believe from birth, that she wanted to be a mother. I would never tell her not to have so many.
My youngest has one child and would love another so she has started adoption proceedings.
Everyone is different. I would not try to tell someone to have or not have children. I feel it is a very personal decision. Everyone needs to decide on their own or with their partner.
What do you think?
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
15 Feb 16
Many people do and don't want children. That is their choice. I always knew I wanted to have at least 1 child and so I did. I will never regret him. I would never push someone to have children. I love talking about my son and how much I love being a mom, but some people are better suited to be aunts and uncles.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@DanieGirl80587 I think I was born wanting to have children. However, I do support the right to choose.
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
16 Feb 16
I want children but I can't have them because of my heart condition too much stress on the heart and i wouldn't be able to go thru it. For now I just cherish my nieces and nephew that i do have.
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
20 Feb 16
@HazySue Yes wouldn't trade it for anything, i can spoil them all i want
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@Blondie2222 I'm sorry to hear that. I think you have found a way to include children in your life.
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@irishidid (8687)
• United States
16 Feb 16
I have three children and I sometimes think I should have said yes when my husband at the time mentioned having one more. The problem was he said it right after the youngest was born. Not very good timing!
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@irishidid that was pretty poor timing. I too think that I would have liked to have one more but it wasn't to be.
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@slund2041 (3314)
• United States
16 Feb 16
I think that is such a personal matter. I think it has to be up to each couple if they chose to have a baby. The want-to-be grandparents cannot make that choice for their kids.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@slund2041 it is sad to have a child for someone else. I think that you need to want a child for yourself.
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@1creekgirl (40635)
• United States
15 Feb 16
Great post! It really is a personal decision. I've never regretted having our children.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@1creekgirl neither have I. It really is a personal decision.
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@Marilynda1225 (80095)
• United States
20 Feb 16
I agree that those who want them should have them and those who don't shouldn't.
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@jillybean1222 (6408)
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16 Feb 16
Yes, it is very personal. I can never understand not wanting children, but at least they know themselves well enough to not have them. I know a few people who didn't have kids, but who are fantastic aunts and uncles.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@jillybean1222 ther4e are some people that just should not be parents. Look at all the abused and abandoned children out there.
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@biikiki (197)
• Nyeri, Kenya
16 Feb 16
having children or not should be ones personal decision but at times it depends which part of the world you come from. In africa or let me say in my country having children expecially if you are married is very important. if you go like one year or two in marriage without it become an issue expecially with your inlaws and there is a lot of pressure
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@pumpkinjam (8544)
• United Kingdom
19 Feb 16
I agree with you. If you want them, have them. If not, don't. I don't think it's always that simple sometimes. I mean, one might step in in certain situations but mostly, I agree. My boys were unplanned but I wouldn't be without them.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Feb 16
@pumpkinjam two of my girls were not planned but I wouldn't trade them for the world. I just mean - if you don't want them, don't have them or if you do want them, try to find a way to get one (legally). I know it is hard but, it sure is worth it.
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@Fleura (29263)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
I think it is a personal choice too although I do feel there is a certain responsibility to 'the family'; if parents have a child or children and then they do not want any children of their own it is rather sad for the parents who will never be grandparents. The parents are not the only ones affected and they have to consider that a little bit I think, although that alone is not enough to make them choose a course of action against their better judgement.
On a different note, although it seems like a personal choice I am surprised by how much people are influenced by, for example, changes in government policy regarding tax allowances, benefits available, free childcare etc. Money talks even in this most personal sphere!
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