Have you planned for the future?
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
United States
September 17, 2016 7:25am CST
When I say 'future' I mean way in the future hopefully.....What I am really asking is this....Do you have a will?
We had our wills done about 13 years ago. Since that time things have changed considerably. Items we designated go to a particular person have been sold. People we left items to or who otherwise were part of our wills we have eliminated from our lives. Things changed and we knew it was time to have new wills drawn up.
We asked our financial guy at the bank for a recommendation for an attorney and we met with said attorney a month ago. (They don't move fast around here.) Finally got a call yesterday that the wills are ready to be executed and we'll do that next week.
I know, I know...some of you think:
. I'm too young to have a will, or
. I don't have anything to leave to anyone
Think again - death knows no age and if you think hard enough you will realize you do own things. Things that if not called out in a will would most likely go to the State in which you live.
It takes a little thought but if you meet with an attorney he will walk you through the process. We knew what details we wanted included in our wills and the attorney did bring up a few things we had not thought of.
We don't find it morbid or weird talking about our wills, death is a part of life. My husband and I both feel better and more at ease knowing our wills are in place.
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@LadyDuck (502343)
• Italy
17 Sep 16
@AbbyGreenhill In Europe if you want to be sure, you have to go through a Notary, it's the only way to go.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
@LadyDuck Here you use attorney or in TN you can write your own will and have signatures notarized. I don't take chances I use the 'law'....
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
In TN they don't enter the wills in the court like we did in New Jersey. So it's up to each person to make sure they are safe. The last time they gave us the wills, we had the only copies, I assume it will be the same this time, but it is a different county so who knows.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Just do it, you'll be glad you did.
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@celticeagle (189824)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Sep 16
No, I don't find it morbid or weird either. Good sense actually. I wrote a note that I have in my USB device and it has instructions for my daughter. Then I also have a Living Will which I think is important in close families.
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@celticeagle (189824)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Sep 16
@AbbyGreenhill ....That sounds like a plan. I just didn't want my daughter to feel badly. I know she will be upset and I don't want her to feel badly if I am sick and they can't revive me.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Thanks......
Considering it's just the two of us we opted not to do a living will. My husband knows my wishes and I know his. After one of us is gone the other should do a living will.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
17 Sep 16
My parents stand in line to my inheritance
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
I assume you have others if they are not around?
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
@Drosophila The odds are you will outlive your parents so people normally leave the money/things to some younger people.
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@BettyB (4117)
• Summerville, South Carolina
17 Sep 16
We updated our wills two years ago. After dealing with my mother's estate we went through and organized our finances as well. I don't want to leave a mess for my kids. My mother had money and property stashed all over the place. It's been a year and a half and we're still trying to untangle the mess.
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@topffer (42155)
• France
17 Sep 16
Is it mandatory to have an attorney for a will in your country ? Here you can write it yourself and keep it at home if you want. As I live alone since a few years now, I deposited mine last year in a notary office and there is a record in a national database of wills.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Some states allow you to write your own will - the state I live in is one of them. But I don't want to take the chance of something strange happening and someone contesting the will...we used an attorney. I am not sure what other states allow you to do your own.
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@LeaPea2417 (40026)
• Toccoa, Georgia
17 Sep 16
Thanks for reminding me. My husband and I do have a Will but it was made many years ago and it does need to be revised.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
That;s good that you are thinking about it now...make the appointment.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Good for you, you've done the right things.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
Yes, you especially need to take care of it to be sure your kids are taken care of.
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@sueznewz2 (10409)
• Alicante, Spain
17 Sep 16
No i haven't. ..but have been thinking about doing so recently... i'm glad your updates went through smoothly...
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@Rohvannyn (3098)
• United States
18 Sep 16
It's good to be prepared. I do have life insurance through my job and I should probably get a will drawn up at some point. Not having any children, there's less for me to worry about. When I do get a will I'll probably use Legalzoom and do it myself.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
I don't have kids - a will is important for everyone.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Yes, even if they don't need update, it's good to go over them every few years to be sure.
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@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
17 Sep 16
I have so much plan for my future but sometimes I am frustrated.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Aren't we all at at times, but you have to take care of things.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
19 Sep 16
Yes, it gives us peace of mind for sure.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
Now that you're settled you should do it.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
17 Sep 16
I do not, and true, I need too, and a living will.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
@Jessicalynnt We can do our own wills here in TN, but we opted for an attorney. If your state allows you do to you own then you can, but having worked for lawyers and doing wills, I wouldn't recommend it. There are people we are excluding and we wanted to make sure those people can't contest the will and I wanted all the T's crossed, etc. With that being said, our wills are probably more complex than yours would be. You can always check out legalzoom, although I hate the thoughts of that man getting more money.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
18 Sep 16
@AbbyGreenhill is this better to do with a lawyer, and not oneself?
@jillybean1222 (6406)
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17 Sep 16
we do not, though i know we should. we don't really "own" anything, but you know, there is STUFF. we are just so in debt that i can't even think about the future... sigh. but... it seems nowadays you can just do your own will with software & have it notarized.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
If it's a basic will you can go that way.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
@Ayuriny It is a good idea to have a will. If not, and you die, your money will go to the government instead of your family etc.
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@amandajay (23262)
• New Zealand
18 Sep 16
We have plans for migrating New Zealand. Other than that no big hopes. I dont like to keep big hopes for anything. If it shattered it will hurt. 
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Sep 16
This is about writing a will - that kind of planning - planning for when you're gone.
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