The family you never knew existed

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I am not entirely happy with the title but it is essentially what the discussion is about. This is also the third attempt of me writing this. I am trying to make it as short as possible so as not to deter people from reading the discussion. Let me get on with it then. I was on FB when I came across the list of "people you may know' and a name that took my by surprise. It wasn't the first name, but the last. My maiden name. Attached to a first (name) I didn't know and a face that I didn't recognize. Further looking into it would show that they are friends with a cousin of mine. Even more research would show that that isn't the only person on my cousin's friends list with the same last name as my father. I wanted to chock it up to coincidence. Maybe she knows these people from somewhere else, and they are in no way related to me. Not the case. Another person's profile, again someone I don't know, would show me a picture of a man I never met but whose face I recognized. My grandfather. My father's father. Even more research would show that these weren't the only two people with my dad's last name that might (in some obscure way) be related to me. An uncle an aunt, perhaps? That was my first initial thought on the two profiles I came across first. They are old enough, and the one who has a picture of my grandfather? She could have come from a relationship he had prior to meeting my dad's mom. Okay, then why is it that I don't know these people? Appearances (the woman having an old picture of my grandfather) would show that they have known of my family for years now... I stopped talking to my dad's side of things (except for the occasional perfunctory invite or respectful presence at a funeral) about 15 years ago. Honestly I wish I could tell you how I felt but I don't know what to think. Curiosity is one thing. I am definitely curious. Should I care? Should I try to reach out? I don't think so. What good would that do? "Hi I'm such and such the daughter of such and such and I am just curious as to who the heck you are?" I don't know, this has definitely brought up a lot of questions in my mind.