Question of the day - reason/response

@ElicBxn (64169)
United States
July 14, 2017 1:03am CST
So, yesterday I posted a discussion, you can find it here: So, I promised that I would explain why I posted this question. I actually posted this on Facebook because I want one particular person to see it. I don't know that she will, or will realize she's the reason for the question. However, to the question. My wife was told 4 years ago that she was in Stage 5 kidney failure. They weren't ready then to put her on dialysis, but did want her to get on the transplant list because it takes at least 5 years, often longer, to get a match and then a kidney. She put off telling her parents for a while, but I thought they should know. What they could do about it? Nothing really, partly because they are both in their 70's and their health isn't that great. After some badgering, she finally told them. Her mother's response was: "I'm the wrong blood type." That was it. Nothing more. No asking what they might do to help, no wanting more information. Nothing. What kind of parent is that? Just to make sure you know, she has really good insurance. She was sent to the best kidney specialists in town when the kidney failure was discovered. No transplant is ever considered lightly, and considering the possibility of organ rejection, it can potentially be dangerous. Now, I'm tagging those people who did respond to my first discussion so they can learn why I posted it. @lovebuglena @LadyDuck @shivamani10 @Tracy04 @HAPPSINGH2
I have this Facebook friend who has been posting these 'Question of the Day' questions for about a month. At least that I've seen. Some I think are good...
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@LadyDuck (502235)
• Italy
14 Jul 17
Thank you for the update, my blood type is 0 negative, I can donate to all blood types, but I can only receive from another 0 negative.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
14 Jul 17
My sister is also O negative. I'm A negative. My wife is O positive.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
15 Jul 17
@LadyDuck I actually know that. I offered to do a kidney exchange, but my health isn't good enough.
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@LadyDuck (502235)
• Italy
15 Jul 17
@ElicBxn Your sister can donate to everybody, you are compatible with all A groups, 0+ is compatible with AB+ A+ B+ and 0+.
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• United States
1 Aug 17
Transplants are so mind boggling to me, I'm not sure I could deal with what it entails. I think you are both very brave. As for the parents, it sounds to me like that thought she was asking for them to donate a kidney, but even so if it was my child I'd be volunteering to be tested.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
1 Aug 17
I know. As I said, I offered, and we weren't even married back then!
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
14 Jul 17
i understand if they're thinking about their own health/mortality due to their age, but not even asking how else they can help is puzzling. maybe they feel that they shouldn't meddle? that it's their daughter's decision what do to with her body? i know of a family in my parent's hometown where the sisters donated their kidneys to their brothers.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
14 Jul 17
It was the off handed way she said it and seldom follows up asking after her health.
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@lovebuglena (52167)
• Staten Island, New York
15 Jul 17
It's sad that the parents didn't inquire more information on what's going on or ask if there is anything they can do to help... Hope things turn out ok though.
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
15 Jul 17
She is distancing herself from them. Her therapist has pointed out that they are the cause of a lot of her problems, and emotional abuse is the same as any other abuse.