~I Don&#39;t Usually Tell Anyone But I Might Have To~

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Happy2beme Thank you. I know, I hate that he doesn't even want to go now! =( He has always loved going to church. Thanks, I hope the message gets the situation to change. I am praying for things to get better. Unfortunately in church you have the people that stick together and I think that would be the case-which is why if things don't change we will just have to leave.

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@Happy2BeMe (99399)

• Canada

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies I am sorry to hear that. I know many churches are like that.

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Courtney

@Courtlynn (66921)

• United States

14 Sep 17

I'm so sorry Jen! Poor Jackson! I wouldn't want to go back either, what a mean teacher. I hope you don't have to leave the church.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Courtlynn Thank you. I know, I feel so bad for him. I am hoping the message I sent gets across and changes things. If not, we will have to go elsewhere...

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Courtlynn The girls have female teachers that are firm but still nice. I get that they have to be firm because there are 20 kids to them but there are ways to do it and ways not to. Plus with Jackson, being too harsh causes a meltdown-not getting him to do what you want him to do.

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Courtney

@Courtlynn (66921)

• United States

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies hopefully it does. How do the girls feel?

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Oshy

@TiarasOceanView (70035)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Oh no that has to stop immediately before he does some damage or if he already hasn´t that mean teacher..what a bully!! Yes you will do whatever it takes Jennifer..sorry to hear of your sons condition but I know he would be just fine with the right people.. This makes me so mad

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@TiarasOceanView Yes I agree. That's why I had to say something-I didn't want my son being hurt any longer. He is an adult bully which is awful-especially at church! Yes, he does thrive in the right environment.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@TiarasOceanView I just did an update to this one if you want to read it.

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Oshy

@TiarasOceanView (70035)

• United States

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies Let us know what happens. We know you would not let anyone bully your children.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (457918)

• Switzerland

14 Sep 17

He is right, she is too rude and I would have been also upset. I have no problems, but I am extremely sensitive.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@LadyDuck It's a man teacher but yes he's too tough on the kids. Especially sensitive ones like my son.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (457918)

• Switzerland

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies If he is a man, I am not sure he will understand how important it is to be more tolerant with your son.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@LadyDuck He didn't seem to care at all. =(

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MARILYN

@Marilynda1225 (79664)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Thanks for sharing a picture of Jackson (he's adorable even though I know you're not supposed to say that about boys). Hopefully the teacher will respond to your message by being kinder to Jackson and realizing that his methods aren't working.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Marilynda1225 Thank you! He doesn't mind being called adorable, I tell him all the time. =) I hope so, I hope it goes well and doesn't back fire but either way I will know what to do after this...

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Joanie

@Freelanzer (10745)

• Canada

14 Sep 17

Oh he is so cute! I think it is very important that the teacher knows about your son's asperger, so that he understands his actions are not deliberate. There is a lot more awareness about this out there now so anyone dealing with kids should be educated about it. Hope all goes well.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Freelanzer Thank you so much! I did let him know and he didn't seem to care one bit about my son.

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mor

@stringer321 (5643)

• Kiryat Ata, Israel

14 Sep 17

I hope the teacher can recognize someone with difficulties who has special needs, but, maybe he doesn't treat the kid differently so other kids will see what happens and no one will get jealous and tell it is a discrimination (Why can he do this and that and gets away with that ?)

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Joanie

@Freelanzer (10745)

• Canada

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies I am sure you will keep an eye on it. It pains me to hear about kids being treated that way. Some people are not meant to be teachers.

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kprofgames

@kprofgames (3091)

• United States

14 Sep 17

This kind of burns me a bit. Being a parent of children with autism, I can understand the hardships these children go through with trying to fit into the world around them. There is a firm teacher, but not allowing him to read? to eat? That sounds like out right being a bully and your son has been singled out. I hope you get a good, RESPONSIBLE response from this person. If not, then it's time to go over this teachers head. No child should be make for feel alienated, especially in a church setting. Love the picture. He looks like a sweet, loving boy.

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kprofgames

@kprofgames (3091)

• United States

14 Sep 17

I sincerely hope that this experience doesn't leave a lasting impression on him. Once shut down in public settings it takes a while to gain their confidence back again. We teach them that church is a safe place and then something like this happens.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@kprofgames I know and that's why I removed him from class. It's so sad since he was finally comfortable there and made friends-now we have to start all over again. =(

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@kprofgames Yes I absolutely agree! He was signaled out for God only knows what reason and this teacher was absolutely bullying him. So wrong! This is why I Home School, because I don't want to go through these things at a school all the time. But to happen at church?? SHOCKING!

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sishy7

@sishy7 (27169)

• Australia

14 Sep 17

You did the right thing by telling the teacher and I hope things will change for the better...

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@sishy7 Thank you. I hope they get better as well.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36428)

• Toccoa, Georgia

14 Sep 17

Hopefully the teacher will get the message and treat Jackson better.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Leapea2417 I wish but he didn't care. He blamed my son for things he didn't do and my son isn't going back.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@LeaPea2417 It is wrong. I had a horrible 1st grade teacher, never will forget Mrs. Miller-the meanest teacher I ever had in my life.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (36428)

• Toccoa, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies That is so bad when a teacher picks on a student whether it be in Sunday school or Awana or regular school. My 5th grade teacher had it out for me. I still have sad feelings about 5th grade.

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Alfredo Rossi

@amadeo (111948)

• United States

14 Sep 17

are they aware of this.?if not you should have explain to them on t his.But t his can be very helpful

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@amadeo Well, they are now. I sent him a message letting him know about it. I am hoping things change for the better now.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@amadeo Something is clearly wrong with him because the teacher didn't care.

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Alfredo Rossi

@amadeo (111948)

• United States

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies It should.If not something is wrong with them.

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S George

@shshiju (10342)

• Cochin, India

14 Sep 17

Jackson looks innocent and cute. The teacher should be role model for kids. It is very sad that the teacher behaves very tough. Bullying is not allowed any where. If the message not works it is good to rethink about the matter

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

15 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies no church person shouo be judging a klittle boy to begiwithg t hgats niot cristrian if tghe teachedr at all shame n him to me to be a teacher in a churche for kids yoiu should be verty tolerant of the differences of kids shame oin hium

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@Hatley I completely agree with you! He shouldn't be a teacher for little ones.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@shshiju Thank you! He's a sweet boy. =) Yeah, he is way too tough on these small children.

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Ann LeFlore

@poehere (15126)

• French Polynesia

14 Sep 17

This is so sad. It is a church and not a college study group. No teacher who teaches children has the right to do this. Church is suppose to be fun and teach the children. It is not a military school and kids need to be kids. I am so sorry this happened to your son. I hope this teacher will change.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@poehere I know, it's ridiculous how he has been treated. Exactly, it's supposed to be enjoyable! I am so shocked and angry by this. Thank you.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@poehere This teacher is very high up in the church, part of everything and pastor's friend so there's no way to avoid him and continue going to that church. So, we are stepping away from it. I agree, he's a bully and I am sick about it all.

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Ann LeFlore

@poehere (15126)

• French Polynesia

15 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies I hope it all works out and he can have fun in his church group. It would be a shame if he quit. He does enjoy it and it sounds like he learned his bible verse and was so excited to say it. That is down right mean the teacher wouldn't allow him to do this. Pus he is a small child and to deny him the food the others are eating is even worse. Nobody should do that to a small child.

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April

@thislittlepennyearns (58119)

• Defuniak Springs, Florida

14 Sep 17

Poor Jackson. I hope things get better!

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@thislittlepennyearns Thank you, me too.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@thislittlepennyearns We are changing churches. =(

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April

@thislittlepennyearns (58119)

• Defuniak Springs, Florida

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies I would seriously consider changing churches if things don't get better because that's not cool or fair for him. Even though changing churches will probably suck

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Faye

@FayeHazel (40248)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Oh I am sorry to hear that. That does seem a little tough punishment even for someone without aspergers -- much a less someone with it. I think you did the right thing.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@FayeHazel Yes I absolutely agree. It was so wrong. He isn't going back.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

15 Sep 17

@FayeHazel I think it was doing a lot more damage than good. I don't want my son to hate church because of this one person and that's what was happening. =( We are going to find another church that we all enjoy as a family.

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Faye

@FayeHazel (40248)

• United States

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies That's a shame that he will need to miss out on it - but it sounds like it might be doing more damage than good at this point. Poor kid. I would have thought Church leadership may have done something about it? Like told that guy to chill a little or something...

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snowy

@snowy22315 (169868)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Yes, I would defintely talk to her and say you expect some improvement or you will speak to the pastor or who ever her supervisor is. It is wrong for her to treat your son like that! Tell her that program is supposed to be fun for kids not have them in tears!

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snowy

@snowy22315 (169868)

• United States

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies Hmmm, well then you need to either discuss it with the minister or book. I wouldn't send him back to that class.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@snowy22315 The teacher is a male but he didn't care even after I messaged him. He doesn't seem to want my son there at all.

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dragon54u

@dragon54u (31636)

• United States

14 Sep 17

Not very Christian behavior on the part of that teacher! I would change churches right away and not make your son go back to that activity. AWANA is supposed to be a fun way to teach young people Christianity but it sounds as if that's the last thing it is teaching. I don't go to church. When I took my kids to a nearby church years ago (we were miles from anywhere else) it was a short experience because a teacher told my 4 year old he was going to hell because he would not share his crayons with another child. Horrible people, judgmental jerks. Churches are nothing more than support systems and income generators. They can do a lot of harm to children if they are bad places like the one I experienced. Find a better, more loving church so your son isn't further damaged by jerks with big egos.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

15 Sep 17

good fordragon 54U that so goiod and so true

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@dragon54u We are leaving this church. I am shocked, angry and hurt. I did an update about how things went after I messaged him.

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Dominique

@dodo19 (47050)

• Beaconsfield, Quebec

14 Sep 17

Hopefully, the message helps and does make a difference. Although if the teacher is so tough, maybe this individual should consider not being so hard.

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Dominique

@dodo19 (47050)

• Beaconsfield, Quebec

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies exactly. If he wants to treat like one, then he should go to boot camp.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@dodo19 I absolutely agree!

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@dodo19 Thanks, I hope so too. I agree-he needs to calm down, it's not boot camp!

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AbbyGreenhill

@AbbyGreenhill (45496)

• United States

14 Sep 17

I have no clue what AWANA is?

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AbbyGreenhill

@AbbyGreenhill (45496)

• United States

14 Sep 17

@kobesbuddy oh thanks.

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Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (74483)

• East Tawas, Michigan

14 Sep 17

The Baptist churches have this organization, to teach their youth about the Bible.

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Mike

@Mike197602 (15487)

• United Kingdom

14 Sep 17

I don't know what AWANA is but whoever is in charge I don't like the sound of him

Maybe speak to the person privately and explain your concerns and then if nothing happens go to the top bosses.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Mike197602 It's basically Bible study for kids. I did send him a message explaining everything, I can't say anything face to face since we don't see each other much and I don't want to embarrass my son.

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Mike

@Mike197602 (15487)

• United Kingdom

14 Sep 17

@LovingMyBabies I think you've done the right thing. Often parents do embarrass their kids by making an issue about something and sometimes make things worse. As you've sent a message wait and see if things improve, if they don't then I suppose you'll have a decision to make about what to do.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Sep 17

@Mike197602 Thank you. I never want to embarrass my kids, especially with something he is already sensitive and embarrassed about. Yes, if nothing improves then I know what we have to do-even if we don't like it.

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Bhem

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

14 Sep 17

I won't let anyone do that to my kids. Apparently, I don't have a kid of my own. But I have a nephew I'm taking cared of. He is such a restless kid who likes to play and move around. And I'm not thinking he has a problem because that is kids nature. But with this kind of attitude towards a sensitive kid is not right. He must be the one to know how to make a special kid feel comforts. You should report him.

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