What would you do?
By solxee
@sol_cee (38222)
Philippines
October 13, 2017 6:02pm CST
Have you ever experienced waking up early to start the day right, thanking God for another gift of life, and checking your phone messages only to find out that one of your former colleagues sent you a pm asking to borrow $200 for his wife who is in the hospital suffering from kidney stones?
I don’t know how to feel except for that ball of energy exiting my system. I feel sad that he and his family are in that situation. But I feel sad too that people think I have lots of money to spare. I’m not rich. I work hard, far from my family, missing my kids’ birthdays, becoming a stranger to them, but people seem to think I’m loaded. The go-to person for cash problems. Sad. Just sad.
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@runningthegalaxies (324)
• United States
14 Oct 17
Things get better with time, and I hope that your life will become much brighter because it will. =)
@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
14 Oct 17
@runningthegalaxies You mean your real name?
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@runningthegalaxies (324)
• United States
14 Oct 17
@sol_cee Thank you very much. It is my name. My website's name and all. Trying to be an author and make my dream come true and having a website is good. Don't know what I'm doing sometimes really. Hee hee.
@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
11 Jul 18
I am sorry this happened to you, Sherlocked. And from what you say, this is not the first time it has happened, either. *shake my head*
It just isn't right to ask friends or relatives for money. If they need money, they should talk to a banker. That's what banks are there for. Friends and relatives are there for emotional support or to have fun times with, not to harass for money.
I would send a pm back to the former colleague and tell him you are sorry but you just don't have money to spare.
Why would he ask for a loan for his wife? That's either an odd phrasing or an odd request. What am I missing here, Dearheart? 
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
11 Jul 18
@sol_cee You know, your English is anything but poor... except for this one isolated incident, as far as I have ever seen.
I'd still have told him to take a hike!
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@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
11 Jul 18
@DaddyEvil so embarrassed. I wanna die now. Hehe
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
14 Oct 17
I feel what you are feeling because last night, a relative called saying she needed cash for his father's hospital bills. I can't describe the feeling of being guilty or annoyed because I thought I tried to save money, using it so wisely, sometimes depriving myself of some needs just to save; and yet I can see their relatives posting a lot on FB about escapades, etc. Why don't they save for their parent's future?
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.)@YrNemo (20261)
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14 Oct 17
@sol_cee Some teased me after getting money from me. They cried a bit, and said I was the only one who could be conned that easily. I was shocked, and didn't know what to say.
One just tried again, this time asking me several thousand US dollars, 2 installments of such amount per year for about 5-6 yrs. I shook my head! That same person laughed at me last time when she managed to con me nicely. She also implied that I was so stupid that she was amazed. I rest my case.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Oct 17
yes that is just wrong. worst is some think you are so loaded they need not pay you back!
i have the same here. don't they know you would not work so hard if you did not need the money. just say you don't have it you paid bills already with it. i too have that with my adult kids. just because i get one lump sum a month . i am disabled and retired. i have to budget it. they get paid weekly so think i get more but added up, they get more. they just spend it faster.
@eliza_godinez12 (5567)
• Philippines
13 Oct 17
Sorry to hear that sad news. I hope everything will be okay in the end.
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@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
24 Oct 17
That was what I was thinking (LOADED) before I read your post. 
@HebrewGreekStudies (1646)
• Canada
18 Nov 17
Yess, sorry for them that they are in that situation, but, that is also...very much pressure on you on top of everything else:(.
@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
14 Oct 17
If only we have means to help them then we would have done it.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
15 Oct 17
I hope you are not swayed by sentiment.I know how hard it is to live away from family for job reasons
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
14 Oct 17
I agree. There are instances that you have to say no. I have experienced that. My yes always depends on the situation. If they're loaning for not so important thing my answer is automatic no.
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
15 Oct 17
I am sorry to hear this about your friend.
And also sorry that people seem to think you are loaded..I understand..that you work very hard and indeed what you have is all you have..not rich.
I have experienced people such as that asking me also and for some odd reason, thinking I can spare it, when I cannot.
What I would do is reply nicely that I do not have the kind of cash to lend and sorry for their plight..that is what I would do.
@JudyEv (326602)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Oct 17
It's a shame that you are asked for loans. People sometimes have no idea about the real-life circumstances of others.
