NO Not The Eyes Again!
By Angie
@andriaperry (116860)
Anniston, Alabama
January 22, 2018 5:49pm CST
Once when I was in Jacksonville Beach, Florida for a vacation I walked into one of the small motels that was located right on the beach and an older Indian couple ( India) was at the check in desk, I asked " How much for a room? I need one for 3 days and nights.
They were sort of staring at me, then the man said " $90 per night." I replied " I`ll take it and handed him cash." He handed me the key and told me it was ocean front. Then he said "You have such kind eyes." and the woman with him nodded yes after he said that. I thanked them and went to crash I had just driven across the state.
He gave me a room right on the beach with no neighbors! I could look out the window and watch the tides. The room was not fancy but very clean and that is all that mattered to me.
Today.....
I did good all day not getting into waiting room conversations, enjoying my book. Until ... Tony spoke to this elderly gentleman in the oncologist waiting room, he came over and sat by Tony, started talking. They called Tony right back, no waiting for him, So....... that left me.
The poor old feller was lost, he said " Can I ask a few questions? This is new to us and we feel stupid."
Hook. Line. Sinker!
The one with the kind eyes!
I said " sure" and the conversation was on about cancer, Lung cancer. The treatment and what I have learned how to handle Tony`s pain without pills, how to manipulate them to eat and get up and go. All that. He talked a little about growing up in Iowa, catching walleye and picking mushrooms.
Then he left to go check on his wife.
Whew! I get to get back to my oncologist waiting room ritual, a chocolate bar and my book.
I had finished the chocolate and downed a few chapters of the novel when he came back. This time sitting right next to me 
Seems he started a discussion about religion in the infusion room, and with Tony. That is not good.
Because....
Now I am the target for this man to make me believe as he does, that I can handle by just agreeing and moving on. (Tony will argue you to death) what I cannot handle is someone sitting that close to me with stinking breath!
I leaned over as far as I could get, I was about to excuse myself to check on Tony when Tony walked out of the back.... Thank God! I jumped up and gathered my things from the seat on the other side of me, said my goodbyes and well wishes and took off.
My lesson is learned! Sit in the last chair and use the next one over for my purse, book and drink, and whatever else I dragged with me for the day.
I also need to pack sunglasses.
How was your day?
The poor old feller was lost, he said " Can I ask a few questions? This is new to us and we feel stupid."
Hook. Line. Sinker!
The one with the kind eyes!
I said " sure" and the conversation was on about cancer, Lung cancer. The treatment and what I have learned how to handle Tony`s pain without pills, how to manipulate them to eat and get up and go. All that. He talked a little about growing up in Iowa, catching walleye and picking mushrooms.
Then he left to go check on his wife.
Whew! I get to get back to my oncologist waiting room ritual, a chocolate bar and my book.
I had finished the chocolate and downed a few chapters of the novel when he came back. This time sitting right next to me
Seems he started a discussion about religion in the infusion room, and with Tony. That is not good.
Because....
Now I am the target for this man to make me believe as he does, that I can handle by just agreeing and moving on. (Tony will argue you to death) what I cannot handle is someone sitting that close to me with stinking breath!
I leaned over as far as I could get, I was about to excuse myself to check on Tony when Tony walked out of the back.... Thank God! I jumped up and gathered my things from the seat on the other side of me, said my goodbyes and well wishes and took off.
My lesson is learned! Sit in the last chair and use the next one over for my purse, book and drink, and whatever else I dragged with me for the day.
I also need to pack sunglasses.
How was your day?24 people like this
24 responses
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Jan 18
I don't have kind eyes. I have intimidating ones and people stay away from me coz they're too scared of me. 
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
LOL, that is just funny. I bet you do have kind eyes.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
How about a giant laptop? Maybe I should bring it with me 
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@rebelann (111164)
• El Paso, Texas
23 Jan 18
The problem with labtops is that people are more curious about them but cell phones they all know and for some reason they just don't bother you when you're texting or talking to a friend @andriaperry just fake it is all.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
@rebelann ;LOL I cant fake it for 2 hours.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
And it was old man bad, like he needed to bleach those dentures.,
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jan 18
@andriaperry I worked in an assisted living home, those dentures can really be gross.
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
23 Jan 18
I am approachable. I must look trustworthy. A few years ago when my daughter and I were stranded at JFK overnight....we had a woman traveling from India ask for the "room" beside us.....a young man, travelling from Australia asked for the "room" near our feet. Later a young girl from Saudi Arabia asked for our help in finding out where she had to go.
Why us, out of the thousands of people stranded that night?
You need to get into your book quickly....and then ignore the world around you.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
I am not sure about cows eyes but I think its the no fear showing that invites them.
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
22 Jan 18
I think if the man was observant enough and notice you brought along a novel, that meant you didn't want to be bothered with small talk and nothing could be a more turn off than having to face a person with bad breath. Ugh!
I use to tell religious fanatics before they start preaching religion to me that I was an atheist but that seem to encourage them more.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
He did not know the routine, the rest of us did and told him. I been doing this now for almost 2 years, I learn fast because I ask the medical staff a million questions. Some do not know to do that.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
24 Jan 18
@andriaperry I smile all the time, I should "wear" a grumpy mask.
I smile all the time, I should "wear" a grumpy mask.
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
23 Jan 18
Ugh, gross! I hate when people do that. I don't mind helping them if they need advice or something but I hate when they take it as an opportunity to plop down right next to me and strike up a conversation I'm not interested in having. And bad breath! That's the worse. My dad wears dentures and his breath always stinks. I hate sitting next to him and having him talk to me. I wonder how they can't notice how foul their breath is, or if they are aware of it at all.
I won't talk religion with anyone, especially not a stranger trying to convert me. I can be pretty rude when it comes to that.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
23 Jan 18
@andriaperry We've told him (many times -- my mom is always on him about it) and he ignores it. We also tell him he needs to wear deodorant and shower more often but he acts all offended. He's been talked to at work about his hygiene problems but he seems oblivious to it.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
I would tell my dad, or mom, so that could be fixed. I could not let my father walk around stinking,
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jan 18
My eyes get talked about, because they're a strange color. Do you wear contacts? I've heard that question about 100 times. When I'm in a waiting room, I love to read. A couple different times there was a mother with a child, reading a children's book out loud. So instead of reading, I just glanced through a magazine. There's always a TV on in one corner, usually set on the home remodeling show, which isn't too bad. I'd much rather bury my thoughts inside a very good story.
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jan 18
@shaggin Some of them are sick, so it's a comforting thing to hear a story.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
I wont get the contact question, cause I am usually putting the driving glasses away
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. People have this intuition to whom to talk to.
@misunderstood_zombie (8142)
• United States
23 Jan 18
@andriaperry I'm sure he was very scared and freaked out, but he should seek a professional with his questions and not a layman(I was going to say mortal, but I'm not sure you are a mortal with all the stuff you get done everyday).
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
LOL you are so funny!
The doctors do not talk about how bad the pain is, how the caretaker has to hear the cries of the cancer patient and does not know how to help. And, that is what I talk about, not treatment but care after the treatment.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
@misunderstood_zombie I have not seen nor heard about one.
@misunderstood_zombie (8142)
• United States
23 Jan 18
@andriaperry Too bad there isn't someone that can help them with that problem and just listen to them. It seems there would be a social worker or someone to help. Poor guy.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
Where I go there are not many children, if any.
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@PriscillaKing (53)
• Gate City, Virginia
23 Jan 18
Oh, the plague of the "face readers." They tend to think I look kind when what's actually going through my head is "how to edge away before a conversation starts," and look "fierce" when my interest finally is engaged. The mere thought of someone trying to read my face now puts me off. Who wants to get into a conversation where the rule is that one *must* be uninterested?
(Yes, it's a physical, to some extent even unconsciously racist thing. I have big brown eyes and heavy black eyebrows.)
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
@PriscillaKing Okay, my logical friend. But I am not cute nor pretty when angry. But Tony has dark brown eyes ( American Indian) and when he gets mad he looks down right scary.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
23 Jan 18
@andriaperry and now you have learned one more thing to sit in the corner and take up the seat next to you with your purse
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
In the almost 2 years I have learned a lot. I see many people over and over, I smile do the heys and we all move on. A few talk but not that much after they get use to the routine.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
23 Jan 18
Well that will teach you to have kind eyes lol! Wear sunglasses even in the waiting room!!
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
LOL, people would stay away, saying look at the freak.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jan 18
Yes it is.! I would not want to endure that again.
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
23 Jan 18
mine wasn't as fun as your day sounds
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