What if you know you are going to be stressed?
@GardenGerty (169489)
United States
March 15, 2018 10:01pm CST
Do you know that you will be stressed if something does not go your way?
If it is not an earthshaking problem, can you anticipate your reaction and calm yourself.
That is something I am trying to learn.
My kids I work with at school struggle with impulse control and managing their feelings. We try to teach them calming techniques they can do when they feel they are going out of control. We also ask them to use their words and talk about their feelings.
I have some "anticipating" going on. I have expectations of what our trip will be like. Some things are not working out as I had wanted or planned. I am trying to talk about it in advance so I can get over it, without having a melt down.
We can all learn to manage our expectations if we identify them and work with them.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
16 Mar 18
Stress and calming down is something many end up work on for many years.. im still working on it
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
It is a constant project, I know. I actually was doing this post as a way to help me with something I am irritated and disappointed about.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
16 Mar 18
@GardenGerty oh i got that. And i hope it helped
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
16 Mar 18
I am starting to learn the method of Taking a breath and saying, Get it done, fix it whatever the problem is, I don't like it but I have to deal with it. And it honestly does help. It is a little pessimistic, but then I know if the situation or whatever I am working on is over with, I can breath eagain and feel better. The most important thing is to just breathe.
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
It is hard sometimes, but does not have to be pessimistic. Of course when I was talking myself down last night I must admit, it was in a way. I was talking about all I would not get done.
@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
19 Mar 18
@GardenGerty It isn't hard to breathe. It is harder to stop breathing. If you talk yourself down, give yourself something to talk yourself up with. I have bipolar disorder so I am haunted with something telling me I cannot do something. Take a deep breath and just get a grip on the situation. Just keep breathing.
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
16 Mar 18
I have the same problem. I waste energy worrying about stuff that usually works out in the end. I just I'm living a life of having no control. It started with getting sick and everything that happened after that I really had no control over any part of my life. And part of the illness is depression and anxiety so it is hard and something I need to work on. I need to have more faith.
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
Faith helps for those who have it. Like you I am very much NOT in control of my life. We cannot control other people, or our health, or their health or their circumstances. That is what I need to remember, but sometimes my surroundings make me crazy. I have "heard" you say the same thing.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
17 Mar 18
I watch videos of microphones being brushed while wearing headset. For some unknown reason the goosebumps I felt from these videos relaxes me.
ASMR INTENSE Microphone Brushing with Hard Bristle Brush. One of my favorite trigger, Intense Strong Brushing Sounds. It makes me focus better, and fall asle...
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
17 Mar 18
Well that is something different I have never heard of. I can see how that is good.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
17 Mar 18
@GardenGerty for sure it is a weird concept, But I really find them relaxing and calming.
I also like virtual haircuts, the sound of the scissors also gives me goosebumps.
https://soundcloud.com/zennerforever/outthemix I hit 400,000 subscribers!! Unfortunately, this isn't a 'celebration' video.. Its a highly requested video tha...
@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
Yes, it is. Yet some of the things we stress about turn out okay in the end.
@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
16 Mar 18
I learned to do this a long time ago to calm myself before I had an asthma attack. It worked and now I use it to calm Tony when he cannot breathe.
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
That is very good. I am glad I do not have breathing issues. I get stressed about stuff and I do have to think about what is happening in my life and get it under control.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 18
Since I get depression many years ago, now I am trying to learn to cope with uncertainties that will makes me depress again.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
16 Mar 18
It is not an easy task, much less for children.
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@LadyDuck (502628)
• Italy
17 Mar 18
@GardenGerty I do, my husband stresses a lot and he is easily depressed. I do my best to show that everything is fine.
@Tampa_girl7 (54716)
• United States
16 Mar 18
I am also working on managing my stress.
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
Yes, I know we are surrounded by it. Some things are very major, others matter little, but our minds try to make them all equally important.
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@JudyEv (382324)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Mar 18
Good advice. It took me years to learn that many of the things I would get really anxious about mostly didn't happen. I had a sort of 'what if' mentality and if that got a good hold on a problem, the imagination kicked in with a whole heap of potential disasters.
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
Oh, yes it does that. Imagination is a tricky thing.
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@anikoonline (3250)
• Hungary
16 Mar 18
I read many articles about stress relief and I try to practice their tips. But I think I still have to work on this.
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
We must be aware and work on these things. When things do not go my way I tend to escalate.
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@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
16 Mar 18
Our stress is caused by our reactions to certain circumstances. We only need to change our perspective in dealing with them. I find that those who are really stressed are the ones who take life too seriously. They don't know how to laugh at their own folly.
Meditation always helps to reduce stress.
:-)
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
16 Mar 18
I am one who takes many things seriously. Somewhere along the line I have forgotten how to play.
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